How do i not end up killing myself?

Trip-trader · 2019-06-07T19:13:19+00:00

Ok from someone who suffered massive anxiety and depression most of my life that then achieved your goals of financial success. Here are my tips.

How is your sleep? Cause depression can often be caused by bad quality sleep, sleep apnea, staying up late, having interruptions in sleep, using phones before bed. Bad sleep quality will make anyone depressed. Bad sleep will give you bad anxiety.
You can’t learn shit when your depressed as fuck. It wrecks your memory and motivations too. Try to fix your depression as priority #1. Cause your not going anywhere in study with that monkey holding your brain hostage.
Are you exercising? Getting out for walks? Your body needs to move and work up a sweat to help make your brain work better and feel better. If your not exercising then you must exercise daily 30-60 mins to start kicking that depression to the curb. A 30 min brisk walk is all you need to start.
Everything sucks when your depressed, remember this is not you, it’s a temporary state of your body and it will pass. It takes time don’t be too hard on yourself. But do treat your body right so your brain heals.
You are following a path that can lead to a very good job. And it’s the sort of job you can work remotely with too. Keep at it. I know multiple web developers who have even semi retired from starting their own side businesses that did well. And others have good work freedom. Good luck and stay far away from SNRI’s, SSRI’s are ok, but SNRI’s are pure evil drugs that can make things far worse.

FereallyRed · 2019-06-07T16:42:23+00:00

"Wanna be rich, don't wanna work."

Fuck off you entitled child.

mytime55 · 2019-06-07T16:38:25+00:00

If you find web development as hard as you say you do..... it's a bad idea to study computer science

infamous3238 · 2019-06-07T16:25:28+00:00

Start with going back to work and moving out of mommy’s basement. You can study web development in your free time, but living with your parents is holding you back.

Almost every post I see on here about someone who is suicidal or depressed is a male in his 20s who has had his hand held by his parents his entire life and was never forced to become an adult. Grow up, move out, get a shit service job if you have to, and stop leaning on your parents and antidepressant medication to get you through life.

acp_rdit · 2019-06-07T16:55:17+00:00

Advice would be much appreciated

Stop being a whiny little bitch

O--- · 2019-06-07T16:46:08+00:00

>22, living with mom, quit my dental tehnician job 5 months ago cause i was miserable and the pay was garbage, went 4 months with 0 pay.

Now you know that wasn't a smart decision.

>Im learning web development atm and this shit is gruesomely hard. So far all i can study is 2 hours per day without wanting to end myself. I allso have to study c++ to get into computer science colege next month, now that shit doesnt stick AT ALL.

Getting good at things is hard as fuck. It's supposed to suck at times. Your only options are to keep going and to eventually get better, or to give up. There's no formula.

>Im currently under medication for depression and anxiety and i Will probably not end my life. But i need something, some form of hope, ive studied for 5 hours today, i cant remember anything ive "learned".

How's life other than studying? Do you sleep eight hours per day? Do you eat healthy meals three times a day? Do you gtt out of the house every day? Do you lift? Is your room thoroughly cleaned? If the answer tends to be no, it will help yourself a ton if you got your shit together.

>My goal în life îs to become financially well enough that i dont have to work, or work as little as possible,

That's lazy as fuck. Kick yourself on the ass until comfortably sitting at home and studying sounds like a blessing.

Vouch33r · 2019-06-07T16:52:47+00:00

Don't worry brother, things get a little rough for us all one time or the other. If you really struggle with learning how to program I'd recommend you to really rethink if you want to scrape through for the next 3 or 5 years doing shit you might start hating and getting a figurative knife up your throat in the form of grades and tests. If you have been working anyway I'd say you should save up like 80% of your income monthly (you live for free I assume or give some for the bills, you might eat for free?) and just survive it for 3-4 months. Then you could go out into the world and rent a place. Double fun - you can go anywhere to settle, let your imagination loose. Sometimes we all feel pushed to the wall but remember that you are really young. Enjoy your day to day life. As cliche as it gets - try to understand me - live in the present. Get the paycheck and earn some money, maybe go for a trip for a week, deload, and then just slowly start your life anew. Step by step, like building a LEGO castle that just crumbled apart in your hands again. Go out and get a sip of fresh air. Nowadays living in poverty you are situated better than the kings 700 years ago. Please remember that we need really little to survive. And surviving through a day is what matters in the end, isn't it? After you nail surviving then you can think of improving your life standards.

Now now, I digest a bit. But I understand where your problems might be coming from. I say free yourself brother, many problems will perish instantly when you're free. More duties give you more freedom. The biggest one I will say right now for you is to become independent when it comes down to the roof over your head. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe you REALLY want to study hard. That's okay, you know it the best in the end. If you have a worse day please do not hesitate to PM.

iknowthewhey · 2019-06-07T17:30:18+00:00

You can only study 2 hours a day without being severely depressed, clearly this isn't the job for you.

Just do some research and spend some time trying to figure out what you want to do. Try to get a job for now you don't hate just to save some money and spend a lot of time figuring out the best course for yourself.

Most important thing you can do is go to the gym and lift some weights.

ATLASV551 · 2019-06-07T17:36:38+00:00

Join the Army

tino125 · 2019-06-07T18:11:46+00:00

Get your test levels checked. If you're depressed and anxious and your brain isn't functioning right it could absolutely be hormonal.

