I need to know the truth. Why am I a virgin at 29?

[deleted] · 2017-01-22T00:34:46+00:00

Removed for "woe is me" posting. Please take this to the incel megathread.

[deleted] · 2017-01-21T20:51:32+00:00

are you fat? are you foreign? what are your hobbies? what are you up to on an average Friday night? does talking to women make you nervous? when was the last time you had an in-person conversation with someone you thought was cute? what's your signature cologne?

Aaren_Augustine · 2017-01-21T21:09:56+00:00

Judging from your lack of content history, I'd say your probably boring. Then couple that with the lack of effort, and information you've negated to post, I'd say lazy too.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2017-01-21T21:34:03+00:00

post a pic from the internet of someone you resemble but isnt you

[deleted] · 2017-01-21T20:48:30+00:00

That would be impossible to deduce on the internet.

Skratt · 2017-01-21T21:11:38+00:00

Tbh I can't do nothin but point you to TRP fam. While social circles do help there's still hope if you don't have one. But yeah, go to TRP. my advice as a woman is to lift. From how you're talking you sound like a cutie. Get in the gym and get fit. The rest, go look at TRP for it. But women will always love a fit man, and y'all better fuck off with that 'u don't have to lift! Love urself' bullshit because sometimes people need something else to make them feel confident. I can look in the mirror and poke at my stomach and call it cute and marshmallow and fluffy but I know I'll feel my best when I have abs. Some people just work that way.

Anyway, good luck :) hug

And don't let TRP make you bitter. Get your advice for fitness, etc and get the hell out. Try to lock the negativity out. Ok?

mixa0815 · 2017-01-21T23:37:50+00:00

As someone that was a hardcore incel/untouched kissless virgin until 28 I’d advice the following.

+1 Hookers. Escorts. NOW. If you were like me, you probably have deep, deep, oh so extremely deep seated feelings of fear and/or inadequacy that are holding you back. DON’T. Bang some hookers, push through your fear, have some fun and your outlook on life will VASTLY improve. The best thing about whores is that you don’t need to prance around all that social bullshit just to bed a pretty face. Your intention is clear. You pay. You get to have some fun (if she’s worth her money, if not find a better one). Easy.

+2 How high is your level of rage and/or hate for women/society in general? High? E.R. high? Good! Let your anger and hatred BURN. Use your (hopefully) unfathomable hate and rage and turn it into something productive. My advice: lift, lift, lift and get as fit and ripped as possible. The ego push you will get from this is EXTREMELY important. Non-incels cannot and will never understand the amount of extreme and pure hatred that the human mind is capable of. USE. THIS. I was working on my body for 3 hours a day, while working a full time job. No excuses.

+3 Quench/kill your empathy. STOP. GIVING. A. SHIT. ABOUT. OTHER. PEOPLE. NOBODY cares the SLIGHTEST about you (except maybe your parents), other people only care how they can use you and what you can provide for them. Don’t be the fool that gets used by other people. Learn how to exploit them. Tell them what they want to hear so you get what YOU want. The only, ONLY empathy I feel now is for other incel guys, because I know EXACTLY how shitty their life is.

+4 Improve your style and spend your fucking money on some better clothes. Don’t try to find/create your own style (you will fail). Just find a well groomed/dressed guy and emulate/copy his style.

I still don’t have any friends (nor do I want/need any, I despise humans and social interactions in general) but with +1, +2, +3, and +4 in place I was able to pick up chicks in broad daylight by approaching them and asking them if they want to fuck.

wub1234 · 2017-01-21T21:04:34+00:00

I would advise you to do two things.

Be as sociable as possible and meet as many new people as possible. Try to extend your social circle.

Get the best pictures taken of yourself that you possibly can, and plug away relentlessly on dating sites, never feeling discouraged when you get rejected because that happens to everyone.

What you have to understand is that many women have unrealistic standards. I don't know what percentage. Women on here will respond strongly to this statement either denying it, or saying that men often have unrealistic standards as well (correct).

But I have seen it so many times that women think they're going to get someone perfect. They think they're going to get some heartthrob-type guy. See this thread, for example.

That's why it's so incredible to me that people on this sub-reddit claim that they never knew looks mattered when they were younger because all of the girls at my school pretty much completely ignored every boy of their own age because they were 'gross / icky / insert insult here'.

The only way to be successful is to:

(a) maximise your appeal;

(b) accept that you're going to rejected over and over again whatever you do;

(c) push through this and don't take it personally.

If you do those three things then you will experience some success, although there are no guarantees that you will get exactly what you want.

fuckstalkers1122 · 2017-01-21T21:05:06+00:00

It's because you're short.

Don't waste your time with online dating. Online dating only works for men of average or above average looks. Nobody is going to be like, "yeah this guy is below average looks but let me setup a date and waste hours of my life getting to know him because maybe he is amazing enough for his looks not to matter". Nobody does that.

If you have any chance at all, the women need get to know you first and then decide that you are good enough that maybe your looks don't matter that much.

And with respect to height specifically, it can be a real bitch cause height is a deal breaker, not just a preference for most women.

bonerdude420 · 2017-01-21T23:13:25+00:00

Your appetite outweighs your talent.

Either lower your standards or improve your value

AnUndecidedPill · 2017-01-21T20:59:17+00:00

This is not the place to ask for advice like this, because you're going to get bad advice from women who would never date you themselves.

Go on the Red Pill and you will find some tips that actually work. I don't want to alarm you but being a virgin at 29 should be a bit scary, although I understand that in today's world, if you have physical and social deficiencies you can easily wind up in that situation.

You may be in for an uphill battle, but if you're ready to take it up, don't lose hope yet. Just take some of the advice from people that were in your spot (not internet women who "aren't like that") and set up a game plan.

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AnUndecidedPill · 2017-01-21T21:14:39+00:00

But there are men with no friends who still get a gf.

Really?

EchoZeroEleven · 2017-01-21T21:19:38+00:00

Why?

Well, let's evaluate. What is your plan for getting laid and getting a relationship?

What were the last few plans that didn't pan out? What did you learn from them?

Littleknownfacts · 2017-01-21T23:00:20+00:00

Probably because you have daddy issues.

Returnofthemack3 · 2017-01-21T23:56:05+00:00

It's probably not due to just one factor honestly. Yes, you need social skills, but as you've already discovered, looks DO matter. If you haven't already, i'd suggest getting into shape, lifting, and grooming well (stay clean, get a good haircut, wear decent clothes). You should seek to maximize your aesthetic because it will help you in more ways than one.

But yeah, if your social skills are SUPER bad, then I suggest you work on that and get to talking to people more.

[deleted] · 2017-01-22T00:29:19+00:00

Well, if your username is any indication...

Title	I need to know the truth. Why am I a virgin at 29?
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Upvotes	2
Comments	58
Date	January 21, 2017 8:44 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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