Hey guys, was thinking that I grew rusty on many aspects of life lately and decided to try something out to see if it works bring me up. (I came to the point of frustration and almost a mental burnout, tried or thought I tried many things if not everything, but nothing worked like this at least for me so here you go).

The past year I discovered TRP, thanks to some of the delightful info I found here I got my self stuck out of many ruts. Having lost my mother to cancer last summer, it was a difficult year, so I forced my self to structure and maintain frame, and keep moving on making life interesting and hopeful again. After a while, I got tired of certain things and other things led me to a dead end, my mental health wasn't goint well.. At first I struggled, for months and nothing came by as a solution until I started accepting what is what for what it is. I had to accept and understand that some things came to be and I can't change them, like when you lose someone close. The thing is, until I came to accept this for example, it blew out risky and dangerous behaviors that almost cost me my life. I choked in booze and other stuff for a few months and got a scar above my eyebrow, the cost was minimal, it could've been my eye.. or my life had I not stopped to think what's wrong. I had troubles maintaining discipline, and a healthy positive mind to move forward.

So, I decided to try a method some friend insisted I do, to paraphrase him " When you do this, you've got the balls. I could try this too but I'm too much of a mess and afraid to do it now. " Anyway.

Step 1: Take a pencil and some paper, and track down what it is that's bothering you in your life and start writing it down. Be totally honest.

In order to create a new reality, you need to ditch your old beliefs that keep you stuck in a rut and hence making you have setbacks in game, lifting, work, economy, mental health and other important aspects. What you need to do, is track down what it is that's bothering you and what's lacking with complete honesty and ACCEPT it, which might hurt hence the difficulty of this process (Hence my friend being afraid as he's not yet ready to undergo this process), you do it when you're ready and immediately you'll know where to focus without procrastinating.

Step 2: Take it one by one, and start by what is most important or immediate for you to fix.

You feel like your work sucks lately because you lack the discipline to get up early and be in a happy mood? Does your work require public relations and you feel like you're bailing and cringing people out? Or you see you lost some gains because the past 5-6 months you were slacking off the gym and ate junk food often? Whatever it is, from simple to more complicated things by completing step 1 you'll know what's causing you to faulter. You will have a target now. Putting these in an order will help you manage your time and decide where you start and where you end, maybe in a few months of doing this you'll be more focused and do so much better at many aspects because you're not distracted. For me, it was a hard case as it all started with depression from the death of a loved one, and it affected all of the above aspects in the process, I didn't deal with it right away until I figured out what happened, accepted it for what it is, and decided to move on. I visited a therapist after months of being dependent on alcohol and nightlife to just hide the problem, and starting there I didn't think he solved anything for me, he only taught me how to track my problem down instead and solve it my-self through CBT, but it costed and I would go bankrupt in some time so I left and decided I was ready to fight this shit alone. I used to wake up in the morning from a vivid dream and I thought my mother was still alive, which means I never accepted she's gone in the first place. I didn't give my self time to grieve. Eventually I let go and let my emotions come natural but control them now. Then I started working on other aspects.

Step 3: Keep a backup in case you doubt yourself in the future, to remind you why you started changing in the first place. Then, repeat the process if necessary.

This is very important. You might feel doubt in the process, an alpha is always an alpha, this method will help you maintain frame and you need to do it at all times. You can't be successful socially and when you're alone you doubt yourself, you might ask "Do I deserve all this?" "Am I really capable?" Yes you do, yes you are. If you can't feel it then fake it till you make it, fakin' it till you make it isn't exactly faking. It works.. You are what you believe. Keep the lists you made and if you need to make a new one, the point is it's a method to help you manage your problems and focus on solutions for each one, one by one. So you don't get messy and give up. IN fact, it's a way to setting new goals if you haven't understood that by now, writing down what feels wrong in your life means you sense a problem, and start looking for a solution now. This will make you jump out of your comfort zone, which the first time might be hard and put you in an uncomfortable place, but eventually you become comfortable with the uncomfortable and learn to love challenges instead of looking the other way and play the victim card.

This is under development at the moment, I just wanted to share a little method that helped me grow even in just a few days, it rewires your brain to think positive and focus on goals and solutions instead of drowning in sorrow and the problems without taking action. Stay well.

Put this theory to the test if you like and let me know how it went.