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Anyone with actual success stories of wife losing weight?

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Title Anyone with actual success stories of wife losing weight?
Author Checkingthisout5
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Date 18 July 2019 09:09 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]IncitingDramah11 points12 points  (3 children) | Copy

You need to focus on you man.

My wife was being a lazy bitch. Know what the problem was...?

I was being a lazy bitch.

Focus on yourself, do what you want done. Want her to lose weight? Go pray to Brodin in the iron temple. Take over cooking responsibility, and cook healthy foods.

Brodin does not accept pussy sacrifices and in turn gives you the physical appearance of a Viking warlord.

Commit! Fucking do it. When you hit an escape velocity to start achieving higher SMV, her hamster will have to hit the gym just to keep up with the spinning it will do.

Want a healthy wife, become THE FUCKING EXAMPLE. If she wont follow your lead after long enough, then fuck it because you're still in a better position.

Edit: also, dont forget to praise/validate her when/if she does start making any progress towards a healthy lifestyle.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Edit: also, dont forget to praise/validate her when/if she does start making any progress towards a healthy lifestyle.

Good point. When I started telling my wife how good she looked in doggy style "damn, your new back muscles are fucking hot" she started to get more and more into lifting.

[–]Checkingthisout5Fat, thinks he carries it well-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good advice

[–]Checkingthisout5Fat, thinks he carries it well0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Truth if I've ever seen it. So what happened with your experience, did your wife just wake up one day and say "I'm joining a gym, and eating right" or did she come to you for advice, or what? What did that point look like when the 1000 foot rope started to pull?

[–]40mullet5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

I had same problems as you, not that extreme but similar enough to comment. First, everybody is right. If you become very high value man, you do not have a wife who you are not attracted to. If you do, you are not high value man. You will not become high value man learning some cheat code to make your wife lose weight. It does not work this way. If you have learned basics, you know how to become high value already.

Covert contracts. Lose them all. Your wifes weight is not yours to change. Some people here mask it as "leading" but it is a covert contract. She knows how to lose weight. She just dont care.

So how acts a man without covert contracts about his wifes weight? He never "motivates" her. She knows he prefers to fuck supermodel body girls, there is no need to remind this. Wife tells:" you probably going to leave me and hook up with some skinny chick from your gym..." And there is opportunity to "motivate" her saying something smart like "you should join me to protect me from all the women trying to grab me" or something. This is still covert contract. Here might some folks disagree, but also are all meal preps, praising and hiking together. Most of the time those are still covert contracts.

So how will high value man act?

Most important is, he knows what he wants. Do you watch porn and jerk of to certain type of porn most of the time? Certain body types? If so, how can you be sure this is what you want? I had a coworker once who had collection of hundreds of facial videos. Probably made post somewhere "wife not letting me do facials, any idea how to lead her to that?". Did facials exist before porn magazines and movies? Doesnt really matter, point is you cannot be sure if you constantly ruin your brains dopamine system with certain type of simulation. Quit porn and masturbation. Watch your feelings. Do what YOU want. Do not do what you do not want. Not horny at all after week of no porn and nofap? Wife wants you to fuck her, do what you want. Maybe passionate blowjob with her clothes on sounds good, watching her big belly in missionary position does not? go for blowjob. Maybe your head will be full of thoughts like "if I deny her sex right now she will understand, that she should lose weight and ...." This is not how high value man thinks or acts.

Game her.

High value man games women. Even ugly ones. There is big misconception in TRP regarding women. They do not crawl through mud and rain to suck alphas dick. They do that only when alpha has turned them on somehow. Give her something to miss, give her feelings that only real high value man gaming can produce.

No dread.

She is fucked up in her brains already, come on, letting herself go that far... Of course dread will be present hard, but do not use any opportunity to up the dread. If she comments somebody who has great body, you say "yea, fucking gene pool lottery winner" with a smile. When she orders large pizza, you say what you were saying before waitress came. She knows what you really think. This is her problem and her problem only.

Get your head straight.

