Leading the Relationship

Bear-With-Bit · 2019-06-30T05:07:02+00:00

Don't check in with her later, wait for her to text/confirm with you first. When it's almost time to meet, she'll text you before she heads out: "So I'll see you there in an half hour?" If you don't hear from her at all, you know you can move on.

hiem3w · 2019-06-30T06:15:59+00:00

If you want to do x why would you do y?

If she wants to pick the place and you want to go there too then go. If you don’t then say no or suggest an alternative.

She’s a person too. She can make choices for your relationship without it being a shit test. I’d take it as a shit test when she wants you to break frame.

Eg, You made plans a week ago that she agreed to and now she suggests not going or going somewhere else purely because “she’s not feeling it”

Ie she’s seeing if you’ll change your plans for her on account of some stupid reason.

Reaction: personally if say something along the lines of “I was really looking forward to x” or “im not feeling up to y” and “would you be down for y/z on d?” or “maybe another time”

depending on whether you have time in your schedule and want to give her a chance to make up for it or just want to cancel and move onto the next chick while letting her know you’re down for another day if she wants to meet up

There’s a problem when you’re not confident with what you want. If you’re going to y to make her happy then you may want to re-evaluate your mindset.

Ryabemo · 2019-06-30T08:36:44+00:00

“I’m serious about what food I want” dude... you lost 10 nigga points. Getting all serious about a restaurant isn’t holding frame or being masculine, you’re just a nagging little child. You don’t sound a whole lot of fun to be around with either mr. Serious about his food lol

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-06-30T10:25:14+00:00

You did well.

Depending on what your style game ends up being, you can sprinkle a little charisma and fun into your leading.

Don't go Redpill robot.

RedKepler · 2019-06-30T11:36:32+00:00

You can lead the evening/relationship still in this circumstance. She's making it easier tbf to go out and date her, she's pursuing you- you turn it into a shit test when you break frame and go say "I thought we were going to x".

If you don't want to go y, tell her instead and give her the option of x as a 'take it or leave it'. That way you can have your way or they don't have an day out with you.

Of course, you know how to react in any case if they just use you to go to said location.

zxcvb7809 · 2019-06-30T13:30:20+00:00

I would say what I am doing and invite her to join me. If she shows up she is interested as fuck. If she doesn't you probably honestly aren't missing much but pity star fish, you paid for my food sex.

ATRP2019 · 2019-06-30T05:13:26+00:00

Talk with her. Tell her you’re a man and want to lead. Tell her why. She’ll respect you as a man more and probably be more attracted to you for it.

Title	Leading the Relationship
Author	ashblossomcherries
Upvotes	6
Comments	20
Date	June 30, 2019 4:59 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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