Does being rude work in an LTR?

redhawkes · 2020-10-09T18:05:32+00:00

Sure, do that, just let me grab my popcorn first.

Musicgoon · 2020-10-09T17:35:19+00:00

Those are weakling beta responses. You might as well wear a sign saying ,"my frame sucks". Try AA or a pressure flip. Being rude makes you look like a feminine little bitch.

Never stoop to her level.

This is shit test 101. Reread the sidebar about this.

Filmguy000 · 2020-10-09T17:40:24+00:00

Being a dick all the time will almost certainly drive her away in time. But as far as doing it for setting boundaries/holding frame, it really heavily depends on your overall SMV. Let's say a couple begins to argue over her bad behavior and she starts to step back.... If a tall, successful dude tells his woman to "come here, now!' and points to the ground, she will likely put her head down and obey. If a short, poor dude does it, she will tell him to fuck off and he will end up becoming another one of her "crappy ex boyfriend" tales in the future.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-10-10T15:06:54+00:00

No. This is some autistic level shit.

TRP: "Girls like to be teased."

TRPer n00b to girl: "You're a fat retard."

TRP: /facepalm

The best move is to Withdraw Attention.

Straight up insulting a girl shows that whatever she did got to you. If it's minor, look at her like she just ripped a huge fart and leave the room.

If you engaged directly, I would say "So...what is WRONG with you?"

What you contemplate amounts to "Look at me, over here, with my shattered Frame."

319Skew · 2020-10-09T18:37:21+00:00

I'm not cold enough or a sociopath so being rude as a tactic doesn't appeal to me and I've got better shit to do than be emotionally manipulative. That seems kind of a negative feminine trait, but you do you.

daproest1 · 2020-10-09T19:06:48+00:00

It depends. I’ll say this, it signals to their hindbrain that you can’t keep your shit together. You’re better off just being calm but stern, or withdrawing your attention until she behaves. It’s too deep to get into here, but being a dick will eventually do more harm than good. Being a dick, specially if you’re aggressive or mean, shows that you lost frame

BlocknGhost · 2020-10-09T19:18:02+00:00

Responding to her disrespect with any attention or engagement means you’re allowing that type of behavior to draw a reaction from you, which is exactly what she wants.

Snowboard18 · 2020-10-09T19:23:58+00:00

Ehhh it may work but that just sounds stupid as hell to do every time she shit tests you lol.

Instead, when she shit tests you, just pass the test w AA or any of the other ways to pass

When she is straight up disrespectful, the first time I’d say something like “watch yourself” with a stern face and if she keeps going I’ll probably just next her because why would I stay with a girl that’s constantly disrespectful when I have abundance and I know I could find a new one fast?

Title	Does being rude work in an LTR?
Author	theguytheguy1000
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	October 9, 2020 5:17 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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