http://www.oregonlive.com/dining/index.ssf/2015/03/woman_seeks_100000_from_portla.html#incart_m-rpt-1

1) Expecting to be able to eat nice food on Valentine's day with a man, and choosing to express her independence by showing up alone to a packed restaurant full of couples, caused her to become absolutely unhinged. She decided to confront the situation to prove something, and all she felt when she showed up was shame and embarrassment.

2) A hamster will find a way to either justify, dismiss, or resolve her bad feelings, by social manipulation. She wanted to prove so hard that she wasn't embarrassed because she showed up alone to a night designed to highlight romantic relationships, that she invented a reason why she felt bad, that had nothing to do with her, caused completely by a 3rd party.

3) A hamster will find a way to throw any innocent bystander under the bus to save face, no matter how elaborate or poorly thought out her scheme is.

4) A hamster will perceive all actions through the spinning wheel, so that everything is seen as confirmation of the wheel she is spinning. She set a reservation for 2 people and failed to produce her other person, so she was taking up extra real estate that the staff wasn't making any money off of. In asking her to move to a seat at the bar, she saw that as being told she wasn't welcome. And because she's black, her hamsterring whipped up the easiest explanation for why she wasn't welcome: Racism.

When you challenge a woman's perspective as if she were a man, you've lost simply by engaging. A woman's take on events is telling you what happened in her mind. She is the center of the story, and her feelings take precedence over real events.

The way women use language means, if she feels something, she will describe the events she saw as a metaphor for how she felt during the situation. That's very different from relaying the events that happened and saying how she felt about what transpired. That's why a woman would say "This creep was stalking me for 3 blocks after leaving the subway so I had to head to a public area because I didn't want to get raped in a dark alleyway." When, realistically, a man with an appearance that she felt disgusted by was walking in the same direction aft using public transportation, and her nervous decision was to assume he had ill intent. Instead of saying this: "At the corner of 43rd, a construction worker whistled at me from the second floor of the scaffolding because he found me attractive and thought I would like the compliment." You get a story closer to this: "I was harassed and cat-called by a bunch of pigs on my way to the coffee shop. I was so furious I flipped them off."

Don't confuse a woman's way of expressing her feelings with how things actually are. In conjunction with her feelings, her descriptions of events change as her feelings about them change. This is why you react with amusement and keep frame. Having a strong frame will ensure you won't find yourself an object of a woman's fantasy. Instead you'll be laughing at the smoke and mirrors that quit working when you stop believing in them.