We have sex 7+ times a week and it’s always great. She’s submissive and takes my load to the neck with alacrity.

The one thing that’s bothering me though is that she has done anal with an ex(es), but says she stopped enjoying it and no longer likes it; ergo, she doesn’t really want to do it with me although she’s willing to if I want to. But every time I even come near her butthole with my finger she pulls my hand away. I asked her why she pulls my hand away and she says she’s been worried about it not being clean. (Even though it’s right out of the shower) She also says she doesn’t “need it” to get off and loves our sex the way it is.

I told her I think it’s sexy when a girl likes ass play/anal and I’m into it. Somethings not adding up though and I know I’ll never know the truth, but she used a butt plug with her ex and claims to have only done it a few times. Obviously this means she took the sausage up the old turd cutter hundreds of times, but what’s the deal now? She’s also made the claim that she did it with her ex because their sex life was dying and they did that to spice it up.

Is she too comfortable? Is my SMV too low? I make her come to my office once a week and give me a blowjob and bring me lunch.

Or does she just genuinely not into anal anymore?

How should I proceed? She said she’s willing to do it with me if I really want it.