How to accept mediocre life/career?

FinancialThanks1 · 2020-04-08T20:14:05+00:00

If you can’t achieve excellence in other areas of life you wont achieve excellence with women

SavvyVolley6 · 2020-04-08T20:14:38+00:00

I mean I empathize with you but be careful with that entitlement. Relationships of any sort are like business dealings or hiring an employee, whatever fucking analogy works for you... You don’t just get the spot because you want it and think you deserve it; you have to bring the right shit to the table.

AT LEAST start taking your fitness more seriously. If your career sucks, start fixing it. Dudes that are working on themselves attract women into their orbit because women instinctively want to follow the hardest charging dudes and they can tell what you’re about just by looking at you and getting a sense of your vibe—you can’t fake that shit.

OPs_Real_Mom · 2020-04-08T21:27:11+00:00

I think the problem is that you have placed a huge burden of performance on yourself. You don't have to be the best, make the most money or be the most good looking guy.

You have just have to be better than who you were yesterday. You have big daunting goals, so big that you have convinced yourself that you can't achieve them so you would rather wallow in self-pity than chase excellence.

Try breaking down your goals into smaller hurdles and take a step at a time.

AnonymousSportsExec · 2020-04-08T22:48:23+00:00

Mediocre men get below mediocre women. If you have a problem with that then work harder.

If you wanna be a lazy ass then get used to cashier's with drug addictions who think they're the shit.

holddadoorhodor · 2020-04-08T20:14:14+00:00

You say that you’re happy with your mediocre life in your second paragraph, but your post asks how to accept it.

You’re lying to yourself.

empatheticapathetic · 2020-04-09T00:27:59+00:00

Be attractive, fuck bitches. I don’t really understand the question.

The fact you’re trying to plan an LTR is not TRP approved.

I’m 30 and just entered the job market btw. All my work peers are 20 something.

HB3234 · 2020-04-09T00:21:55+00:00

A bad partner can damage you much more than no partner at all. If you are not willing to do the work to become a higher value man, it is probably better to learn to make peace with solitude than low quality women.

2020-04-08T20:35:31+00:00

You're looking for acceptance of something which can be changed but it is your explicit choice to not do out of what i assume to be an inertia.

You'll receive no sympathy from me.

alfred311 · 2020-04-08T23:22:40+00:00

LeEbinConchShell · 2020-04-09T01:03:33+00:00

honestly, given the current state of women, you should give up the idea of having a long term partner. I want to pursue minimalism, so I've also accepted dying alone. women worth fucking won't settle for mediocrity (even the garbage tier ones). You might be able to pump n dump but they won't stick around. just go fuck hookers in thailand :)

Jessor69 · 2020-04-09T01:44:03+00:00

Brah you're doing better than most men your age

Check out rian stone, he's a baseline level dude as yourself and is still successful

thrwy75479 · 2020-04-09T04:06:53+00:00

Maarten van Doorn discusses the dangers of apathy, and underscores the importance of self-respect as it relates to ambition:

In life, ‘losing’ doesn’t mean ‘being defeated’. The surest way to lose is to refuse to play.

While playing this game, we need to strike a delicate balance. Self-respect demands that we make a dedicated effort. Self-worth demands that we feel we are enough regardless of its outcome.

Being ambitious and content at the same time is the great challenge of life.

John F. Kennedy also warns about the dangers of inaction:

There are risks and costs to a program of action. But they are far less than the long-range risks and costs of comfortable inaction.

Do you have a lot of friends? Personally, I've found that the lower you are on the totem pole, the worse you'll be treated. I've hit the lows, and it was eye opening how the people closest treated me like garbage when I was in that state. A complete 180.

What I've learned is that, particularly for men, the expectations change over time. Even if you keep fit, your looks eventually begin to fade. You can look great, but you can't compete in that area against 20-year olds.

After a certain point, it becomes more about what you've done with your life. People are automatically nice towards people with wealth, and success. Respect becomes important because we all want to be liked, and wanted. When you're not getting that (as you have noticed from experience with some girls), it doesn't feel good, which in turn, over time, can manifest negatively in your personality, i.e., it can make you jaded, and bitter.

I would encourage you to at least try, and take action. People will respect that. Good luck.

mikkeldaman · 2020-04-09T13:25:38+00:00

One of my favorite quotes was from Robert Greene's "Art of Seduction". He says in there that "there's nothing seductive about mediocrity". So all my life I strove to be really good at stuff but if I could not be really good, then I'd prefer to be really bad. At least people would talk about how shit I am at it.

goingredwithabang · 2020-04-08T22:56:36+00:00

Mediocrity is the worst outcome of life imo. You have to be excellent in something, but that's my two cents. The more subjects you master the better. I graduated the best high school in my country and now studying engineering in the best technical university of my country. It makes you feel accomplished and also sets you for greatness in the future as well. I'm not ripped, I'm still skinny but the fact that I'm doing something about it -even in quarantine- feels good. However, a goal like traveling the world or writing a book are great as well, even bringing up your own children to be better than you are is a meaningful goal too.

salsamasterer · 2020-04-09T00:05:17+00:00

What do you work in? Maybe the field you are in doesnt allow for high paying careers

downvotesanimals · 2020-04-09T00:08:54+00:00

It's the little things. Start with things you can control and begin to make your life more excellent. Nobody becomes Bill Gates overnight.

You say you're not that smart. Intelligence is very difficult to increase (some say impossible), but you can become more knowledgeable by reading and learning about topics you find interesting.

Won't have a good paying job? Says who? I'd be willing to bet Mr. Trump is marginally over 100 IQ but he's found a way. Do you have any marketable skills or talents?

Is there nothing you can do to improve your life? Wake up a bit earlier and get something done? Keep your house tidy and in order? Maintain contact with friends? Learn new skills or hobbies?

Of course, if you truly don't have the motivation to do any of these things, nothing I can say will help you. But the petite hotties you pine after are gonna need a bit more than some lazy schlub that hangs out in his sweatpants gaming all day.

Also, re your refusing to spend any money on a date... IMO that's a bad move. Pay the first time, even the first few, just don't become a doormat. You're the man after all. And you don't want to come off as a cheapskate.

RivenHalf · 2020-04-09T18:21:17+00:00

" I'm sure I don't have to say how funny it is to see a woman who's pushing 30 still working as a cashier and has an inflated value of herself still."

Funny how the mediocre 35 year old man with no ambition still thinks he's above anyone in life. Seek therapy. You are fucked in the head man.

Title	How to accept mediocre life/career?
Author	casemodz
Upvotes	5
Comments	23
Date	April 8, 2020 8:07 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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