I keep getting jealous when I hear about other people having sex?

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June 26, 2019
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I'm not an incel, I am quite attractive but had lots of beta conditioning and grew up omega. I'm working on improving that. I'm not a virgin either. I'm young (21 year old). lay count is low though. only 2.

Now the thing is, i just feel pangs of jealousy and sadness when i hear about other people hooking up. I went to a pre-drinks recently with my sister's older friends (sister is 28F, friends 28F too. not attracted to them btw) and they were talking about hookups they had. I just felt pangs of jealousy, that I wanted to be that ''Chad'' who gets talked about.

I then met up with some friends from uni (not in uni anymore) and they spoke about a hookup they had.

it just seems so casual for people. i feel like there is something wrong with me sometimes. i end up feeling jealous of people who have sex, those my age and even those older than me.

why do i have such strong jealousy? i am aware and self-conscious of it.

also i don't drink alcohol so can't do club or party hookups.


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Title I keep getting jealous when I hear about other people having sex?
Author throwawayboyfriend5
Upvotes 69
Comments 96
Date 26 June 2019 11:17 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/243427
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/c5ol2p/i_keep_getting_jealous_when_i_hear_about_other/
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[–]onpuzzle118 points119 points  (3 children) | Copy

Why do you have such strong jealousy? Because you're not having access to something that you wish, that other people have access to. Work on yourself and the gates shall open.

[–]TooManyThots3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Unless you're ugly

[–]onpuzzle2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Plenty ugly people getting laid. They just need to work more on the other aspects of their lives

[–]TooManyThots1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ugly people fucking other ugly people. It will be hard to get girls others would respect you for.

[–]AloofusMaximus39 points40 points  (12 children) | Copy

You're not jealous, you're envious. Go put your dick in a few other humans and those feelings will go away.

[–] points  (23 children) | Copy

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[–]johnson8420 1 points [recovered]  (20 children) | Copy

i recently ate out a fat bitch on tinder. she didnt let me enter her. she was so fat, for a second there it felt like i was going to throw up. havent really had the desire to have sex after that.

[–]Jabbermouth20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

Why would you do that?

[–]curvedbymykind6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I read this guys last reddit post and now I understand lol

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

dude.....lol thats fuckin trife

[–]HurricaneHugues1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao bruh

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I mean I love eating pussy but I save that shit for LTRs. Not looking to get mouth cancer from some hoe lol

[–]nobody_thinks0 points1 point  (12 children) | Copy

wut the fuck. lol. just read your post about it. pretty funny.

[–]johnson8420 1 points [recovered]  (11 children) | Copy

yeah ive never been with a skinny in-shape bitch. i have a low n-count. only 3 if you count that eating out even tho it wasnt piv. then it drops to 2. and theyve all been fat. idk what its like to be with an in shape woman. they all seem to hard to get. like they know their smv and its easy for them to get it.

[–]nobody_thinks1 point2 points  (10 children) | Copy

you will man don't worry about it. we used to say that fatties are like scooters, fun to ride just don't get caught on them.

FWIW based on your post, the main thing holding you back is talking to much and asking for permission. Just use body language and kino escalation. Like just lightly shove her for no reason or whatever. from there escalate.

youre doing great.

[–]johnson8420 1 points [recovered]  (9 children) | Copy

yeah i know giving too much info about yoursself is a bad thing. and i didnt really ask for permission in that scenario. it was just netflix and chill which was really my first netflix and chill so i didnt know the protocol lol. at this point to get with a skinny inshape bitch id rather go to a brothel in Nevada, where it can be done legally. just tell em im a virgin (which might be easy to believe lol) then theyll be like awww come here. they think its an honor lol.

[–]nobody_thinks0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

at this point to get with a skinny inshape bitch id rather go to a brothel in Nevada

naw man i don't recommend that path. Just keep building.

try whiskey before a date. don't have coffee or any stimulant before a date. you want calm not nervous energy. if you take meds, try to figure out when you are least stimulated.

i dunno man I have the feeling that you kind of get it based upon your post. Autism is an advantage because you have less emotional reactivity. it's just the learning curve is probably longer because you interpret things literally.

