TRP for the older guys: "Eh, Where's all the broads at?"

Summary: For us older dudes, the women are literally everywhere if you pay attention.

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I thought I'd do a few posts about TRP for the older gentlemen. A lot of TRP and AskTRP seems to focus on the youngsters - clubs and school and text game sort of thing. But I'm seeing a few men of my age posting too, often coming out of marriage or an LTR and starting to wake up to TRP.

This post reflects the start of my journey into the details of TRP.

Back in Chicago before I moved to the mountains, I'd go to this tavern in the suburbs where certain older Italian gentlemen would hang out. Every time I was there this old-timer would pull his DeVille up front, walk in the door, and shout, "Eh, where's all the broads at?" no matter who was there. It was comical that this old guy was still out Sarging.

Fast forward, now I'm that older Italian dude. Fifty-three years old, living in the mountains in a small, *very* liberal city that has about zero manly men left in it (future post ...)

Who am I:

Short version, I did 15+ years of marriage to a wonderful woman who had horrible health issues (my current mission is writing a book for spouses of those suffering chronic pain); then eight years with another wonderful woman. But at the end of that in 2017, I wanted something different. I wanted variety, I wanted different women, I didn't want a long term relationship. I wanted to "make myself a better man" while also living alone and independent.

But also, I've never been a one night stand guy. I thought it would be nice to have a few women rotating at a time with whom I can hike, go to a ball game, out to dinner, and also have kick-ass sex with; but also not be bothered living with, feeling obligated to do things with, or "take it to the next level."

That's the kind of person I am, so my advice is not for older guys looking to hook up.

So where's all the broads at:

Being "single" for the first time in years, and in a new city, one of the first things I did was try to figure out where all the single women were. I don't like late nights in bars; clubs are not even a consideration. I plugged into the internet "where to meet older women" and got shit like "join a group doing your hobby" (hiking alone - nope) or "go to hotel bars".

My favorite was "at the grocery store" and every time I would go to the store to meet women, the only people there were other gray-haired dudes wandering aimlessly around wondering where all the broads were at.

But I've been getting laid all this time, so how did this happen if my overt efforts weren't working:

First off, I'm in great shape and getting better (I started lifting heavy again in January); I'm a good looking, sociable and funny guy, professional, no ex-wife chasing alimony, no kids. I have cool hobbies (I teach yoga as a mission, camp, hike, have some great travel stories); and I'm comfortable going out alone which impresses women for some reason.

To women 40+ in a city filled with sissies, I'm the unicorn.

Here's where I've been meeting the women. Some I've closed and fucked, some were just number closes that I never followed up on, some were just flirting incidents that I didn't even bother to number close but I list to show my point. The thing is, I can do two relationships at one time. I did four last summer and it was tedious and tiring. I've never had zero women on the roster since last April and I'm literally not even trying.

Racking up a high N count isn't my thing. Quality over quantity.

Finally, the answer to where all the broads are at:

Everywhere.

Every time I went out "to meet women" I've met zero women. None. Not even an approach situation.

And then I started paying attention just generally to women, and discovered the women were throwing themselves at me. Often it would be subtle, some were overt.

K: We had common interests on Insta and she followed my yoga page. She sends me a FB message, "what do you know about tantric yoga?" as her first text. She was a sweety, 2nd date close.

L: Literally ran across a local cidery, smiling and waving at me, to introduce herself. She was hanging out with her totally-not-gay-big-and-soft ex boyfriend who was helping her look for men. We danced. She liked my smile, she said. And she made me smile for almost six months (she would periodically break up with me because she wanted monogamy and I wouldn't play)

E: Met at a networking event. Asked her for drinks. Never closed but had a few fun dates. I went Blue pill with her, but frankly wasn't super interested, inasmuch as I had two others on the roster at the time. But I had fun with her and that's what was important to me out of that relationship.

S: Walking the dog in our same apartment complex. She was in her 20's, super sweet, super hot fuck. But her shit tests were more than I was willing to put up with (another post - older women v. younger women shit tests ...)

K: Networking event. Caught her at just the right time - about to leave her alcoholic husband, hadn't been laid in a year. She made me dinner last night, takes me to concerts and comedy shows, always tries to lock me down for the next date on the current date. But a sweet woman.

C: Lives in the same apartment complex (I know ...). Sweet girl, always defers to me when it comes to going out. Mid-'40s, she asked me "am I your little girl?" the first time we messed around. Likes to be choked.

Other meets have been:

• In line at the grocery store
• At local drinking holes. Chatted up a chick a few weeks ago, tried to number close but she was on a "date" (tinder no doubt) and "didn't think it appropriate" to give out her number while on a date. She turned up in a yoga class I was subbing three weeks later at random.
• Hiking in the woods - number close, met for drinks, I'm undecided if I want to go further b/c I already have two on the current active roster.
• Staff at the doctor's office; she always gives me tons of IOIs and asks me about single life (she's married, but I don't care). Taking my time with her but will definitely close soon.
• At the bike track. Great chatting her up, totally forgot to ask her number!
• At the yoga studio (that one's a tough pickup that I haven't tried yet - shit where I eat sort of thing)
• At local social / meetup events (not mingles events, more like a social / business networking) (the other day a cute young one who is new in town asks me "When are you going to take me out for a drink?")
• An older model was literally pinching my ass and feeling my muscles at a networking event the other day. Not sure if I want to close on her, she's not a great looker but would probably be a fun lay.

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Conclusion: The main thing for the older guys is, always be on the lookout, but don't always be looking. Women can be overt when they want, but subtle if they want too. For us older high value gents the broads are all around us.