TL;DR: I'm happily married to a Bosnian woman who treats me like a king. Make sure your "other" understands gender roles and has a family intact, and no social media or advanced cellphones for her.

Body: I hope all is well for all of you. This is my first ever post on here so I'd like to share my experiences on how to keep a marriage going.

I'm Bosnian myself. I've been married for 5 years now and our first child is on the way. I married my wife at age 18. I was 23 when I married her.

Our culture is very different compared to the western culture. We are far more traditional when it comes to marriage. Men and women here understand the gender roles very well. Men are dominant and women are submissive. There will always be special cases in which the roles are reversed but for the most part, that's how it goes here.

I searched over a period of years for my wife. By search, I mean I kept my eyes and ears open. She lived in a city called Tuzla. She was a virgin, very family oriented, she prays daily, no cellphone, no Facebook, no computer, none of the social media crap you see here in America daily.

I took her out to some ice cream on our first date. Nothing big. She of course does not drink nor smoke which was a plus in my books. For the first year, We did not kiss or have sex. Sex happened when we got married. We held hands and kept flirting between each other during that year. That's as far as it went.

The day arrived when I went to visit her father about my plans to marry her. It was a long conversation but in the end he gave me permission.

My parents were very happy me marrying her. Now, I want to share how I keep my marriage alive.

I have many hobbies. One of them is building stuff with my hands. I worked with my father a lot when I was younger. He was into building houses, so he taught me everything he knew. It is a hobby of mine to build random stuff. Last week, I finished building a custom roof for my house. I keep myself occupied and do not focus too much on my wife. I do not seem needy or want any of her attention.

When I am mad at her, I tell her to cut the BS out and get back on track being my wife. I raise my voice on her and not let her run all over me. My wife would describe me as a selfish man. She knows my happiness matters first, so she does everything to make it happen.

When I come home from work, food and water HAS to be prepared on the table waiting for me. She cooks and cleans. The house can't be messy at all. When we have guests over, she understands the house must be well maintained. She understands the gender roles and she sticks to it.

I never tell her I love her or buy her gifts, EVER. By gifts I mean teddy bears, necklaces, chocolate, flowers etc. Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, etc.. I told my wife, we are resources to each other. I provide A, she provides B. I never buy crap I do not need in my house. As far I remember, I only have bought her panties, socks, and bras. She buys her own clothes with her own money. My wife knows that I show love to her by my actions. She understands that and I never venture into this territory.

Our religion and our values do not let her go out in slutty clothes. When we go out, she covers her whole body except her hair. When it is night time, I F*ck my wife as long as I want. I devour her in bed and she knows who the dominant one is. We do not kiss in public, only hold hands.

When I want sex, I get it whenever I want, no questions asked. No complaints nor arguing.

She will sometimes test me. Shit tests is the familiar term you guys define it here. Sometimes she'll tell me I shouldn't work as much or she can't cook as much food tonight. I usually chuckle a bit and tell her I want food ready when I'm back. I tell her to not worry to much about me and she should get back to making my meals. And it happens, she doesn't question me.

She doesn't have many friends. I make sure I stay away from certain people. My wife and I have only 4 good friends. Those 4 friends are wives and husbands who have been happily married for a very long time. Hang around people who are like you or have the same beliefs and values as you and your wife do. Do not steer off of that path.

Marry a woman who has a father and mother. No step daddies/mommies. There needs to be a very good balance in her household.

She must never think about divorce or even mention it. It's disgraceful.

Aim to find a virgin, or stick to a girl who has only had 1 sexual partner.

Some final things about me.

I do not go to the gym, but I play sports a lot. Soccer is mostly what I do, sometimes basketball. I do Intermittent Fasting on and off. I always ask my wife to add protein to all my meals.

I am now a mechanical engineer. I make $75,000 yearly. I pay all the bills and make sure there is food on the table. I also save for rainy days. My wife has a simple cellphone, no iPhone 6,7,8 no Samsung Edge, or any of that garbage. A simple phone on which I can call her and that's it. I barely call her ;).

I reward her from time to time. I payed her education for 2 years. She is a dental hygienist now. That's the biggest gift she will ever get from me, and she won't get anything more than that.

A lot of you use the term "Alpha" a lot here. I don't think in that way. All I know is how to be a man and not let women run all over me. They should respect you, not the other way around. Get busy in life, make good money, buy yourself a benz, exercise, have sex with your gf/wife on YOUR terms whenever YOU want and take my advice as you please.

Lessons learned: Don't be a sissy boy. Keep your eyes and ears open about a potential girl who you think might be wife material and don't let your wife have a social media account. Keep it simple and avoid over the top dramatic women.

Till next time gentlemen.