Lukas1339 · 2019-06-07T19:33:15+00:00

It surprises me how everyone and theyr mother think that computer sciences is some kind of holy grail.

Dump that californian silicon valley dream and go do something outside, like drive a truck, work at the construction or sales, be a fireman, policeman.... Whatever.... Be a part of some sort of team, doesnt matter if its sports or carrier orientated, sitting in front of a computer when you are depressed aint gonna help you

CarlosNeedsAHat · 2019-06-07T17:17:05+00:00

Nothing ever seems to go my way

Because you don't do jack shit except sit on your ass.

My goal in life is to become financially well enough that I don't have to work, or work as little as possible

That's not a goal. That's an outcome. A goal is something tangible that you can work towards. Losing 20 pounds. Running a 5K. Getting a professional certification.

Let's say genie snaps his fingers and you get $500,000 deposited in your bank account overnight. Now what? What are you going to fill your time with? What's fun; what's challenging; what do you want to accomplish in your life? Whatever the answer to that question is, start working towards that now. Because if you just sit on your fat ass, it won't matter if you have money, you'll still be depressed and miserable. But once you have some real accomplishments under your belt, it becomes easier to build more, and it becomes easier to make money and attract women, too.

thenewyorkmind · 2019-06-07T17:04:47+00:00

Lol I’m glad I didn’t quit practicing my skills back when I felt like it was just hard & pointless. I wouldn’t have the results that I have with me today. It’s natural to have these depressive feelings but they are what make you better at the end of the road.

RX0II · 2019-06-07T17:05:00+00:00

My goal în life îs to become financially well enough that i dont have to work, or work as little as possible, i just have no idea how to achieve this, nothing ever seems to go my way.

You have to do everything differently, starting with how your terrible spelling and grammar. If you don't write "don't," employers aren't going to take you seriously.

I allso have to study c++ to get into computer science colege next month, now that shit doesnt stick AT ALL.

You are looking for spaced repetition software like Anki.

quit my dental tehnician job 5 months ago cause i was miserable and the pay was garbage, went 4 months with 0 pay.

Don't quit one job without having another lined up.

ive studied for 5 hours today, i cant remember anything ive "learned".

Five hours is not a lot.

abstractbarista · 2019-06-07T18:15:54+00:00

Look into financial independence. You'll need to develop strategy and persistence but you can do this.

voluntarygang · 2019-06-07T19:21:15+00:00

How do you expect to have financial freedom if you don't understand money. Instead of studying computer science study money and economics, figure out what is a good money and figure out how crap the fraudulent fiat money is that you are willing to slave for day in day out every week until you retire. Start here: https://youtu.be/vowbrq_g5NM

Once you gain an understanding that you are being robbed blind through inflation you can start making better financial decisions and who knows, maybe even reach that elusive financial freedom you desire regardless what occupation you end up pursuing in the end.

HumanSockPuppet · 2019-06-07T20:55:41+00:00

Embracing the suck is what men do. This is manhood right here, junior.

Do what you have to do to get to where you want to be.

xrayguccishades · 2019-06-07T22:51:33+00:00

If you find web development as hard as you say you do..... it's a bad idea to study computer science

Whoever said this is dumb. Web dev is very hard. It is an accessible area of Computer Science true, but there is a learning curve and how difficult it is depends on your prior experience with the technology / programming. Coding is fun when you are working towards something. I know you are working to elevate your life, but that goal is too big picture. To make things fun you need some project you are working on. Are you in the process of building a website right now?

You will not master something by only studying it especially programming. You must test out your knowledge constantly by actually writing software. Code / read for 5 hours then you can think about the code you wrote rather than stuff you might remember from a book. It's also more fun that way. Computer Science is hard. It's even harder if you're not passionate about it / don't enjoy the process. I suggest continue on this path but don't hesitate to look into other options as well if you start to feel it's not making you happy. Also don't think it comes easy, people become great through struggle.

Mr-Ed209 · 2019-06-07T23:49:43+00:00

Pah i trained as a dental technician in my younger days, i can see why you want to kill yourself.

You think your life is shit.. because it kind of is.

If i were you i'd go have some fun and adventure. Go work some odd jobs in some odd and interesting places. Meet people, meet girls. Give yourself time to figure shit out, while earning enough money to live in some shared house, and keep your parents off your back. In a years time you might be having too much fun, and actually have the contentment to analyse your options rationally.

Stupyyy · 2019-06-08T19:23:18+00:00

Know it will get better with time.

Glenn_Buterol · 2019-06-10T01:11:44+00:00

Honesty an interesting concept I heard from the artist David Choe is mark this date on a calendar and give yourself a full year aka. 365 days. If after a full year you still feel the exact same, fuck it, kill yourself, not everyone is meant to live happy fulfilling lives.

What you'll notice is 99% of people will feel better. Dont make an irrational decision on a temporary feeling; you're not a chick with period hormones. With the likes of social media, our perception is skewed to assume everyone is leading amazing lives... they aren't. Keep at it, nothing worth it comes easy and the harder something is the more it's worth in the end

Title	How do i not end up killing myself?
Author	necropoly
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Date	June 7, 2019 4:18 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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