How do you handle girls that show a tremendous amount of interest but still try to flip the coin by playing hard to get?

somejerseydude · 2019-12-09T12:59:27+00:00

When in doubt ask her out. Escalate and find out.

smirk_addict · 2019-12-09T13:15:32+00:00

I saw your reply when someone asked you did you ask her out. She’s definitely trying to switch the dynamic, probably because she’s used to guys chasing her. Don’t force your hand. You may have to move her into soft next territory. I had a very similar situation recently. I hard nexted because even though this girl was super into me, she still wasn’t above wasting my time. And this was her on her best behavior.

smgtn · 2019-12-09T14:09:30+00:00

You handle them by ditching them.

I'm a magnet of this shit. Here's a lowdown of my Saturday. I connect with this chick from a dating site. Bunch of messages and a video call later - she's hooked. During the video chat I set the mood - tease her about her tits and ass with positive results. She's down. She lives in a middle of nowhere, so she travels ~2 hours to meet me. We meet and she's not receptive to kino at all, says she "doesn't like to be touched". She's not running away so I keep doing my thing anyway and she seems to be slightly warming. A drink, meal and a walk later we head to my apartment. I try to escalate further and she puts up a military grade ASD-LMR. Apparently she's one of those idiots indoctrinated that withholding sex will get you to be their boyfriend. I say my goodbyes and soft next her. Just another Saturday.

PillUpAss · 2019-12-09T13:23:21+00:00

Abundance.

12qwww · 2019-12-09T13:11:30+00:00

She is shit testing you. Hold frame until she yield or you get bored.

Massap24 · 2019-12-09T15:28:47+00:00

Lol don’t entertain that shit at all. Had a girl show me intense interest this Saturday. She was even complaining that during a previous encounter that I didn’t ask her out. I tell her give me your # and she replies “no you can have my snap”. No bitch wrong answer, immediate next. They want extra attention, never give it to them.

Friendly-Casper · 2019-12-09T15:35:51+00:00

she still tries to put up the "good girl" by telling "I'm not like that", "I'm not that easy"

Experience tells me, instant red flag. Next that girl, she's wasting your time cause she's immature and has no clue what she actually wants.

wenoopic · 2019-12-09T18:36:27+00:00

Ok. I have the answer you need, but I prefer more detailed reports.

I see that you did something right and I may tell you how to do it.

Actually, what I wrote was bullshit, but got you hooked, right?

That's because you wanted an answer, same as the girl wants you. She is obviously gaming you, with whatever bullshit method she is following.

When you go gaming a girl, you want it to work, so your interest rises if you get a hope that it is working. That's rewarding, and the reward stimulates you to keep trying. Also you have interest in not fucking it, so you are sensible to punishments.

Now realize that she wants the same thing. She wants her trickery to work, and you have the power of controlling that thing she wants.

That's what I had on mind when I wrote the first phrases: to throw a mix of punishments, rewards, telling you what you need to do so you get the hope of getting it, and you get more invested. I put myself the position of the judge and the rule maker.

That's what you have to do with her: take control of the frame by rewarding, punishing, and making paths towards you.

You comment that you like certain things, so she knows what she has to do. You punish her, so she knows what not to do, and you throw some small rewards, so she is stimulated to keep trying, and to raise the bet.

That way you take control of the frame, and give to her a possible way to get what she wants,by following your rules.

McVaghunter · 2019-12-09T13:29:55+00:00

Logistics goddammit!

ceilingsky95 · 2019-12-09T14:21:09+00:00

If she makes you wait for it, remember, the pussy is NEVER worth the wait

HurricaneHugues · 2019-12-09T16:03:36+00:00

Where is the part where you said you asked her out on a real date? I can't find it

FinancialThanks1 · 2019-12-09T12:54:34+00:00

Did you ask her to meet up?

NorsemanLewis · 2019-12-09T13:00:06+00:00

Did you go out with her? It is not clear where you stand with her in the post, is she refusing to meet up or have you met up and tried anything?

eatclentrenhard69 · 2019-12-09T20:02:13+00:00

Girls that do this are either shit testing, or they just want attention. Try escalating. After 2 tries if she's still shutting you out - move on. These games are not worth the effort.

Title	How do you handle girls that show a tremendous amount of interest but still try to flip the coin by playing hard to get?
Author	ElijahBurningWoods
Upvotes	4
Comments	24
Date	December 9, 2019 12:42 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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