My bestfriend (28/F) just got married to her bf of 5 years. This was another wakeup call to live my personal values. What do you think of my values?

Zegiknie · 2019-08-26T15:35:07+00:00

You never mentioned your values, you just repeated what others told you and your worries.

HB3234 · 2019-08-27T20:18:34+00:00

I think your mentor is right, you shouldn't be seeking to date right now. Sort out how you feel about faith. This may be a time to explore other faiths or churches to see if anything rings true.

You don't want to get in a relationship with a man who values faith highly and find out you don't believe. If you're waiting for marriage, dating religious men seems like your most realistic option, so it really behooves you to find a church you have full faith in and feel good about.

Kara__El · 2019-08-26T18:11:54+00:00

It's unrealistic to wait until marriage, when you're no longer a virgin. Most men won't wait for what someone else got without waiting.
This is a risk in the modern world. Wait for commitment and trust. Use protection always.
42k is a lot of money in many places. Consider relocating.
Hair loss is unfortunate and it seems you're treating it, so try to carefully style your hair in the meantime. As for being fat, dress for your body type and start working out and eating right.
If you're not sure about your faith, it's a bait and switch to look for a man at church. It's also blatantly disrespectful to any religious institution to use it as a dating app.

I think the other commenter is right that you haven't really touched on your values. I recommend a year of nun mode, while you learn what they really are and work on yourself.

willowaverie · 2019-08-27T03:00:56+00:00

What is your religion that doesn’t allow hot yoga? You seem to know what you want go for it

EvilTemptriss · 2019-08-26T21:35:28+00:00

Mycoplasma pneumonia (MP) is a contagious respiratory infection that spreads easily through contact with respiratory fluids. It can cause epidemics. ... Up to one-fifth of all lung infections that people develop in their community (outside of a hospital) are caused by Mycoplasma pneumoniae bacteria.Nov 23, 2016

Is that even a STD?

seventhflame · 2019-09-23T17:59:42+00:00

If you have a serious relationship this should be talked about. Some guys will probably find this a red flag and would break up the relationship but I believe many will be able to live with it though some might want proof that you no longer have the STD which I believe would be reasonable. Though not wanting to have sex before marriage when you already had sex before will probably rub most guys the wrong especially when the relationship progresses. Since first it wasn't enough of a value to commit to but now when it's them you suddenly care. Let me be clear it's not about putting out but being given less than your ex would seem like you are less committed to them.
That is always a possibility and that is why it is good to have std tests done before having sex and try and figure out if he is trustworthy as much as possible.
This is a difficult thing to deal with.
It is always good to work on yourself even if it is not to get a partner. Fat can be worked on with regular workouts and a healthy diet. Hair loss is a more difficult problem depending on the severity of the hair loss but there are options like shorter hair cuts or in the worst cases wigs. IMHO these outward appearances matter most in the dating phase of a relationship and will matter less once a serious relationship has been established. Also remember that probably everyone has something they don't like about themselves.
I have been raised in a Christian family but I am no longer sure about religion myself. Currently I simply try and take the wisdom I can find in religion and try to live by it and for the rest think for myself and let my conscience guide me. Since if God exists I believe that he will guide my conscience and if God doesn't exist it is still best to try and do what is right.

Title	My bestfriend (28/F) just got married to her bf of 5 years. This was another wakeup call to live my personal values. What do you think of my values?
Author	betterbetch
Upvotes	0
Comments	30
Date	August 26, 2019 1:55 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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