Every she thought that passes your thinking, replace it with some"ME" thought. Or let it just pass all together and watch your emotions and reactions. Are you daydreaming and she she, if if if starts rolling in your head, watch around, are you slacking somewhere, procrastinating something?

Put down some hard boundaries for yourself. "After two years I am a man who fuck regularly a woman i am really turned on just looking at her". If your wife asks you where you are heading with all your self improvement, you tell her that of course.

My experience.

I quit porn and masturbation 120 days ago, hit flatline hard, lose all interest in sex. Went 3 weeks without sex, was so nice to my wife, gaming and hugging and cocky funny, but didnt escalate. Put down a boundary " I only have sex with a willing partner, who will make effort to turn me on same time as I will try to turn her on" Sorry my english. Bottom line, when kissing, if she pulled away just a little bit, I pulled away. When I fingered her and she left go of my dick, I stopped fingering. I wanted to go higher together step by step. No cavemaning a starfish or some other stupid shit. It was really easy because of flatline, but it worked. She started working out, touching me sex became passionate. I started feeling like chick, zero interest in fucking, never thought about it, but when we started, it slowly got very passionate.

Funny story. I asked anal, we do it regularly once a month or so, she needs to prepare herself at least an hour, so its hard work. Then we start kissing, very slowly, then regular fucking, which became really passionate, I knew anal is on the menu, just get the lube and start assfucking and dirty talking in various positions, but I really preferred missionary vanilla sex. Then we cum same time, I roll over and was just lying there big smile in my face. She was still ready for anal, but I didnt care, I was in my beta heaven. Lol. Then some cuddling and went to sleep together. I fucked her ass next day though. This is what nofap does to a man. At the same time I kind of lost all thoughts about her body. Last 15 years my porn history is full of "skinny russian anal" searches, no kidding my brain was accustomed to this. Now I dont care that much, I am focused on emotion and immersion mostly. One big problem though, my wife rally hate her overweight body, and it does not help at all in bed. But thats not my problem, I will give her 1 year after I become a man who can approach 9 and close it.

[–]RPeed2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

One of the best attempts at curing this delusion I’ve seen.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Discovered the red pill about 6-8 months ago, through the NoFap subreddit. Instantly hooked, as it all seemed very familiar. That being said, I've applied a few general principles such as self improvement, but haven't implemented the entire sidebar. Red Pill Dilettante would be an accurate label. 29 years old, 6'2'', probably about a 7 out of 10 I would guess, if I had to rate myself, earning $75k a year.

6'2 that's a winner!

My wife has gained 70lbs during our few years of marriage and dating. She went from 5'5'' 130lbs when we were dating, to 5'5" 200lbs (59kgs to 90kgs for you European gents).

That's about par for the course.

Of course it's no secret between us that I'm not happy about it, and I chalk it up to a few different reasons;

Wait there one second pal, before you put that dick in your mouth. No one cares about how you feel. Get that internalized fast and you will make fast progress. You won't though, we all fuck that up. We are programmed to Expres our feels.

one major reason being the comfort and familiarity that comes with being married. It's very easy to sit in and watch TV and snack all weekend vs going on and being active when you aren't alone. I myself have also fallen prey to this,

I know, we are getting to that.

and gained about 30lbs in our 4 years of marriage (dated 1 year before marriage), going from 240lbs to 270lbs (108kgs to 122kgs).

And there It is. Your gonzo assessment of your own failure. I assure you, its worse than you let on.

The difference for me being

The difference in her eyes is fucking zero so save it pal.

30lbs was gained on an already very muscular 6'2'' frame. Most people who try to guess my weight, usually guess 230lbs, and I've been told I carry it well. It's still not good, I'm just describing the difference.

Most people will lie to and fat man because most people dont have the frame to be genuine.

Naturally, her weight gain has led to a bit of a behavioral change: she's not as extroverted as she used to be, doesn't enjoy going out on a Friday or Saturday night, and is constantly insecure of any interaction I have with other women.