[–]johnson8420 1 points [recovered]  (5 children) | Copy

haha the thing with autism is you get better at integrating socially as the years of your life go by. i think it was on the jimmy kimmel show where they had this one super smart autism guy on and they asked him how are things going for him socially, he replied that basically he has gotten used to social things aka human behaviour over the years. i think that holds true for me as well.

[–]nobody_thinks2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

yeah man don't worry about it. BTW autism is to a certain extent a bullshit disease. like we live in peak feminism in the history of the world. men with highly masculine ways of thinking just don't really fit in by default to the system so they just label it. but society is the problem. just look at how fucking degenerate it is.

[–]johnson8420 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

BTW autism is to a certain extent a bullshit disease. like we live in peak feminism in the history of the world. men with highly masculine ways of thinking just don't really fit in by default to the system so they just label it. but society is the problem. just look at how fucking degenerate it is.

I hyper agree. it may be a bullshit disease. but im going to take advantage of it and own it the same way a woman would use her pussy-pass.

I think you can actually get on social security disability because of it. so theres that bonus too.

depends on where/which areas you go to in the country/world. you may fit in somewherr besides your hometown.

[–]EvanPetersDouble0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You're the iconic mascot persona of TRP. Very funny guy lol.

[–]SICFJC-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Tinder only works for 9s and 10s

[–]PM_ME_CHILL_MUSIC8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

There are other ways to get laid other than attending to parties and drink alcohol. Stop coping so hard and start approaching

[–]menial_optimist0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't mope, approach! Rejection is preferable to Regret!

[–]Vikingcel23 points24 points  (19 children) | Copy

Get hookups and you'll stop being jealous.

[–]thrwy7547910 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's normal. The only way to fix it is to have more sex.

[–]BoringLawfulness13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy

Don’t get mad, get eTrade

[–]cpotpie12 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Don't get mad, get glad. *whips out trash bag*

[–]QueenSlapFight3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh you found one of my condoms

[–]oofmydigestivesystem6 points7 points  (15 children) | Copy

Go lift some heavy ass motherfucking weights. Then meditate. If that doesn't work, lift heavier.

[–]Vikingcel68 points69 points  (14 children) | Copy

Doesn't work. Giving advice like this doesn't make you sound alpha, it makes you sound retarded.

[–]360_no_scope_upvote6 points7 points  (7 children) | Copy

How is anyone gonna find you attractive if you blend into the background like an NPC?

[–]Vikingcel-2 points-1 points  (6 children) | Copy

Spouting buzzwords, but no content. Ironic.

[–]Cheeseking111 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

The content is in the sidebar. We don't need to give each person a complete encyclopedia of advice when it is already packaged and ready to review.

Telling a person to get off their ass and lift weights or meditate is meant to serve as the fire that lights under their ass to get them moving.

[–]Vikingcel3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

He's not asking how to get laid. He's asking why he has the jealousy.

He's jealous because he's not getting laid.

Lifting and meditation won't make him lose the jealousy.

[–]Cheeseking110 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

You are doing what an average man does in a relationship which is try to solve the woman's problems for them. The most effective way is to guide them to figuring out the answer themselves.

If he reads the full sidebar and puts into practice what he reads then yes he will no longer be jealous because he'll be too fucking busy to notice.

Also meditating and lifting weights will get him laid more often. He won't be as jealous if he's up to his eyeballs in clunge.

[–]Vikingcel0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

The most effective way is to guide them to figuring out the answer themselves.

Where do you even get that from? By figuring the answer out themselves you mean reading the answer elsewhere (sidebar)? He has a question, I have the answer. No need to jerk myself off while 'answering'.

he'll be too fucking busy to notice.

Unless he'll be too busy to talk with other people and hear about their hookups, no.

Also meditating and lifting weights will get him laid more often.

He's not asking how to get laid. If he's here, chances are he already does lift anyway.

He won't be as jealous if he's up to his eyeballs in clunge.

Yes. He won't be jealous if he starts getting laid. As I was saying the whole time.

