What she said 🙃

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-10-28T04:28:07+00:00

Except, she’s a freeloading gold digger who should be grateful because they literally see this as our entire purpose in life and think they’re the victims (when they set it up this way). Women have been economical slaves for what... 99.8% of recorded history and now that some of us have the option to do something other than get married and pop out children in the last few decades, birth rates are declining (to my utter delight) and they’re crying about how we’re emasculating them and it’s oppression and waaah (when sooo many women worldwide are still essentially or literally slaves in one way or another). Men as a whole don’t support shit (and I’ll get down off my soapbox now, someone made a comment earlier about the declining birth rates and it got me fired up thinking about this lol)

Flightlessbirbz · 2020-10-28T14:51:12+00:00

This is something to bring up when men talk about “divorce r*pe.” Like yes I’m sure there are times when a divorce settlement is not fair, but men act like they owe literally nothing to the woman who gave up her career to raise their children and take care of their home (and usually take care of their adult baby ass as well).

harrohamtaro · 2020-10-28T12:37:34+00:00

In a healthy relationship it’s mutual support, whether be it earning the income or maintaining the household. They each have their own role. I don’t agree with how some people choose to skew contributions, like one gender must be the greater contributor.

abirdofthesky · 2020-10-28T17:04:57+00:00

Yesss if anyone wants to read some more feminist theory about this, check out Sylvia Federici's Caliban and the Witch. She charts the unacknowledged and critical role of women's domestic labor in the history of capitalism, and argues that witch hunts were a way to enforce a patriarchal structure that depended on exploiting women's labor.

warinmymind94 · 2020-10-28T18:15:59+00:00

100% true! Add the fact that what this "housewife" situation actually does is further trap you because you don't have a job, you don't have your own income, and when was the last time you actually had a job? It can be hard to find decent employment if you haven't had recent experience on your resume. Pyramid schemes aren't jobs.

This "housewife" situation is dangerous because the woman gets stuck with all the real work: the chores, cooking, the errands, taking care of the kids, entertaining, and being a tutor/mentor to the kids as they grow. The guy has it easy he works maybe 8 hours a day, comes home,.props his feet up and lounges on the couch while tv is blasting, and his wife has a homemade meal ready for him. His kids run over and happily hug their daddy. They'll run over all excited being like "dad i made a goal today at hockey practice and I got an A on my math test!" He will sit there lounging maybe play with them for about an hour. Then they'll start acting up or it'll get late and mom deals with the boo boos and melt downs and coerces them to actually get in bed and sleep. I've babysat ive seen how kids refuse to actually go to bed. What he doesn't realize is mom was the one really mentoring them through the math homework, dealing with the tantrums and meltdowns, and was the one that actually gave the kid the confidence to join hockey in the first place and did all the running to practices and getting the kids the hockey gear they needed. She's doing all the laundry and ran to the store for the right hockey shoes that fit him! And when she realizes its bad or she wants to start a job/ go to school he will fight her on it. In the housewife situation he gets all the perks of having a literal bangmaid babysitter and gets to just chill with his kids casually. Even if she wants to leave the situation makes it really tough! Don't be a housewife!!

2020-10-28T07:16:13+00:00

Adding this to my list of patriarchal reversals.

Title	What she said 🙃
Author	xoladybugxo
Upvotes	779
Comments	11
Date	October 28, 2020 3:48 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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