Naturally eh? Got all the answers do you?

If my friends or cousin's wives look more attractive than her, I hear about it.

You fail a shit or a comfort test. Been there, done that.

We can't walk passed a provocative sign at a mall without her having to bitch about it. I'm learning some of this is just her personality she hid before marriage, and some of it is insecurity heightened by weight gain.

Nope, it's you, it's all you.

The other issue this has led to, is my interest in sex has dropped dramatically. Being in our late 20's and relatively newlyweds (compared to some), we should

Take the word should and stick it up your ass.

be having more sex then once a week. But that's the kicker - this isn't the normal "wife stopped having sex with me the moment we got married" sort of red pill situation, it's me that doesn't want more sex. She just doesn't attract me. I have thought about plenty of other women during sex in order to get there. She is very much interested in sex, and has expressed to me a desire for more, and is pretty much down to fuck whenever I want to. But I just don't want to. It's to the point where her advances actually bother me. Of course as we all know, this just wets a woman's panties even more, and they crave that sexual validation more and more.

All i see is a you problem, none of us have an answer for a you problem.

As a result, I'm getting all the sex in my marriage I want. I just want it with the more thin, fit, enthusiastic version of my wife that I actually wanted to marry. Fucking sue me.

Then become that. I dont believe you are a muscly 240 6'2 attractive man. I think that was an embellishment.

Other Considerations:

Oh there is more?

We otherwise have a great marriage. I've given all the bad, but there's plenty of good. And the long term prospects are good: we share the same religious views, we were both virgins at marriage so I'm not worried about her cock carousel years, she comes from a great family (more on that in a bit) that I get along with, she has a deep desire to be a great mother, and has an example of a great one at home. We have a good time together, and I do also want to have children with her. Literally everything would just be better, if she would just fucking lose some weight.

No kids? You know she will get fatter after right?

Blah blah blah stopped reading.

Lead by example.

[–]FoxShitNasty833 points4 points  (9 children) | Copy

You know all that blah blah blah shit about your wife... Let's just pile that up nice and neat for a minute and put the whole lot in the fucking bin. Right thank fuck for that, that was heavy.

Ok so how fat are you and how much can you lift bro? Because she is a mirror of YOU.

[–]hack3geRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking this right here - my wife didn’t give two fucks about her health when I was a fat fuck.

I’m starting to look fucking huge and my wife sees me getting attention from skinny 20 somethings - sure as shit she starts asking me to help her with a meal plan and asks me what type of exercises I think would help her the most.

At the end of the day - you can give her an opportunity to walk through the door and even lead her there but it’s still her choice and you can be sure as shit that she won’t follow a fat faggot.

[–]Checkingthisout5Fat, thinks he carries it well0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

You want my stats? Bench - 275 Squat - 310 Deadlift - 315 Don't clean anymore due to it flaring up my degenerative disk disease. 6'2'', 270lbs, not sure of body fat, but have a good muscular base from a life of lifting and sports growing up.

I said that I have a pretty good idea of what I need to do, I was hoping to hear some anecdotes of how this actually went down for other people.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando8 points9 points  (5 children) | Copy

With those lifts and that weight, you're carrying a lot more fat and less muscle than you think.

I'm an inch shorter than you, can outlift you and weight 80lbs less than you at 13% bf. Unless you have godlike genetics, you're a fat fuck. And that's why your wife is a fat cunt.

Get down to single digits on body fat. See what happens then.

Start leading and people follow. This one's on you.

[–]Checkingthisout5Fat, thinks he carries it well-1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy

That would be a dramatic difference alright. How did it go for you getting down to single digits? What differences did you notice in your wife?

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando12 points13 points  (3 children) | Copy

I'm not going to spoon feed you, mate. You're already fat enough as it is.

[–]NoCoast822 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

270lbs (108kgs to 122kgs)... on an already very muscular 6'2'' frame

Bench - 275 Squat - 310 Deadlift - 315

You got me by 50lbs on bench, maybe 25lbs on squat, and your deadlift is a warm up for me

Oh yeah I weigh 150lbs, if I have my work boots on.

