How big of a factor do you guys think “intelligence” is for women when liking a guy

Loquacious_Dragon · 2020-02-04T16:04:08+00:00

It's all looks and confidence for the 18-25 bracket.

After that money starts to come into it from 25-40.

btrpb · 2020-02-04T16:24:53+00:00

Intelligence is great but it doesn't get your foot in the door. Once you've got a woman into bed she will start to appreciate and respect your intelligence, but if you don't give her the tingles early on its irrelevant.

WIA20XX · 2020-02-04T15:29:32+00:00

Bottom of the barrel, if even a consideration.

redhawkes · 2020-02-04T17:32:40+00:00

For bitches, not a big factor, but for you, it is important, especially how you use it. If you use it in nerdish way, spewing intellectual diarrhea when you game, you'll dry out her pussy really fast. But, if you use it for quick remarks aka wit, teasing or Amused Mastery, destroying shit tests, you'll get far.

You've probably seen room temp IQ guys, talking/fucking chicks easily.

For attraction, you need emotional and social intelligence the most, for other shit like fixing things, mechanic, electronics, programming, use your rational/logical brain.

Domebeers · 2020-02-04T18:36:08+00:00

women care about credentials, they don't care about intelligence.

thrwy75479 · 2020-02-04T19:56:43+00:00

Women want someone that makes other people envious. If you, and/or what you've done with your life doesn't make anyone envious, no woman will be attracted to you.

If Brad Pitt was a server, people would glance, say he's attractive, move on with their life. Maybe he would score now and then. However, given the station he's reached in life, everyone looks, and ponders what it would be like to be in his position, and have his life.

People think the same way about geniuses like Einstein, artists like Elvis, businessmen like Gates, or athletes like LeBron.

Completely different appearances, varying levels of fame, and likely dissimilar levels of intelligence though none of them are stupid. The only thing in common with all of them is that, arguably, they maximized their potential, and made a dent in history.

People are drawn to such figures because they ooze confidence (even if they try not to), and invariably a portion of those people are women.

Youngyoda89 · 2020-02-04T17:17:37+00:00

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i-am-the-prize · 2020-02-04T15:31:54+00:00

HUGE.

I don't mean to toot my own horn, but I am quite intelligent (at certain things, a complete idiot in others).

And a few things which requires intelligence are wit, humour, and good sarcasm.

So intelligence, it doesn't manifest for me in that I'll drone on and on about nuclear physics to her, but it does mean that I am quick on my feet to make a witty comeback, it means I can tease her in a good way, and it means that I can hold my own in a conversation.

It also manifests itself in a way that I am a good conversationalist. I'll understand what she is talking about, i'm able to read between the lines, and I'm able to formulate a good response to her.

So it isn't intelligence itself, but how intelligence manifests itself which attracts them.

And of course, all if this is for nought if you don't have social skills. There are countless men with brains, but with the social skills of a wet piece of bread.

As for where to place it, that's impossible to say.

What makes a hamburger amazing? Is it the bread, the meat, or the cheese? You can't prioritise them in order because it's the combination of them.

Youngyoda89 · 2020-02-04T17:38:57+00:00

Women don’t care about intelligence. They’re never going to get with you just for being smart. But if you maximize your looks you can use your intelligence to maximize your fucking.

ThrowawayYAYAY2002 · 2020-02-04T16:29:38+00:00

Depends on how intelligent the women in your life are.

Bird brains? Yeah, they only know about the latest celebrity couple.

Smart women? They won't put up with a retard.

Youngyoda89 · 2020-02-04T18:39:05+00:00

Being a genius doesn’t mean you’re a scientist. A boxer could be a genius. And he figures out an algorithm that no one else can figure out and he is unstoppable. A homeless person can also be a genius with poor impulse control. Intelligence is just a tool.

NexusReflexX · 2020-02-04T19:32:03+00:00

Intelligence is very important. I dont mean educational intelligence tho. Social intelligence, if you have a high intelligence socially, you can have any girl you want.

Now add that high intelligence with muscles, a good haircut, wit, good smile, youre fucking golden.

