I [21/F] find my boyfriend's [23/M] friends hotter than my boyfriend and I have this raging crush on his best friend - what do I do?

crazyjabari · 2019-09-30T20:42:54+00:00

Do you really love your boyfriend then?

rosequartzmermaid · 2019-09-30T20:47:18+00:00

Don't try to take a man in a relationship, anti-girl code. If you don't see a future with your current partner, dont waste your time and opportunity to find someone more fitting. If you just think the other guy is more attractive, check your values and level of commitment.

Frrrosty · 2019-09-30T21:17:03+00:00

Leave your boyfriend and don't date anyone for a while. This situation sounds worse than the ones redpill men think up.

artsyluna · 2019-09-30T23:48:41+00:00

The real issue here is that you have been misleading your boyfriend about your feelings for a really long time. That kind of break in trust will keep him hurting for a long time after you are gone. And he will find out eventually, if he doesn’t already know. Start being a good person and end it before he sinks more years into you than he already had.

Crushes are normal as long as you don’t let them get to you, but the bigger problem is that you never loved your boyfriend in the first place.

[deleted] · 2019-09-30T20:52:25+00:00

End your relationship.

ohris · 2019-09-30T21:11:33+00:00

He's not fulfilling you. You are not fulfilling him because you "lack that chemistry".

This went on for 3 years. Don't waste another second. Break it off then go find yourself a Bradley. Many of them out there.

_your_cat_is_ugly · 2019-10-01T21:34:53+00:00

I don't think you should stay with your boyfriend. Women and men experience love and attraction differently. A man can notice a woman is more physically attractive then his wife and think about sex with her and still be devoted to his wife. It's not the same with women. Women don't like to think about this but it's true. A woman's husband has to be the most desirable man to her. Women are hypergamous by nature and the man of her choosing has to keep that in check. Your boyfriend doesn't keep that in check for you. You need to finish with him before you cheat on him.

Vellore992 · 2019-09-30T22:26:52+00:00

Break up with your bf and meet new people. Bradley is not the last crush you'll ever have.

cassandrarose39 · 2019-10-01T13:54:52+00:00

RP women is big on NO mate poaching. That means you shouldn’t be going out of your way like this. Quit thinking about him and stop being on his social media friends list!

This is why men go totally red pill because some women branch swing and to do it with your boyfriends best friend is going to be extremely damaging if this other guy will even take you. The social fallout will be intense because no body is going to like you breaking up several relationships.

Either understand this is your nature and get it under control and love your boyfriend or dump him and find a new completely single guy.

The point of vetting is finding the best you can get so you don’t entertain the thoughts of branch swinging. I know for instance I’m not going to find a former special ops, almost 6ft, 7in private area, 2 master degree holding, six figures, no former kids, no debt, no criminal record, no addictions, no divorced parents guy, ever. So I might get a brief arousal from a guy but it’s a blimp on the radar compared to what I have at home.

This is why you should be vetting for the best for you.

ImmersionVoidParagon · 2019-10-01T19:36:06+00:00

You should probably just break up with your boyfriend in any case.

WellIllbedipped · 2019-10-03T16:51:03+00:00

Please don't be offended but women who string men along in this fashion usually end up sleeping with the Bradley. This way of acting is a gigantic chunk of why red pill philosophy exists to begin with. He deserves your best or nothing at all. This luke warm love you're offering him will only hurt him in the end. Be an adult and follow your heart. You're cheating both of you out of valuable time to find and be with someone who will ultimately make you happy and you'll end up cheating on him if not with Bradley some other guy who does it for you. That will break his heart and hurt some other woman's chances with him (and he will be exactly what she wants but won't be able to love purely due to your damage.)

This isn't as judgmental of you as you may think, because we all sometimes make decisions because we don't want to hurt someone. That is a fear based decision and fear ALWAYS leads to the worst interpersonal choices. Moreover when the other party finds out how you weren't honest the damage is multiplied exponentially. Either reel in your fantasy thoughts or break it off with him without mentioning Bradley. Staying there feeling as you do is setting yourself up for an EPIC FAIL!

I feel for you and him and wish you the best.

Title	I [21/F] find my boyfriend's [23/M] friends hotter than my boyfriend and I have this raging crush on his best friend - what do I do?
Author	rosequartzmermaid
Upvotes	0
Comments	28
Date	September 30, 2019 8:28 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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