The summary of this is that I met a girl last night and because of something she said to me, I raised the issue of women spending their '20s banging alphas. She was, as you might imagine, offended - but I think her head kind of exploded too.

Here's what happened: Met a buddy last night. When I got there, he was already talking to a couple of girls so I jumped in too. We chatted for a bit then went to sit down. On the way, I see a couple of women from work. So we go over and chat with them for a while.

Now at last, we turn back toward the bar and sit down. Just so happened that I sat next to two more ladies. I introduced myself and tried to strike up a conversation. One of these girls was named Judy. I took an early opportunity to ask Judy for her number and tell her that I'd love to meet up with her again some time.

Judy says to me, and I'm paraphrasing here, "I just watched you circle this bar and pick up on every girl in here. If I'm the last girl you want to talk to, then no thanks."

Now let me just say, in the interests of full disclosure, that I blew it. I had an initial reaction that I realize now was wrong. I pointed out that the place was pretty empty, that I knew those two girls from work, etc. I made excuses. My buddy laughed at me, because the way Judy had just shot me down, I mean like her tone of voice and everything, was pretty hilariously brutal for a casual Wednesday night.

But anyway, because I'd been rejected I felt like there was nothing to lose by going back to the issue a few minutes later. I said (paraphrasing), "if you dated a guy and it turned out that you'd had more sexual partners than he'd had, and if he was unhappy about that, what would you say?" Judy told me she hates insecure guys. She said that her past was her business. You know, the usual.

I said, so that'd be like slut-shaming? "Yes, exactly!" she said.

So here's the punchline. I asked if she'd ever considered that maybe a guy feels exactly the same way she felt when I asked for her number. "You felt like you weren't special because I had 'circled the room' before approaching you, remember?"

I shit you not, she said the exact same thing, word-for-word, in the same order, that she had said about a boyfriend being upset about her past. It was like there's a script "slut-shaming response script, page 1" and she started reading from it. She told me she hates insecure guys and her past was nobody's business, and so on.

The only thing that changed was at the end, she tried to get a few more digs in at me. She said that she suspected I was a player. She has to "guard herself."

All I can say is, it was amazing to me.