Anyone telling you intelligence isnt important doesnt have any. Same way people who say money wont make you happy dont have any.

i-am-the-prize · 2020-02-04T19:36:47+00:00

it doesn't attract from afar, looks and social proof do.

then game takes over (and evolutionary, game is influence by intelligence: the impromptu mental quickness) so game shows social intelligence, which was key over time. so in this way intelligence does matter in the mating of early stage, but more "does he GET IT/get me" not "does he know what a Fourier transform is"

i think intelligence as an attribute for most women is: "a minimum threshold a guy has to have to not be a turn-off" (low intelligence can lead to boring dates, bad convo, lack of interest in the world, dumbasskids - things a woman wants in an LTR) so it won't matter as much for a girl's ranking for a FB/FWB, if he's ripped megachad with a 3rd leg, but hecan't spell tomatoe (without the e), she will still fuck him. but its more important for a woman wanting an LTR.

and the potential to earn money has been shown to be as attractive or more attractive than just having money, and intelligence (and work ethic and hunger) are key contributors to financial and career advancement and 'success'. so again it matters more for the LTR aged women.

rusruleti · 2020-02-04T21:21:42+00:00

Not as important as confidence.

shirtposder · 2020-02-04T21:31:51+00:00

Women's definition of intelligence is threefold: Does he give me the emotional tingles, is he making good money, and can he fix things around the house and solve my problems.

Women rarely if ever give a flying fuck if you are a history buff, how fascinated you are with psychology. They don't care. It doesn't have any tangeable benefit for them. It's entirely irrelevant.

However, I will play the NAWALT card, because I did date ONE girl whom did sincerely value my "non-useful" intelligence, and we would constantly read different books and discuss them together.

connor_kershaw · 2020-02-04T22:38:42+00:00

Absolutely zero... Women know I'm dumb as duck yet still manage it just fine. Obviously if you're like joey Essex kind of retarded then yeh it'd be a goodbye.

I mean why would they care about intelligence anyway its not like they're gonna be interested if you start to ramble on about how a rocket is made or something.

Good personality, good sex and the initial attraction of good looks is all that matters.

Massap24 · 2020-02-04T15:43:14+00:00

intelligence is pretty important and most guys on here saying no, lack it. There are multiple types of intelligence men need to show in order to attract a high quality woman. Humor is the first thing that comes to mind, witty, amusing banter is a sign of intelligence. Money and a large social circle is also an indicator of intelligence. Being healthy, street smart, fashion, etc. all signs of intelligence. This doesn’t mean you have to be a rocket scientist, more of a well rounded, sociable type of intelligent.

wowkwo · 2020-02-04T22:05:28+00:00

Intelligence is gleaned from money, looks, fame, personality etc.

"Intelligence" is a lagging indicator not valuable solely on it's own.

Rodent9 · 2020-02-05T01:01:44+00:00

Money is just an indicator of success. Success is an indicator of security & safety, which are vital for attraction and keeping a girl around, among other obvious aspects.

In my experience, the smarter the girl/more money she earns, the higher value she’ll place on intelligence and its associated products (job, money, security).

The FWB I’m currently vetting for an LTR (a few red flags but no deal breakers, I think) is apparently around 130iq, about to start a Masters in Town Planning and looking at earning 100k+ once she’s working full time. Very driven and disciplined, likes anal, doesn’t want kids, etc.

She’s probably not aware of her hypergamous nature, however she’s acutely aware that her options in finding a man that satisfies those criteria while being sexually satisfying are slim pickings.

Basically as I mentioned earlier, all women are hypergamous, but if her parents are surgeons for example or she herself is in a high-earning/high intelligence career, her standards will naturally be very high and she’ll expect a fucking smart partner.

Terdmuffin · 2020-02-05T01:30:49+00:00

I think intelligence itself is not super attractive on it's own. If you're really intelligent but a loser alcoholic with a dead end job then she won't care. But if you're using your intelligence to create and invent, gain an education that leads to a lucrative career, have wit and humor, etc, etc then it's attractive.

Think about it like this...most women don't find lifting weights and dieting and doing cardio attractive...they find ripped bodies attractive.

WiterS2 · 2020-02-05T03:11:24+00:00

You are completely wrong. That's beta thinking.

Women like you, when you approach, open, talk, keep frame, escalate, take her to bed, and have sex.

You give no sex, they give you no love.

They don't "like" you because you are pretty, or a good boy, or have "likable features".

mrpoopistan · 2020-02-05T03:29:06+00:00

It's not general intelligence that matters. It's a specific kind of socially competent intelligence. This is why women place an emphasis on a sense of humor. It reflects a form of intelligence that can be deployed in social combat as a status signal.

Deluxillo23 · 2020-02-05T11:02:33+00:00

Nothing by itself. You have to do great things with that

PandaLitter · 2020-02-04T17:39:07+00:00

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Title	How big of a factor do you guys think “intelligence” is for women when liking a guy
Author	NaughtybutNice17
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Date	February 4, 2020 3:26 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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