How to handle Plate's friend trying to "vet" me. Her best friend also currently in a relationship out of the blue texted me. "Asking to get coffee in order to vet me since I'm part of the gang now." How do I handle this, it threw me off guard? I have not responded back yet, because honestly texting out of the blue and possibly behind someones back is childish. I don't want to encourage that type of behavior.