Strong initial attraction killed by my neediness

Elprez91 · 2019-10-16T11:25:32+00:00

Oneitis budddyyyy, move on fuck other girls. She may pop up again who knows thats for the etha to decide.

frognads · 2019-10-16T11:35:37+00:00

Move the fuck on. You can't put toothpaste back in the tube.

Also I happily fuck girls on their periods. Grab a condom and do it in the shower, or just put a towel down if it's not too heavy. Turn off the lights and you're golden.

thebadguy89 · 2019-10-16T15:35:58+00:00

She must be hot as fuck for you to start acting so needy. Don't worry this happened to me too. I fucked a 9.5 and then afterwards I started thinking about her almost nonstop, to the point where I was texting her and providing her attention almost every day after. She started withdrawing and then I soon realized too that I was killing her attraction.

Didn't talk to her for 2-3 weeks, then she starts hitting me up again. Now I ration my attention extremely carefully, even going out of my way to limit the scope of my responses to her.

Hot chicks get so much attention every day that it's basically a negative thing to give them. Give the bare minimum and nothing more, and it will instantly separate you from the rest of her orbiters.

McDrMuffinMan · 2019-10-16T15:45:10+00:00

Unless you see her all the time, move on, oneitis is rough.

Live an interesting life around other women and she will come back.

BusterVadge · 2019-10-16T20:07:07+00:00

Do you guys think I can regain attraction?

Nope, you done fucked up when you over invested. Your frame broke... Women want to invest in a man emotionally before he returns that investment. It freaks them out if they don't do it first.

I had a similar experience in the past that almost exactly mirrors yours. I'm not a creep so I left her alone right away and pursued other women. I still think of that one date as the one that sets the bar for the dates I go out on now these days. And I don't get emotionally invested right away anymore either.

LAdude71 · 2019-10-17T09:22:04+00:00

I did the same thing. She only wanted to fuck, while I fantasized us being a couple and parading her in front of everyone I know so they'd see that yea I can pull hot chicks. I told her I liked her and what did a guy have to do to move closer to the front of her life.... REJECTED on the spot!

I didn't get the hint and texted her something mushy and she texted back " I'll text u another day". I recognized that as a rejection and went no contact. Deleted all her info and moved on. That was April 2018. More than a year ago. I haven't heard from her since... And I never even came close to fucking her.

Sometimes you gotta drop a chick you messed up with and take the L as a learning experience to never do it again.

I guarantee you if you contact her again, she will roll her eyes and be annoyed. And it will not make her respect you any more. She's making fun of you to her friends. And she'll show them 'that annoying guy' (you) keeps bothering her.

Is that how you want to be viewed?

You messed up. Leave her alone. Analyze every interactions you had with her. Do research. AND NEVER repeat the same needy mistakes. Women have a super power to detect neediness. You need to to get rid of it ASAP.

Chalk it up as a loss. You cannot unspoil milk.

Title	Strong initial attraction killed by my neediness
Author	Greek-God-Brody
Upvotes	1
Comments	12
Date	October 16, 2019 11:05 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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