I get jealous when I see my girl talking to other guys

900_year_old_vampire · 2019-04-23T11:59:31+00:00

this goes away as you get older. every women you ever see anywhere, literally all of them, have had lots of partners. they can have as many as they want at any given time. theyre gona have more in the future. they have tons of orbiters. other men want them, and are gona try to get them. theyre gona have lots of options. just get over it. if you cant, be pragmatic instead.. ask yourself, how do you benefit from having an emotional reaction to that information? when you realize that you dont benefit from it at all, getting over it becomes aligned with acting in self interest.

either way just stop caring. its something you gotta allow if you want women to desire you

MisplacedSanityP · 2019-04-23T11:56:21+00:00

She's not your girl. You have oneitis. Gain an abundance mindset.

Yashugan00 · 2019-04-23T12:43:55+00:00

You still think you own her, or have any right to her time.

These are things you cannot claim, they have to be offered freely to you.

And the only way to do that is to work on yourself and be a man worthy of admiration

(note: i do mean admiration, not love)

Any mate guarding will trigger in her, her natural instinct to seek out a another mate, this is only natural as you are abasing yourself in the mate competition. She, not being a male, is very bad at judging true male hierarchies, she can only judge this through the mirror of male behavior towards one another. And here you are signalling you feel threatened by other males, so naturally they must be higher than you.

That's the theory, in practice, you will soon find that the phrase: "She's not yours, it's just your turn" works in your favor too. The benefits for men are many: you don't need to offer ANY commitment to get sex in this day an age.

Flirt with other girls and do it openly and without shame. Seeing the interest of other girls will do two things: raise your own estimation of you in your and her mind. When she inevitably strays / finds herself / lives live fully / explores other cultures / experiences traveling, you'll have a few backups ready to jump in. (and she'll know it)

BurnoutRS · 2019-04-23T12:29:02+00:00

go talk to another girl, you'll stop thinking about it

anon1moos · 2019-04-23T12:43:51+00:00

She’s not even your gf, what is there to be jealous about?

cafeitalia · 2019-04-23T14:04:47+00:00

You are beta in a way you have feelings for her that is the reason of your insecurities. Receiving blowjobs in alleys by a 19 year old is not red pill. She is 19 years old, she will guide herself to a dick no matter where the place is no matter what the situation is. You probably are not as red pill as you think you are. Know that she is 19, she wants dick, yours and possible other guys. Realize you have developed a oneitis for her and work on that part, after the realization start working on yourself. Read, write, exercise, travel, volunteer, find your purpose.

[deleted] · 2019-04-23T12:54:21+00:00

the solution is to lift.

Roid96 · 2019-04-23T13:38:33+00:00

Maybe you're insecure?

resnine · 2019-04-23T13:46:24+00:00

you are purple pill.

_the_shape_ · 2019-04-23T16:41:36+00:00

What should I do? What can I do?

What is preventing you from talking to other girls?

HurricaneHugues · 2019-04-23T17:05:53+00:00

Is she your fwb or your gf? If She's not your gf, why are u not talking to other girls?

Also, you're both 19, you're kids. You're barely growing into yourselves and your bodies. It's the age of exploration andbself discovery. Women at that age are way too volatile. Don't commit. Play the field instead.

Sylvester_Sterone · 2019-04-23T21:17:55+00:00

How will you react when she tells you she is going with the girls on Spring Break? What about a summer trip to Vegas?

Project_Zero_Betas · 2019-04-23T23:39:07+00:00

She's not in a relationship with you, why would you expect her NOT talk to other guys? If it bothers you that much, say you want her to be your GF.

mallardcove · 2019-04-23T14:53:05+00:00

How much are you dead lifting these days?

Title	I get jealous when I see my girl talking to other guys
Author	yeahhhhhhman
Upvotes	6
Comments	17
Date	April 23, 2019 11:53 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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