How to deal with short guys who overly try to "out-alpha" you?

bmking · 2020-02-21T11:23:22+00:00

Act with amused detachment. People that act like that are incredibly insecure.

His own actions are embarrassing himself, there no need for you to do anything.

Gtrplyr3838 · 2020-02-21T13:03:38+00:00

Why is he even in your head? The dude’s a waiter and you’re a customer. What is there to gain in this scenario?

teka7 · 2020-02-21T11:14:16+00:00

ignore them

RedLegendx · 2020-02-21T11:09:55+00:00

Treat em like a girl you’re trying to game without the sexual aspect of it, or you can leave the sexual aspect there if you really wanna fuck with their heads lol

2020-02-21T11:32:07+00:00

Give him your phone number pretend you're gay

lolomotif12 · 2020-02-21T13:55:56+00:00

A real alpha takes no notice of pretend alphas. Just ignore and carry on with your life unless their behaviour is threatening you physically or socially.

dudedoodickle · 2020-02-21T14:54:51+00:00

Imagine writing a post and analyzing an attitude of a fucking waiter. get a hobby

thrwy75479 · 2020-02-21T13:02:37+00:00

If he's being an asshole towards you, then you have to say, or do something out of self-respect.

If he's just being loud, ignore. Or, push his buttons by shushing him:

"(finger on mouth) Shhhhhh… let's stick to our indoor voices." <smirk>

verac757 · 2020-02-21T14:15:31+00:00

"Sir your Napoleon complex is showing." L

2020-02-21T14:22:34+00:00

I've tried to ignore and be friendly to these blue pilled beta bitches.....but after a year of dealing with these types i've decided to escalate and out-asshole them.

They usually back down then, these motherfuckers will continue to bark unless you do something about it. If you have the tolerance to keep ignoring these beta fucks for the rest of your life more power to you.

But sometimes u gotta fight fire with fire. And no you aren't stooping down to their level.

You have to remember that aggressive beta males are some of the most dangerous people on earth. They have nothing to lose due to their poor SMV. So you have to be extremely cautious, and not let them tread over you. Or you may get fucked up physically. That's why we lift, and that's why we embrace The Dark Triad traits.

breathintoyourballs · 2020-02-21T12:51:40+00:00

dude you have weak energy no one will test you if you carry yourself the right way, im 5.7 and only get tested when i been missing the gym for a while and on a poor lifestyle drugs etc...

Adorable_FecalSpray · 2020-02-21T13:53:06+00:00

Pat him on his head and say, “there there little man, it’ll be alright.”

FanaticMind · 2020-02-21T14:14:11+00:00

damn these short people, you just can't compete with them

Sylvester_Sterone · 2020-02-21T14:51:23+00:00

Definitely amused mastery. It's a short waiter dude who has mastered his craft... serving others.

Corvus_Uraneus · 2020-02-21T14:53:08+00:00

"Take it easy Napoleon"

Sylvester_Sterone · 2020-02-21T15:03:06+00:00

Back when I was in my 20s in a college town there was one of the townies who frequented the bars who was a high school drop out, short, and he had some type of physical disability which resulted in a tiny fucked up arm (looked like a penis hand)

Dude was quick to give people shit and at first he would approach and I thought it was fine with the bantering... over a period of time that shit got annoying. One time when I was with a lady out he was fricken there. Bantering ensued as he was trying to impress the chick and before we bounced to another town... little fucker wanted to come with. Told him no room and he replied "It's okay I can have my mom drive me."

I couldn't believe this guy. Later on I found out he used to received Special Education services and lived with a family of in-breds.

monky-loves-you · 2020-02-21T14:25:12+00:00

I'm 6'1" and 225lb, well built so I get this shit OFTEN and it's always angry manlets (often covered in tattoos and driving a big truck or a loud bike) who feel the need to prove themselves. See them from time to time usually in the gym and honestly I avoid the fuck out of these types because they seem hostile and unpredictable. I just want to go about my day or my workout and don't need some imaginary alpha contest fucking things up for me. Like they constantly need validation of their alpha status despite their height, and don't seem to care if they make everyone around them miserable in the process.

For example

mean mugging ALWAYS mean mugging

talking overly loud

walking overly close to others / nearly shoulder checking

"penguin walking" with (real or imaginary) lats flared

MOGGING anyone even slightly shorter than themselves

radiating insecurity and hostility

First of all we get it, being short must be like having god himself punishing you, we know life's not easy. Most of us are not trying to be dicks about it. So if some of the above sounds like it applies to you, don't take it personally, just be aware you're falling into a well-worn stereotype and it's making you somewhat dislikable.

Let me first say that answers like

deliberately mogging them

making jokey comments about their height

These are not helpful. This sort of shit is how you end up provoking one of these guys into a brawl, which is exactly the sort of thing OP wants to avoid. These guys give off shitty fake-alpha vibes and can be unpredictable.

What I've found helps

smiling, nodding at them even though they are mean mugging

asking politely if you can work in with them/use a piece of equipment even if you really don't need it.

In for more helpful answers.

Rememberthecodex · 2020-02-21T13:01:55+00:00

"You should try 'America's Got Talent', you will fit well"

panzertanksarefun · 2020-02-21T14:34:42+00:00

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flatox · 2020-02-21T15:35:16+00:00

It's a classic thing for short guys in mu experience. Also often short guys wanna fight etc. At clubs. Many feel they have to "make up" for their height, and that can lead to those types of behavior.

Treat as any other shit test.

Title	How to deal with short guys who overly try to "out-alpha" you?
Author	FreePackage
Upvotes	8
Comments	25
Date	February 21, 2020 11:07 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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