girl says "intelligence is super sexy", then defines intelligent to mean "feeling empathy and social skills".

HumanSockPuppet · 2013-06-29T16:03:05+00:00

There's a key lesson here that I think is easy to miss.

We (smart men) spend a lot of time in our youths congratulating ourselves on our intelligence. Having been ostracized our entire lives for it, we rationalize that "other people are just too dumb to understand me."

Eventually, we build an entire identity around that intelligence. We value it more than anything else. We try and find ways to appear smarter than we actually are. We avoid taking risks that might make us look stupid. And we feel a tinge of gratification when someone fails and looks dumb nearby - because we appear smarter by comparison.

And it's fucking poisonous.

Remember how the popular dumb guys were all really good with women? That's because they had more social savy, more sensitivity to social cues, and less of an investment in their own egos and images of themselves. And as a result, they were more confident, more attractive, and better able to command respect among their peers.

Ever notice how the nerds ended up getting jobs which are basically positions of subservience? Even if they're well-paid, they're never jobs which people raise eyebrows at. They're not job titles which make pussies tingle.

But people with good social skills? They become the leaders, investers, and architects of civilization.

Social skills are a greater predictor of success and prestige than intelligence, because civilization is a social contest. And beyond a certain threshold, intelligence is actually counter-productive, because smart people have a harder time sympathizing and cooperating with people of lower "intelligence".

In the end, what is intelligence really? Intelligence, in my opinion, is synonymous with the word "magic". Being a computer scientist, I've noticed that whenever we get machines to do something that humans have done, we just call it an algorithm. But as we develop increasingly sophisticated algorithms that let machines do more complicated tasks, we always conveniently push the boundary of intelligence just a little father away - so that we can imagine ourselves to be unique creatures, rather than machines made of blood, and bone, and meat, and dust. But one of these days, machines will be able to do almost everything, and intelligence will have no where else to hide - except in the realm of the social and the arbitrary.

When a woman says she wants a guy with social skills, it's one of the few times she's speaking both truthfully and factually.

Game is your solution. The Red Pill is your guide. Shed your ego, and harness your intelligence to win the social game.

soapjackal · 2013-06-29T07:44:20+00:00

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anra · 2013-06-29T06:36:45+00:00

tl;dr game is sexy.

angelothewizard · 2013-06-29T11:12:13+00:00

If this was Dungeons and Dragons, i'd tell her she confused Intelligence with Charisma and therefore confused a Wizard with a Bard. Although, considering Bards are usually lying bastards, I can see how you'd mix the two classes up!

Moxiecontin · 2013-06-29T16:47:47+00:00

This reminds of this girl I hung out with for a few weeks on a backpacking trip. I humored her a bit on some interpersonal relationship BS she wanted to talk about. Basically I just listened and went "uh-huh" with a tid-bit of insight here and there. Then she said "it is so nice to be able to talk to a guy who can have intelligent conversations." I was dumbfounded. The conversations we were having were so far away from what an intelligent conversation actually is, that I couldn't believe she had uttered those words. I don't think girls understand what an actual intelligent conversation entails.

2013-06-29T11:14:33+00:00

i'm so grateful i unsubscribed from /r/askwomen and /r/askmen. I didn't realize it then, but I was being brainwashed into a dumb beta who existed to be a slave to women's desires

2013-06-29T11:18:46+00:00

Being able to discuss ideas of English and art

Urghhh

I study a STEM subject and things like the hard sciences and mathematics massively draw from creative thought and at the same time art and literature require hugely rigorous thought. So many women just want to look cultured and sophisticated, to other people. I mean would that girl really be able to discuss art or literature with someone who had devoted a lot of time to studying those fields?

I'm aware I've missed the main point of the thread which is a girl rationalising her attraction to men with game by calling this intelligence.

incraved · 2013-06-29T10:51:52+00:00

I always laughed when I heard a woman saying "I like smart guys". Of course, you do ! Except smart in your book means socially smart and not necessarily intelligent.

r_rships_account · 2013-06-29T07:43:00+00:00

There are different types of intelligence, the type she is referring to is interpersonal intelligence- the ability to understand and interact with people.

RNAofYouListening · 2013-06-29T13:01:33+00:00

Make no mistake, women think power is sexy. Intelligence is nothing in a vaccuum, but it can be used to accrue power (through wealth, through ingenuity, through one becoming well-respected or irreplaceable in their chosen discipline).

Ronfar · 2013-06-29T10:00:29+00:00

About a month ago I went out with a cheeky bitch of a girl (she constantly shit-tested me the whole night) who at one point blurted: "Oh you're not as smart as you think you are!" My response was to go into explaining the diference between special and general relativity. Clueless, she humped back and annoyingly said "hmph! You just learnt that in a book!" She then went on to explain what she thought was 'intelligence', which sounded very similar to what the girl in the post you posted said.

I haven't bothered with her since.

However to be fair, there are some very intelligent engaging women out there, which is actually a trait I admire. It's just a rarity to come across. In fact I've had some of the most deep and intelligent conversations on life, philosophy, politics and science with a girl.

It's just a lot of the rest that believe that intelligence is something other then the kind that helps you build bridges or advances civilisation.

2013-06-29T12:59:49+00:00

She Xboxed 180ed.

biscaine_214 · 2013-06-29T14:26:06+00:00

Translation:

"intelligence is sexy" -> "I want to bang an alpha who wears glasses"

MdPhdVictor · 2013-06-29T15:53:27+00:00

Well I consider myself to be pretty smart every I.Q. test I have taken puts me over 135 (High score= 145). And well lying for me is incredibly easy it's not something to be proud of but it certainly is useful when the need arrives. My point is this girl has probably met smart men that manipulated her without her even knowing it probably for weeks at a time. This is supported by several articles that support the point that the smarter someone is the easier it is to lie and the dumber you are, the more gullible and easy prey you become. Maybe she finds this smart men charming...

Moreyouknow · 2013-06-29T18:28:52+00:00

I find it funny that empathy for women seems to fall into the realm of patriarchy nonsense. Which is affirmative action that doesn't even work well for minorities.

Title	girl says "intelligence is super sexy", then defines intelligent to mean "feeling empathy and social skills".
Author	anra
Upvotes	42
Comments	76
Date	June 29, 2013 5:43 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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