You are fat as fuck and weak as fuck, fix that and maybe she will feel like being a fatty is an issue.

Fucker thinks he is muscular and barely benches more the he weighs... jesus

Ask this question when you have abs bro

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

My wife turned around.. Took about 8-9 months before she realized it wasn't a phase. Now she lifts heavy and eats healthy... Thankfully she never got as big as your wife (probably because I would have never let her slip that far)

She will follow you once your worth following. Lead by example. Don't be the fat/overweight trainer at the gym trying to get people in shape. I laugh at them.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret4 points5 points  (7 children) | Copy

I have a story for you here.

Read it, and then realize this is all your fault.

You've DEER'd your ass off here making excuses for why your wife is not fit. Let me give you a few.

It's very easy to sit in and watch TV and snack all weekend vs going on and being active when you aren't alone.

If you know it's better to go be active why aren't you leading here and arranging things for you and your wife to do? Lazy fuck.

probably about a 7 out of 10 I would guess, if I had to rate myself, earning $75k a year.

Making more money is going to take a while.

You're so full of shit here. $75k is no where NEAR a 7/10. You're also:

going from 240lbs to 270lbs

One key is that I need to lose weight (duh)

Fucking lazy again. You SMV just dropped dude. At best on your stats alone I would rate you 5/10. And you wonder why you're a man that's not worth his wife getting in shape and fucking like a champ?

Most people who try to guess my weight, usually guess 230lbs,

It's not enough for me to simply 'carry' my weight gain well

Well, at least you're somewhat aware. Still making excuses though.

I just want it with the more thin, fit, enthusiastic version of my wife that I actually wanted to marry. Fucking sue me.

Yet, you haven't done jack fucking shit to be a man worthy of this. So yeah, I'll sue you.

her father unexpectedly committed suicide

a lot of depression, anxiety, and emotional eating for a number of years. Still, even, to this day.

I hate to be the insensitive asshole about your Father-In-Law's death, but I don't give a fuck. You should have done a better job of being a better man leading her out of this instead of allowing her to wallow in self pity and food. You are the captain, right? So captain the fuck up.

Lucky for you, I wrote a post about that too.

Guess what?

It's all your fault.

It's all your fault.

It's all your fault.

So if I had to summarize all of my thoughts: You're a lazy fucking captain who has no motivation to improve his life, thereby improving his first-mate's. You wife doesn't deem you as her oak, or even attractive enough, to make any changes. You're a shit man with no direction and delusional ideas of your SMV.

That's mostly what I'm here for - anecdotes of how this all worked/is working for you, vs "shut the fuck up and lift."

Not going to let you pass on this one, faggot.

STFU and lift.

[–]Checkingthisout5Fat, thinks he carries it well0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

Great advice, all true, and thanks for the articles. Any actual stories from your experience I can emulate? Exposition is great, but otherwise this is just mental masturbation material.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Fucking shit man, read the fucking links before you comment.

There is my story in both of them.

[–]Checkingthisout5Fat, thinks he carries it well-3 points-2 points  (4 children) | Copy

To me, an explanation of "She was a bitch, I worked hard, and now she's not a bitch," isn't necessarily helpful. I'm looking more of a breakdown, x-months I started to notice her doing abc, after these interactions with her friends I noticed she started doing xyz, that sort of thing. That's how I learn. I realize it's not that mathematically cut and dry, but hopefully you get the point.

Nevertheless you're a stranger on the internet who took time to give your two cents, so thanks for the input.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Ah i see now.

You're trying to play your situation like a video game hoping someone else out there has the cheat codes

We see guys like you all the time in here. Hell, in fact I was one of them early on too.

Lift and sidebar. The answers are there for you.

Stop trying to find the konami code and fucking lift. And read until your eyes bleed.

[–]Checkingthisout5Fat, thinks he carries it well-3 points-2 points  (2 children) | Copy

My God, you've got to be kidding me. I already found the cheat codes my man. The cheat code to the matrix is to lift, game your wife, raise your SMV. That's it. I fucking know that.

