Stats: 5’10” 170lbs. Squat: 210 OH press:100 Deadlift: 250 Bench: 140 Row: 130
Background: 43yrs, wife 49. Married 14yrs. Blue pill faggot all of them. Been RP aware and swallowed the pill 6 mo. ago. Devoured the sidebar (and continue reading and lurking) and had all the usual ups and downs. Owned my shit, lifted with dedication immediately, STFU etc. Began Krav Maga lessons, hooked up with friends more and went out more. Just spent time away from wife. Went about with a DGAF attitude and sex came back quick with wife. Not great but when denied learned to have OI. And when given starfish railed her through the mattress. Said “no” to her. Walked and talked with a purpose. The “change” was noticeable to everyone. Most important the change was noticeable to me. I felt alive and happier (and by extension the entire family) than I’ve ever been.
Current: 2 mos ago things really came around. I had been working on abundance with number closes with HB 7 and 8s. I began in earnest, and naturally, to dominate her in the bedroom. Dirty talk ie “ your my slut” with agreement from her. Unbelievable fucking sessions. Doing shit we have never done or been a looong time since. Anal, CIM, sex toys, dirty talk ie she’s my slut.
Then, I had some lack of OI when denied and the sex slacked. I had resistance and felt that I had to remain stoic and continue on my journey and get back to basics mainly focusing on me. Just ...do...me. Had great success with frame lately and just not having her in my head at all. Shit tests came back hard. Been awhile. This time I had the frame better to deal with it. First started a couple weeks ago with her suddenly NOT OK with me “taking her” when I feel like it. Watch what they do not what they say right? Last couple months she obviously enjoyed my assertiveness and dominance. I took this as a test. I AA and said “I was under the impression that was the best sex of your life!” Then two days later I fuck her silly. Wants it hard.
Fast forward to yesterday and suddenly she thinks I shouldn’t be going to the gym so often and says I’m only thinking of myself. I fog and agree and say true I am thinking of myself. She shuts up. Mind you I’m not neglecting anything at home such with daughter or owning my shit.
Last night I go to gym again after cold shoulder and sexual denial from her. She brings up later that “the new me is arrogant” and she doesn’t like it. She is still pissed that I laughed off her concerns having sex with her when only I want it. Btw gaming and kino, feelzing up on the ass and just generally touching the wife again. Also having fun with treating her like the little girl, oldest child in the house. I then give the meow to her and grin and she says that’s what she’s talking about. Says I won’t be laughing when we separate. I say ok. Says the concert we are going to she won’t go and to take someone else. I say ok cool. She storms out of bedroom to sleep on couch. Maintaining frame just trying to foresee my next move, besides continuing my MAP, and of course what I could’ve done different. I’m doing solid and want the marriage to continue. At a complete loss that’s why I’m here. This just escalated quickly! Should’ve backed off? Not a comfort test but shit test I need to weather? I can take the brutal honesty I know is coming my way.
TLDR: First time poster. I’ve gone from a fresh noob to confident man with Alpha qualities leading the house and wife and family on adventures. Insane, uninhibited fucking to a complete 180. I believe I showed past beta me again with lack of OI and felt I needed to start over only her to resist everything about me that was working to improve my life.