What can a teenage girl do to prepare for dating?

sywonsmumu · 2019-05-10T18:41:03+00:00

Don't take it too seriously in highschool. Do fun and light-hearted things with them so you won't be jaded, if it lasts then great, if not then that's great too.

Go to the movies, park, mall, or whatever with them and just date. You'll can get jaded or hurt at any age if you invest too much. If you invest too much while being too young, then it may hurt more.

As for becoming more feminine I would say invest time in yourself in terms of health (physical and mental) and beauty. Do things that interest you, eat healthier things, and don't fall into the crowd of binge drinking and sleeping around in highschool. This is a fun time to learn about yourself and what you like, so cultivate it.

kittxxn · 2019-05-10T18:50:19+00:00

A really great post for teenage girls popped up recently. I'm not sure if you've seen it, but I think it has great advice.

I think the problem with being too committed too early in life (I know from personal experience) is that you don't know yet who you are, and relationships have a way of molding people. You can fall into a trap of becoming the person you think you should be for the person you're with. You can begin to identify as so-and-so's girlfriend, instead of you, which makes breakups very difficult and requires redefining who you want to be.

I don't think anyone is advising you not to go on dates, just not to commit too young and especially not to put out too young. What I advise you to do in terms of learning about boys or men is to just go on dates. Once you and your peers have more independence and can drive, it's easy to go for a coffee with a guy, or to school dances, or to sport events. Let your parents meet and know the guys you spend time with, because if they have a bad feeling about someone, they usually have a good reason.

But your number one priority right now should be developing yourself, your interests, skills, hobbies, and yes, your education. Do you know what you want to do after you graduate? Where you want to live? What type of person you want to be?

If you want to someday be a wife and have a somewhat traditional marriage, find older women who you look up to and demonstrate the traits you want to cultivate. This might be a mom, grandparent, neighbor, someone at church, whatever. For example, my mom is not at all feminine, but I learned to bake and sew at a young age from my swedish grandmother, and still call her up to discuss recipes and tips. I had a babysitter when I was young who I've kept in touch with, who has a wonderful marriage, and I would ask her lots of questions about love and marriage and her own journey in life.

Maybe ask your mom or whoever usually cooks meals if you can cook for the family once or twice a week. I also started doing this in high school. I also made a garden outside my bedroom window when I was around 14, which was so much fun to tend to and attempt to cultivate beauty. I also kept a gratitude journal when I was younger that made a significant difference in my attitude toward life compared to many of my peers who fell into a habit of complaining all the time. I don't know you or what you enjoy doing, but hobbies like these will greatly influence your development into a feminine graceful woman than computer games or browsing instagram 7 hours a day.

Best of luck to you and take care of yourself. Cherish your youth, nourish your body, and be kind to the boys around you. One day they might become men.

c_a_l_m · 2019-05-11T02:26:59+00:00

Ctrl-F "father"

If your dad is in your life, he is a rare beast among men as far as you are concerned, as a man who will drop everything to help you, but doesn't have sex complicating things. Pay careful attention to him---the things that he does, the things that he says, etc. Ask him why he thinks what he thinks.

sweetcatpiss · 2019-05-10T21:41:24+00:00

Hi there, 25 year old here with a lot of experience.

While you're a teenager the only thing to do with guys is to observe and just learn.

Okay so one of the things that I realized is that as you go through your twenties, you never feel like a teenager ever again. So I would say enjoy the experience. Immerse yourself, and during this immersion - you're right - observe and learn.

In my teens, my goal was to have a serious relationship. I had a serious bf for three years. We were good with each other's families. However towards the end of those three years, I realized how much more there was for me to experience. Besides, we never had any solid plans, so I kind of lost motivation towards the end.

the more boyfriends you have the more jaded you become.

this is absolutely true. falling in love can feel as sweet, still, but you end up feeling that it's most likely going to fail like your last.

How do I learn about guys when it's bad to date so many people?

Take it slow. Don't give too much. Don't move in right away. Don't make promises too quickly. I know it can be so exciting, but in hindsight, I should've used my brakes more often. I probably didn't even use them to begin with.

My advice to you is be a little like my mom. She didn't date a lot of men, lost her virginity on her wedding night, had good taste in fashion, learned how to cook, learned how to decorate a house, and got a dental degree and license all before she became a married mother.

She also knows how to crochet and make cross-stitch portraits!

Of course you can have your own version of this, but it all boils down to having actual skills, expertise, and investing on yourself as a "worthy" individual.

I wish you the best!

yazidblc · 2019-05-11T00:57:59+00:00

Try to not take too much dicks. Would probably jeopardize an hypothetical serious relationship.

immaculacy · 2019-05-13T06:37:00+00:00

Don't give him sex unless he marries you.

Ppptrrrr · 2019-05-10T19:02:32+00:00

I think a healthy trait to increase femininity and relationship success - that people tend to overlook - is genuinely caring for others. Being warm and kind to people, whether kids, friends, or strangers, is a great start. Treat everyone with kindness and respect. I don't consider myself attractive, but I have been told by potential dates (though I didn't date until after college) that they highly considered dating me (for months and even years for some) because of how easy it was for them to talk to me, and they genuinely liked to see me happy. They also saw my positive interaction with kids and animals as a huge plus.

I wouldn't worry so much about dating; the guys you meet now might not be interested in even THINKING about settling down in the distant future. I'd focus on honing your interests outside of dating. Education is a must, whether in a job or a college. This ensures you'll be smart enough to handle finances no matter your relationship status. Healthy cooking/cleaning/mending skills aren't only for women in relationships - those skills benefit everyone, single or taken, including men who can do these things.

I think you're on the right track. Try focusing on becoming more well- rounded in your career/homemaking skills. Financial independence can be a great thing to strive for. Just remember, if you're like me, you'll want to share that independence with another person. Be honest about your intention to eventually be married. Some men will try to shame you for it, but all that means is that they're not your marriage material.

Beeswaxed · 2019-05-11T04:52:20+00:00

Good books:

"surrendered single"

"why men love bitches"

When it comes to sex, if you can't have a conversation about sex and all of its possible consequences, you are not mature enough to be having sex (is a good rule of thumb). If you can't have a sitdown conversation with the guy you are with, and talk about pregnancy, STIs, buying condoms, sharing the burden of birth control etc. then you should not be having sex.

Let guys do stuff for you and give stuff to you. Let them pay for dinner. Don't feel like you owe them anything other than your company, just because they brought you to a movie does not mean you owe them a kiss if you aren't feeling it, and do not tolerate guilt trips.

Don't lead people on. The attention is nice, but it's not a good thing to do.

Once you are dating, don't trash talk your man to your girlfriends. Stay supportive. Don't bitch about all the shitty things he does to you. Be respectful. Men value respect above all else. Read posts about this, this sub is a gold-mine. Go through the sidebar, and read and absorb everything. Go through the top posts and absorb everything.

Read up on emotional abusive techniques, so that you have some groundwork and can sense things which are not right in a relationshi[p. Really educate yourself on this.

Be confident. It is the sexiest thing you can do.

Become interesting, focus on yourself. Pursue interests. Do well in school. Exercise and stay in shape.

LateralThinker13 · 2019-05-16T13:51:10+00:00

Find a book on home skills and learn them. They've fallen out of favor for kids (both genders) these days, but knowing all the various home skills, from cooking to cleaning to changing a tire, are highly valuable and will make you competent and confident without making you masculine or helpless.

Title	What can a teenage girl do to prepare for dating?
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Date	May 10, 2019 6:06 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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