Your links are great, all I'm asking is for more detail about what happened, not what you learned. What you learned I've already read about in the sidebar from all the collective knowledge. I want to know how it fucking played out. So is your bipolar wife now a perfect 10? What did you notice her doing specifically about weight loss as you changed? Was she ever fat in the first place? Does this post even apply to you?

She barely took care of the kids and now she does your laundry? Good for you bro, I really don't give a shit, my wife already does things like that. I asked about her losing fucking weight. It sounds like that was never the problem. The problem was her personality disorders.

To use your own example, I'm looking for someone who streamed themselves using the cheat codes in action. Not someone to say "I used the cheat codes, and now I win all the time. It's your own fault if you don't use the cheat codes." Is it that hard to understand what I'm asking?

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I already found the cheat codes my man.

And this is where your problem lies. The sidebar, lifting, game, SMV, matrix.... it's not fucking cheat codes. Clearly you haven't internalized any of this and are just going through the sidebar like it's full of 1's and 0's.

Look, believe me or not. I don't fucking care. But it's clear to me you have a sophomoric idea of the material and it's application to a real fucking relationship.

No one is going to give you the answers here, but whatever dude. You seem to have all the cheat codes figured out so go use them.

There are no cheat codes, bro.

There are no shortcuts.

It takes time and leadership.

The masculine grows with challenge. The feminine grows with praise.

Best of luck.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

'The masculine grows with challenge. The feminine grows with praise.'

The best thing I have read here today.

[–]RPeed1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

My wife lost weight. Now she goes to the gym 5 days a week, has one solid meal a day - and the rest shakes - to keep improving.

She’s meeting a surgeon next week to arrange a breast reduction. She always wanted one but wanted to wait until kids were done.

[–]Eminencemiddle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Evil woman! And, you enabling her-shameful!

[–]Checkingthisout5Fat, thinks he carries it well-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

So what was the process like? What made her finally decide to be that dedicated, or was she always active?

[–]RPeed7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t know. Don’t care.

Believe it or not: that is the answer you’re looking for.

[–]primordialawe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Every fucking week it’s “great thanks for the actual useful help but can anyone MAKE ME FEEL BETTER with storytime about how your life turned around”. Fucking no man. Because the stories are All. The. Fucking. Same. AWALT AND AMRPALT. Do hard shit. Get good results.

I got my shit together (like actually together). And my wife followed. I’m also 6’2”. So welcome to the “free SMV points with no excuses Bc you can’t add height club”. But I vetted my girl better than you (even if it wasn’t consciously) and I make more money so add those points up using your mental calculator. Maybe you’re passive aggressive or boring or still fat (I thought I was in good shape at 240 too...) or she just sucks or doesn’t value you or whatever. Who knows.

You’re looking for someone to hold your hand and tell you it will all be OK but hey bro it may not be. So there’s that. She may not change. You may end up divorcing her. Or you may have a kid with her and be stuck with a fat lady Bc “values”. It will not all be ok Bc the universe indifferent to the specifics of your situation. So you gotta buckle up.

[–]freshona0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You're both fatties. You both were fatties to begin with.

You can become a non-fatty, though. Your wife too. Maybe.

[–]buckeyeboy19770 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It took my wife about 6 months to start seriously following my example. She has lost a good 25 lbs. I am at 10% body fat. She just joined crossfit. Raise your smv fat ass. Fyi. i had this exact question almost exactly a year ago. Get busy on you and she will follow.

[–]lapeparoja0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hahahahahaha this guy, newsflash, if (big if) those stats you wrote are true, you are probably fatter than your wife. Why? She at 5´5" and 200# has a BMI of 33 (obese type I). At your stats you are bordering a BMI of 35 (obese type 2), and no, the bullshit history of "I am really ripped and muscular so BMI misclassifies me " wont do here. You are a fat boy , fatter than your wife and you are delusional about it.



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