Who is at fault in a deadbedroom situation where the woman wants sex and the man won't give it to her?

[deleted] · 2016-02-17T18:24:06+00:00

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panickedperson · 2016-02-17T18:07:47+00:00

without any context I can't say either way.

Personally I can't wrap my head around this, because generally I'm always horny. That being said, I did go through a period where I didn't want to have sex with my ex, but that was NOT lack of drive, it was that I knew beyond all doubt any sex I got from her would be a pity fuck at best. The blow to my ego was larger than my drive to bust a nut. LOL

wtknight · 2016-02-17T18:24:21+00:00

My answer is no different than before. It's up to a couple to compromise when it comes to sexual disagreements. If they can't come to an agreement, then it's both of their faults, unless one person refuses to budge at all, then it's that person's fault.

5th_Law_of_Robotics · 2016-02-17T18:20:08+00:00

Her fault.

He's likely tired from a long day at the office.

She should take some time off from whatever she's doing to work on his accounts.

Also she should make sure he feels pretty and appreciated all the time and never ask for anything in return.

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red-triad · 2016-02-17T19:06:58+00:00

The person at fault is the person that causes it. lol

Look. Dead Bedrooms isn't as a clear issue as people seem to think it is. It is natural to say the one who does not want to have sex is at fault. But you need to look at why. Mrs A does not want to have sex with Mr B. Mr B rightly accuses Mrs A of not wanting to have sex with him.

So now let us look at why. Mr B has turned into a fat slobby fuck. He smells bad. Mr B is clearly at fault because expecting someone to lie underneath you while you grunt your way to an orgasm is kinda fucked up.

Now if Mrs A is in fact a fat ugly cow, and Mr B just can't get it up... Well you know where I am heading with this.

Always try to figure out why it is a dead bedroom. Most of the time it either means attraction has left the building or it points to other relationship problems like lack of respect etc. Do not discount cheating either.

[deleted] · 2016-02-17T20:41:44+00:00

Depends..

Did she get fat? her fault

Did he get fat and get ED? his fault

ozymandias271 · 2016-02-17T21:45:31+00:00

It depends on the situation? I think most deadbedrooms aren't really anyone's fault, they're just unfortunate situations in which everyone is doing their best.

Title	Who is at fault in a deadbedroom situation where the woman wants sex and the man won't give it to her?
Author	panickedperson
Upvotes	1
Comments	31
Date	February 17, 2016 6:03 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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