My summary of your advice

Fapfapfapfap

[–]Cheeseking110 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Where do you even get that from? By figuring the answer out themselves you mean reading the answer elsewhere (sidebar)? He has a question, I have the answer. No need to jerk myself off while 'answering'.

You've never heard the phrase you can lead a horse to water but can't make it drink? It's quite well known in human psychology actually and is used frequently in sales. I don't see where you gave him an actual quality answer. Besides giving a direct answer won't have the strongest effect, OP figuring it out himself via reading the material explains the necessary context. There's no easy way to take the red pill.

Unless he'll be too busy to talk with other people and hear about their hookups, no.

He should be, it's a waste of time gossiping at the water cooler. That's feminine behaviour and does not create value. Value will get his dick wet not gossip.

He's not asking how to get laid. If he's here, chances are he already does lift anyway.

He's shagged two chicks in his life, chances are he is not following anything RedPill related hence why I direct him to read the sidebar. I know he has not read the sidebar because he would not ask the question if he had.

Yes. He won't be jealous if he starts getting laid. As I was saying the whole time.

Good job captain obvious.

Telling a guy to get laid to stop feeling jealous is like telling a poor person to get rich to not be poor, it's a low value answer. The guy needs to learn how to get laid to cure his jealousy which he will learn if again he reads the fucking sidebar and puts it into practice.

[–]Vikingcel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You could say I lead him to water by telling him to get laid.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

hahah i mean its not the most articulate way of putting it but he is correct. Change your mindset and body and everything else will follow. I was like OP up until the time i was 25. All i had to do was put on some weight and have an abundance mentality and the rest followed.

Its actually weird af how well RP works haha.

[–]QawL1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I think it does. Being jealous is the problem here. You either go have some sex or stop the care for having sex.

[–]Vikingcel1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

The 'lift to solve everything' meme has to stop.

Lifting and meditation won't turn OP asexual. OP isn't getting laid, that's why he's jealous. If he was getting laid and still got jealous, then yeah, his mindset is wrong. I guarantee he'll stop getting salty (over much more than others getting laid) once he starts getting his dick wet.

[–]QawL0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I already agreed with the statement but, being asexual and stop caring for having sex is the completely different things. You simply getting beyond the need for sex. You do enjoy when it happens but you stop giving a fuck if it doesn't happen. Which is the root cause for the problem here : neediness to have sex.

Lift for the better chance, meditate for controling the urge. It's so overtold but that it's the truth.

[–]Vikingcel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

OP isn't getting laid at all tho.

Instead of not caring that he doesn't get laid, he could just start getting laid.

[–]oofmydigestivesystem0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Works for me.

[–]azynporter2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Me personally, when I used to fuck random chicks I would feel shitty afterwards.

[–]Greek-God-Brody7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

not helping at all, it's like a rich guy telling a poor guy that money don't do much

[–]okuli1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I remember that feeling after fucking fat chick. It won't feel shitty if you fuck someone attractive.

[–]GrouchyCounty0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

you do know, that those two people have gossiped with their friends about it, right? You want to hear yourself being the one being talked about, and that's probably not going to happen.

[–]throwawayboyfriend5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

what i mean is i want to be ''that guy''. to the point where I don't need to hear gossip to have it confirmed.

[–]Snowaey0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm not an incel,

well go fuck some bitches then?

[–]QueenSlapFight0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm going to go the other direction than most on here and say you should consider monk mode. You seem to really need to work on being a man and not giving a fuck before you start branching out and forging relationships (even casual sexual ones). I think you're putting all pussy on a pedestal right now, and to get past feeling desperate for it you need to reject it, and even when it starts coming around be picky with who you let sleep with you. Remember, you're the prize. Any interaction where you are not is an interaction you should avoid. If that means missing out on some mediocre sex, so be it.

Like I said though, you do sound like you need to work on being a man. Why are you so emotional about everything? Why do you keep trying to see inside other's heads? Why do you give a fuck what others think? Find a good example of a man or a redpiller you would like to be like, and try to emulate them. Instead of "What would Jesus do?", try "What would /u/gaylubeoil do?"

Finally, get more busy. Work on your education, your career, and exercising a lot more. Spend all your time toward these goals. You should be too tired from forging your future to give a fuck about such silly things that you're whining about.

