Patterns you noticed with your dating life /LTR

kingofpoplives · 2014-11-24T21:34:09+00:00

I think everyone is going see patterns to some degree based on their look, personality, and preferences.

Here a few things I have noticed about my dating life:

If she has a lot of tattoos, piercings, or is aggressively hipster, she's not gonna go for me. No idea why. I am not really attracted to these types, but I would bang the hotter ones. It never happens.
Black and latin women love me, but not ghetto black women. I only seem to get a high level of interest from college educated black women.
In general, the smarter a girl is the more likely she will go for me.
If a girl seems prudish and extremely conservative sexually, she probably won't go for me.
I tend to attract a lot of artsy types and wannabe writers.
Girls that aren't super status oriented and are more interested in adventure.

It's gotten to the point where I can usually get a good reading on the sexual relationship potential between a girl and myself just by looking at her face, body, and how she carries herself.

HAMMURABl · 2014-11-24T17:55:13+00:00

women adjust to your perception of yourself.

if you think you don`t deserve her, she thinks so.

if you think she doesn`t deserve you, she thinks so.

long-lostfriend · 2014-11-25T01:29:26+00:00

In my Nice Guy days, I would be drawn to broken, self-centered women who demonstrated BPD traits. And they were often drawn to me as well.

When I came out of all that life, I became aware of those triggers and consciously rejected that type of girl, even though the instinct was still there for a while.

14789632587412369 · 2014-11-25T02:12:08+00:00

I am the man on the side. I always wind up with girls who already have boyfriends. I used to mentally put them in this box of unavailable women and I think because of that I was much more relaxed and confident around them. I also think because I have always been a poor underachiever they didn't think I was relationship material and I had enough respect in my social circles that even in my blue pill days I was still sufficiently preselected.

teeelo · 2014-11-24T20:53:19+00:00

What I am reading between the lines here is essentially the only type of girls that you could snag Pre-red pill, were the kind of girls that many a red and blue Piller alike would consider 'emotionally unstable' or damaged goods.

Now, blue pill bullies would argue the fact that this is the only type of girl you can hope to attain with your new found knowledge and seduction mindset. However because we can acknowledge these women are not prime LTR potentials AND this was your previous Beta Mindframes result of gaming women, the women who would make ideal LTR's, those who do have good fathers were simply out of your league as a Blue Piller.

In our younger beta years many amazing well grounded women we met who knew better than to indulge in their more immoral of behaviours were most likely romancing it up with the ideal Natural Alpha Males well before we were even a possibility for their affections.

Essentially, you were able to score the only women that you could, ones with Daddy issues.

stickfiguresk · 2014-11-24T22:53:25+00:00

Nah, father is frequently still around--their most supportive relationship, really.

A thing I do notice though: my relationships end typically after 2 seasons go by. Bitches be seasonal, yo.

1761 · 2014-11-25T05:40:15+00:00

I never consciously realized this until my friend brought it up, I tend to go for dumb chicks. I don't know why. Maybe because they're hot and they don't challenge me. I think that's probably it.

NoMaDkARmA · 2014-11-25T11:08:01+00:00

Oddly enough, and I have never thought about this until right now, every LTR I've had was made up of a girl with both parents still around and together.

Always sad, unhealthy looking booring as bread parents. Always superficial ideas about life and living outside the box from the lasses, due to booring ass parents and only child mentality.

They gravitate towards me because I am the "starving artist" or the "bad boy", but when it comes down to put up or shut up they always fail to deliver in the uninhibited attitude they put off.

I don't know. We all have our patterns though.

imthemostmodest · 2014-11-26T07:08:27+00:00

I am constantly finding patterns in my old behavior... it's fascinating to reevaluate.

I realized a while ago that I bounce back and forth between the same two archetypes, essentially... witty, sharp-featured brunettes who aren't interested in me but drive me crazy with lust, and kind, submissive blondes who adore me but I'm not crazy about... the latter always seem to be the better relationships, and this time, within one, I have realized that I can get the interest and adventure from within myself, and just enjoy having a great, supportive woman eager to be along for the ride.

evilquesadilla · 2014-11-24T23:34:36+00:00

I thought I wanted a smart, capable woman as an equal partner. But I've always been attracted to passive girls that are not very smart, well, that and superficially attractive bitches with a bit of ghetto that are nothing but trouble, but that's a different problem I have.

It turned out relationships are about power struggles. By having a capable partner, sure, you've gained an invaluable ally when life is bad but relationships is good, but you've also gained an extremely capable arch-nemesis during the the relationships is bad times. Holy shit does that take a lot of effort to manage.

Turned out I was right dating the passive not-so-smart chicks. Don't count on them to do to much for you other than look cute and be really concerned about you when life takes a dump on you. But during the relationship is bad times; when they want to take it to you, they can't do it as well as the highly intelligent and capable woman.

Don't have bad relationship times then? Impossible. Women thrive on the ups and downs. Even if nothing is wrong they will create something wrong. They need this like we need to watch sports on a big screen TV with a nice ice cold beer in our hands.

But this is for me personally anyway. I'm a very independent person, I create my own shit, and I clean up my own shit. When life is shit to me, my reaction is leave me the fuck alone so I can deal with this. Hence the aforementioned "life is bad but relationships is good" has very little value to me.

For people that do value help from their partners when life is shit, having a strong partner to lean on may be worth putting up with the power struggles. Just that I've learned the hard way that this is not me.

My instinct was right about the passive not so smart chicks. But my instinct was also wrong about the superficially attractive ghetto chicks -- they are bad news no matter what. Still don't trust instinct.

rockoverchicago · 2014-11-27T19:04:06+00:00

Fat chicks seem to think I will be attracted to them.

East Indian women have a ginger fetish. ( source: I'm a ginger and east Indian women seek me out )

I am 5 foot 7. A woman will only date me if she's exactly three inches shorter than me. ( heels? ) Women taller than that will literally sit across from me at the table and proudly say "I just prefer taller guys, sorry.. it's just something I can't change" So on dating sites I limit the search only show women that are 5 foot 4 and shorter, and they will date me. Also ( https://twitter.com/heightismwatch )

Title	Patterns you noticed with your dating life /LTR
Author	The_BitterTruth
Upvotes	10
Comments	14
Date	November 24, 2014 5:39 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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