Two years ago I was a happy single girl who started dating someone.

he was hiding a drug addiction from me, at first I thought "oh may be he just does drugs at parties"

but this was an addiction to Vicodin/opiates, cocaine, Xanax and weed that spanned over a decade.

he stopped all drug use except for weed which I was okay with initially but then I realized how its impossible to hold a relationship with someone who is high 24/7.

My mom always said no one was perfect and it was okay for people to have issues.

Now I realize she just wanted me to settle down because she would rather have a married miserable daughter, rather than a daughter single in her late 20s.

once I started learning more and more through FDS I became so annoyed at everything he did . I get that no one is perfect but I would be much more happier alone than with someone who isn't right for me.

we're from different cultural backgrounds, his Chinese family constantly humiliated me for being Latinx, used and broke my things with out even asking or replacing them. His mom questioned me how come I don't feed her son vegetables (he was in the ER due to constipation). I always cooked and since I only cook hispanic food he always rejected it.

I am so so scared of going back to single life, but I am so glad I found this sub cause unlike before now I have a much more clear vision of who I want to be. I may not be there yet but I know I will get there. Also I don't even care if I ever get married or feel accepted by a man, cause I love myself and that's all that matters.