[–]its-mystery0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Channel the negative energy of jealousy into positive work of cold approaches.

[–]VigilantSmartbomb0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Uhh I normally don’t talk about my hook ups lol

Yo people’s is weird lol

But nah I mean idk bro just so you who cares

[–]dutchgguy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's normal.

[–]nobody_thinks0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I went to a pre-drinks recently with my sister's older friends (sister is 28F, friends 28F too. not attracted to them btw) and they were talking about hookups they had. I just felt pangs of jealousy, that I wanted to be that ''Chad'' who gets talked about.

first you should improve your social skills. the women were basically qualifying themselves as being above you and shaming you.

Imagine the reverse situation. Two thirty y/o guys brag about their hook-ups with some "bangin hottie" in front of a good looking girl who is probably out of their league. How would you read that socially?

I wanted to be that ''Chad'' who gets talked about.

You're just falling into their frame and failing the shit test. Everything they told you is just fantasy bullshit.

why do i have such strong jealousy?

no clue maybe see a psychologist. otherwise just live your life and understand that most of what women say in social settings is bullshit fantasy and a shit test and treat it as such. don't dwell on it more than to remind yourself what bullshit people spout.

[–]nobody_thinks0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I went to a pre-drinks recently with my sister's older friends (sister is 28F, friends 28F too. not attracted to them btw) and they were talking about hookups they had. I just felt pangs of jealousy, that I wanted to be that ''Chad'' who gets talked about.

Proper response: "Isn't it about time you girls stop fantasizing about your crushes like a couple of teenagers and get married? What's that I hear? The sound of wombs drying and crackling under the hot sun."

[–]astonboi010 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

If you want to seem autistic then yeah say that

[–]nobody_thinks0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

what would you say?

[–]boom_bostic0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Are you jealous because people are getting laid and you aren’t?

-OR-

Are you jealous that people (in this case, women) are giving it out so easily?

Reading your post, I couldn’t quite tell exactly what you’re feeling jealous about.

[–]throwawayboyfriend5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I guess the former.

[–]Greek-God-Brody 1 points [recovered]  (7 children) | Copy

> I'm not an incel
> . I'm young (21 year old). lay count is low though. only 2.

You're an incel, actually. No sex in the last 6 months? For sure, an incel

[–]StopGaming12342 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

That's where you are wrong. I used to be overweight for the majority of my life. When I finally lost some weight I started to get more attention from other people, even woman.

Was a virgin until 22. Now almost 2 years later I had sex with 14 different girls (Not always PIV tho).

I know what you mean with overestimating looks, but I honestly believe I do quite have decent looks. It's just that I literally live under a rock. If I would not spend 80% of my time on the computer I'd probably get laid much more.

I wish things were not as fucked as they are right now. I wish having someone who loves you emotionally and physically wouldn't be as complicated. It's just so frustrating knowing that if I was a few inches taller the world would kneel down infront of me.

[–]Flying_legs 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

How tall are you?

[–]StopGaming12340 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Around 5'9.. I also have the looks of a 17 year old while turning 24 in 2 months. I honestly don't know how to say it without sounding creepy, but I attract a lot of younger girls (16-18), but no chance in my age bracket.

I am aware of the height dilemma. I wear boots with special insoles that give me a bit more than 1 inch extra. My height could be worse, but it's still a burden when everyone treats you like a child.

[–]throwawayboyfriend5[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

shit

[–]bluepillcarl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He might be wrong about some stuff but I think overall it is a mistake to self proclaim attractiveness as a man period. Ugly men get laid, ugly fit men. Are you close to 10% bf? This is probably the number one item of importance that I find in any level of attractiveness for a man. Then after that its muscle and whether or not you have game, everything else comes after.

[–]throwawayboyfriend5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You can not be legit attractive and only bang 2 girls from 16 to 21. Unless you've been living under a rock.Most guys overestimate their looks by a lot, we all do

oh, i was really overweight until age 18. i lost a fuck ton of weight then and got loads more female attention, to the point where i was getting approached.

most my life i lived under a rock. i was an omega male.



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