Men over inflate the number of previous partners women have. How to make them see the truth.

cassandrarose39 · 2019-11-03T13:53:31+00:00

You can’t fight gossip and rumors. That’s just life. The best thing you can do is show your truth by your behavior. Sleeping around has some pretty obvious signs and more importantly witnesses. Do others see you staying out all night with this or that man? Do they see you around town with these guys? They are telling a bold lie they can’t back up by any facts.

Being an introvert doesn’t help matters in this regard because then not many people know you enough to dispute the truth.

Red pill men are suspicious of all women because they have most likely been hurt by women. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “hurting people hurt others”. The more you try to convince one of those guys you are “pure” enough the more they aren’t going to believe you. A simple I don’t sleep around period, then drop it. That’s all it takes. Then it doesn’t look like you’re over compensating for something.

The only way you can prove it is by time. Also opportunity. When you keep your word and promises that’s a good indicator you don’t stray. Having someone flirt with you and try to get you to cheat but you don’t is the real ultimate test. See this or that person tried but failed. This goes for both men and women.

ToraChan23 · 2019-11-03T14:56:52+00:00

To be honest, even if you’ve legit been with 3 men, many guys would think THAT is too many. You honestly won’t change a guy’s mind who thinks like this.

But if you are the best woman you can be, even if a man thinks you rode the carousel, he could look past that and see you as more than an N count. Literal pornstars get married, even to non pornstars. If you’re able to enhance his life in ways beyond sex, if he is a man worth being with, your “hypothetical past” would be inconsequential.

You partially have to blame your sisters in the West, who made being sexually promiscuous trendy and empowering. Media such as Sex and The City make the sexually empowered woman seem like what women should aspire to, so it makes sense that men see things like this, paired with their own experiences, as the norm for women to sleep around.

Women (and men) have to learn how to deal with people who are selling what you’re buying.

Manny1400 · 2019-11-03T15:30:03+00:00

I think this is a situation where the behavior of some women tars the reputation of others. While most woman are NOT promiscuous (this has been established through research), if just a few girls in the dorm are sleeping with dozens of guys, it makes everyone look bad.

The same is true for men, and if some guy in the dorm commits a date rape, all the other guys are looked at with suspicion.

But I honestly wouldn't worry too much about the N count and attitudes toward it. My wife's N count is double mine, and I was initially a bit concerned about it, but ended up marrying her anyway, and have been happy ever since. Now this doesn't mean women shouldn't be concerned about their reputations, and start sleeping around, but have a higher N count than average doesn't make a girl "not marriage material"

I'm not sure if guys really do the multiples in their head when you tell them the number of guys you've slept with. I haven't known any guy who does that. Yes, over on redpill/mgtow sites dudes do that, but they have their own issues.

RomanianAcre · 2019-11-03T15:46:36+00:00

Could you blame them? Most men don't believe anymore in women because they have usually lie to the partner, Where I live, this is common, because every woman in the 30s and is looking for a men to hook is already have dozens of mens, or the fact that most hide behind the "Evangelical Conversion".

But, if you're a "Christian", and really believes in God, you shouldn't look for those kind of men, because they are using the promiscuous culture to get laid, and most part, to forget about women, the only way to "make them see the truth" is to convert them, even so, could be false and a excuse to get laid with you.

But, in general, wasn't born Christian, became one recently, nobody believes, because I'm in my 20s, people start to say that I was gay, or that I want to have sex with a person more "pure"; since I'm catholic, a "traditional sedevacantist" one, and I avoid every single contact with the "modernist Vatican II sect" and it's people, I overcome my lonesome life by simply shrug off these thoughts, because: " if they're not my blood, why should I be near them?", Believe me, social interactions are overrated, especially with random people Wich you don't know.

If you bother to read until this, let me answer you last question: You won't, there are a lot of guys who willingly would assume you by whoever background that you have, but they're the desperate ones, the "redpilled" hardly will trust you because the thousands of antiman laws and social constructs against them, if you wanna keep your virginity, they'll thought that you're cheating him, personally, I wouldn't believe too and would never discover such things, because I prefer to be away from the "promiscuous relationships", because the opposite situation is worse, male virginity is mocked upon, even the "catholics"(modernists), and I usually don't interact with the "traditional" because I go to the mass in other town, to talk is hard because I don't have any in common with them, and If I tried to talk with women, it will looks like a engagement, and the trust, although I must say that you need to convert to traditional catholicism, I would say: try with cautious the ones who are the same religion of you.

vintagegirlgame · 2019-11-03T18:42:44+00:00

You don’t need to convict ”men”, or the rotten teenagers from your past, of the truth. You just need one man who will trust you at your word. If this guy you were with didn’t trust that you were a virgin (not something someone in their late 20s would usually come up with) then there’s not enough trust to build a solid relationship.

Teens can be brutal. But those days are over and it’s really amazing how little from high school matters once people grow up.

Focus on your growth. Enjoy blossoming into a new woman that people from high school wouldn’t recognize now. Ignore the rumors and prepare yourself to meet a man who will trust you.

On a side note but kind of related... The other night my fiancée made a comment about how I looked so cute and young, like I was an innocent little 17 year old (he met me at 22, now I’m 32, thank the wife goggles!) Last night that comment led to some sexy role playing where I was my 17 year old virgin self and he “took my virginity.” It was really sexy and actually felt kind of symbolic, as if he went back in time and took me before I could be with any other men ;)

drunk_fish1 · 2019-11-03T16:14:28+00:00

Marry a grown up who doesn't listen to gossip and isn't interested in your past sexual relationships. That's what I did anyway x

huntresshottie · 2019-11-03T22:00:55+00:00

All you can do is tell the truth. If he doesn’t trust you then that’s on him and you should consider maybe finding someone a bit more trusting. The sad truth is that most people who are like that are not trustworthy themselves. He assumes you are lying bc he knows that’s what he would do, or already is doing (lying that is).

Sobinia · 2019-11-05T09:43:35+00:00

Often times, girls that act very "prude" and "pure" are in reality doing so to cover up the fact that they're promiscuous. I'm not sure how many girls in your area sleep around, but if most of them do so, men might simply assume that you're one of them, especially if you (subconciously) give out signals that you might have a high N-count. After all, what's more likely to occur? A girl in a "high-slut-count-area" learning to give BJ's through practice, or PDF's? Why would a virgin read abput such things, guys may ask? There are so many other things to research, after all!

Title	Men over inflate the number of previous partners women have. How to make them see the truth.
Author	peripeti
Upvotes	28
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Date	November 3, 2019 1:29 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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