Summary:

  • I've been dating this HB 8.5 for the past several weeks
  • We've gotten intimate a few times and she's constantly demonstrated high IOI towards me; i.e. maintaining frame has been effortless as she lets me lead the way on our dates and I've been playing it cool all the way.
  • She mentioned in the past about having been in an open relationship, in addition to hanging out with guy friends on days that we're not together. I was fine with this non-exclusive arrangement of ours, as it was communicated indirectly and not anything that was agreed upon verbally, i.e. me participating in some poly scheme of hers (aka cuckoldry).
  • Then, on our last date last night she mentions how two of her guy friends came over recently and saw these photo booth pictures we had taken the week before, and that they wanted to meet up with us for drinks. I became a bit defensive and told to her that I didn't want to meet other lovers of hers ( which was the sense I got).
  • She informed me that both of them were just friends and one was actually a woman with a guy's name. She also informed me that there was another person with whom she's romantically involved with besides me. I didn't care, and came off indifferent because that's her business.
  • She tried enjoying herself for the rest of the date, although I sensed she got a bit detached. We had some drinks afterwards and I asked if she was ok—she asked me to clarify what I meant earlier, and I did; telling her that it was just about respecting each other's privacy at this stage of our interaction and not make things complicated. That seemed to put her mind at ease.
  • I did make a calculated risk by giving her extra attention at the bar to make up for conversation that came up. I also gave her this rose I was saving for the end of our date when I dropped her off, to which she kissed me twice, put one foot out of the car and then re-entered to kiss me a third time before leaving.
  • But then—she texts me this morning to inform me that we will no longer be meeting up with her plutonic friends for drinks; when I responded by setting up other plans later in the week, she canceled on those too and said that she was going to be busy until the following week.
  • Normally, we get together on Fridays and have sex, so this was a clear message that she's either checking out or shit testing me to see if I'm going to break and chase her. I basically responded by telling her no prob and wished her a good rest of the week, i.e. being indifferent.

So is she shit testing me or checking out? I'm planning on soft nexting her regardless whenever she does reach out and then maybe string her along for at least another week before reestablishing a meet. I'll also spend this time working on another plate I have going on.

Suggestions, please!