LTR barely initiates anything

VasiliyZaitzev · 2019-12-03T07:24:23+00:00

Congrats, you are the man in the relationship. You LEAD, she FOLLOWS.

Also, from a personality perspective she sounds ideal. Submissive, likely an introvert. You should introduce light bondage in the bedroom.

EDIT: Further reading:

Uncle Vasya’s Guide to Submissive Women

-How to lead when she wants to follow.

Of Human Bondage – Uncle Vasya’s Guide for Men Who Like To Tie Up Young Ladies.

-The Field Guide to playing knotty games with naughty girls.

Of Human Bondage, Part II: Slave Girls Are Fun

-When Life Sends You a Slave Girl, Put a Collar on Her.

Red_Raze · 2019-12-03T07:10:07+00:00

How is it bad that she's not bothering you all day?

smgtn · 2019-12-03T09:25:49+00:00

I've dated a couple of chicks like that. I dropped them both, because they just got painfully boring. There's definitely a type of girls like that. They almost never text first, but always respond. In parties they sit in a corner or on your lap, but rarely ever talk. While driving in a car you have to do all the talking. They never initiate sex, but never refuse it, however in bed they are more or less starfish. They never dress sexy. Trying to make them be more active and participate is usually futile.

I found out from my friends that one of those chicks is a lot more active when she's not with me, they said maybe I intimidate her. She was a solid 9, also 8 years younger than me so it was a pity to let such thoroughbred go, but had to be done.

Many dudes want submissive girls, but be careful what you ask for. I just couldn't take it, a feminine woman in my view is bubbly and talkative - I don't have to listen to her bullshit, but I consider it a feminine trait.

13248 · 2019-12-03T07:11:53+00:00

Normal. Men almost always initiate. She's being submissive.

studentsensei · 2019-12-03T15:43:51+00:00

Why should she initiate anything if you always do it for her?

rizzyfromthe9 · 2019-12-03T16:23:25+00:00

Stop hanging out with her so much to start

MattyAnon · 2019-12-03T15:24:41+00:00

She doesnt want to annoy me / bother me

This is not the real reason.

She figures if I want something I will tell her

This is another justification.

Cant tell if this is good or bad. Thoughts?

It's good she lets you lead, it's bad that she's passive in a LTR. It's very normal AT FIRST.... but ultimately it's lazy and avoidant on her part.

In a LTR the girl should pick up her side of things rather than you continually doing everything. You need to set this up from the start, rather than letting her get lazy which (sad to say) has already happened and you probably can't fix it now.

For me, this whole passive-LTR thing sucks and I don't do it. It tends to lead to laziness and disrespect on her part due to lack of investment, but your mileage may vary.

Ultimately you need to decide if this is ok with you. If it bothers you, you'll have to replace her.

i-am-the-prize · 2019-12-03T14:10:26+00:00

She could be ideal/submissive as other more experienced guys have written. (Understand many (many) men would be very happy getting laid/blown 'every time') If you find her overall passivity too boring for your tastes:

1) This is an LTR, so you're at Dread level 5, yes?

2) You tried 1000' of rope to do a little drive motivation?

Haytch1234 · 2019-12-03T21:06:21+00:00

Its nothing bad. Girls like that can be abit boring but they are submissive and going with your lead.

Use it to your advantage

DTron2332 · 2019-12-03T17:48:54+00:00

That’s fine, as long as you’re getting everything you want does it really even matter?

Try seeing her less, maybe 3-4 days a week instead of everyday if possible. Women need time to miss you, since this time eventually will lead to idealization, which is very powerful in itself.

I myself love submissive women, she could be the type that really thinks her own voice is annoying as shit, and in return doesn’t want to bother you.

Domebeers · 2019-12-03T21:46:16+00:00

just stop initiating when you are with her. Don't be weird, do your normal shit, but if like you usually put on a movie and then initiate, put on the movie but don't initiate.

She wants to fuck to OP. She'll crack and start to fuck you. After, tell her how hot it was that she jumped your bones (reward the behaviour you like)

kclanton80 · 2019-12-03T17:45:45+00:00

We hang out almost every day. ....... That's your problem right there. Cut back to seeing her once a week.

Title	LTR barely initiates anything
Author	whothefookareyoum8
Upvotes	25
Comments	42
Date	December 3, 2019 6:41 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/e5d2s8/ltr_barely_initiates_anything/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/ltr-barely-initiates-anything.297601 https://theredarchive.com/post/297601

Comments