I noticed a lot of guys here are posting here are either beginners in the anger phase or enjoying different plates. That's great, I think everyone needs to spin a few (hundred) plates in their lifetime. But let's say you find one girl that you are just fixated on, not oneitis, but you're thinking you want to be monogamous for the time being. I want to remind you all that it's a whole different animal to do a LTR and you need to remember TRP.
The biggest weapon you have in your arsenal is dread. With plates you just cut them off and move to the next one so you don't worry about the girl. A LTR is different. Your SO needs to be aware that if she crosses certain lines you are going to kick her to the curb. This is the difference between a girl treating you like a doormat after six months or a girl vacuuming your apartment while you post on /r/TheRedPill. Maintaining dread will stop a majority of the bitchy shit tests before they start. The other way to indirectly maintain dread is to keep your value high. Always stay in shape and dress sharp, even if she "loves you for you". She is always judging you.
The second backup weapon is to always have orbiters. It's much easier to hold form if you have a backup girl in place. I had one SO in a LTR tell me she didn't like how the relationship was going, dumped her right away over the phone and went to another girl that weekend. I didn't even have time to miss the girl (though she sure missed me). Then when the next girl decided to shit test me a ton, I left her for the next backup. It's the difference between the feeling of living paycheck to paycheck and having a big nest egg. Keep orbiters.
And don't ever treat a girl like a princess. The 2/3 rule applies in LTRs as much as your plates. I'll do nice things for a girl, but only after she does something for me. When a girl I was with bought me new shoes and new clothes, I was happy to get her some things in return, but buying excessive gifts for a girl is wasteful and counterproductive. It will only make her expect you to be a "buyfriend". Buyfriends are to women what fuck&chuck plates are to men.
Lastly, shoot down shit tests right away. Almost every girl will do this over the course of a LTR. It will come up every once in a while as the girl decides to test you. After a while it gets to be amusing. The girl will learn to respect you if you shoot her down, but if you give into her shit tests then you'll eventually be in a relationship hell wondering what happened to the old "alpha" version of yourself.
I know these lessons because after being successful with plates I got into one LTR and broke frame. It sucked and I had to end the relationship because the girl stopped respecting me. I learned my lesson and by holding form, every month or longer relationship since then has been fantastic for me.
Anyway good luck out there men. Spin plates as long as you can but if you ever decide to do a LTR remember the red pill applies just as much if not more.
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