It's a shame really.

DangZagnut · 2019-11-05T20:26:48+00:00

What most men would do, for an educated, honest, unquestioningly faithful woman, and I'm tired of mine.

Most men wouldn't give much of a shit about her education to be honest. It's not in the priority queue for most men. Certainly not higher than, "don't be a bitch".

A shame it's not working out for you. It is sad when a relationship just ends due to...staleness really.

GemStarCN21 · 2019-11-05T20:33:16+00:00

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MarkAurelios · 2019-11-05T21:33:04+00:00

to be honest here i dont think this is mgtow material.

Your wife sounds loyal and like a trooper, and if you seperate it will be definitely on you, because you chose the easy way out ti gratify a basic notiom of romantic love.

Whatever you do: Understand that the loyalty that was shown to you is a true rarity.

captainsaveahoe69 · 2019-11-05T20:52:11+00:00

Ah that's a shame man. Be kind to her for the love and support she's shown you.

boltjamison · 2019-11-05T20:32:44+00:00

You can't eat filet mignon and lobster everyday. Eventually u will get tired of it.

ChadowyFigure · 2019-11-05T22:23:11+00:00

I was married when I took the red pill, and I still am.

My wife is great. She works, cooks, and fucks me whenever I want. I am a house husband and basically just clean up and do whatever I want. It is close to what a teenage version of myself would have considered a dream relationship.

And yet... here I am on MGTOW. Love just doesn't mean the same thing to me anymore. I remember reading that saying "You can love women, or you can understand them" soon after I found the pill, and being sure that I would never feel that way - but now I am not so sure. I still love her and am grateful, but it is a different kind of love, more muted, paternal, and sympathetic. I find myself thinking about the obligations I have taken on for her, I miss the extra time I'd have with my family, I wonder about the great amount of money I could make if I struck off alone, I imagine the multitudes of different women I could fuck with my new body and knowledge...

Even in what seems like a perfect relationship, once you "get" women you may find you just don't care to be arsed anymore.

holidaysboots · 2019-11-05T20:55:44+00:00

I assume since you didn't mention kids that you don't have any. It isn't supposed to work if there's no offspring. Actually what you're experiencing isn't an anomaly, but the normal development of a long relationship when there's no common strong bond to keep you together. Passion, love, even habit, can evaporate rather quickly.

NamasteFelicia · 2019-11-05T23:55:20+00:00

I would keep her. Good women are hard to find man. The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence. Looks fade anyways, you need to be a bring some more excitement into the relationship. Get away from the routine and do new things together.

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plainnsimpleforever · 2019-11-05T20:42:10+00:00

Have you looked deeply into your dissatisfaction? Maybe you're bored with yourself. Maybe you need a new project/passion?

MothMonsterMan79 · 2019-11-05T21:56:56+00:00

To quote something about marriage I heard in one of my favorite videos: "Don't do it! Even when it's not truly awful, it's still SHIT."

Chrh · 2019-11-06T00:19:14+00:00

Reminds me of one of the three Chinese curses "May your fondest wish come true" or perhaps "May you find what you're looking for".

Many here including myself would wish for what you have, but if we would know what to do if we got there, I don't know.

consentio · 2019-11-05T22:07:07+00:00

Not an expert or trying to sugar coat it but you will have to talk to her nonetheless.

She will notice it if you aren't feeling that way but it will make her more mad the longer you make it shut and she randomly tries to talk to you and the relationship.

To add my pinch of salt to the fries, I would make my point very clear that you are thankful for all the help, support and the time you both went through and the time she was for YOU.

In your position, I would figurate out what the cause is and work together on it, others would say just to shut her down and get her off of your life but she isn't a crazy bitch in my opinion according to the information you told.

Don't be the asshole to her, don't ruin a sweetheart work it out together or find out why you don't feel the way anymore, there's always a reason.

All I can tell you is, I wish you luck

D0p3y3 · 2019-11-06T01:40:14+00:00

Couple questions if you don't mind answering. How old are you and are you guys religous?

In my social circle divorce is very rare. I have a feeling that it is mainly due to the comfort that a relationship brings. Is this something you can confirm or deny? There is no stress of having to gamble with dating other women.

MattFoley79 · 2019-11-06T01:59:23+00:00

Did she pull the pin on the fat grenade?

redshieldheroz · 2019-11-05T20:35:49+00:00

Maybe its different if you had a child? What could have happened with the pair bonding of you both? Love does not survive long.

Copypastable · 2019-11-05T20:42:48+00:00

Relationships are a chore unless she doesn't make it that way.

redvisionsss · 2019-11-05T20:55:42+00:00

Get her to do some crazy shit in the bed before you ghost if she really would do anything for you.

Docbear64 · 2019-11-05T20:56:25+00:00

Even relationships I've enjoyed I often times found exhausting , so I totally get it .

alexo3121 · 2019-11-05T23:31:24+00:00

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thtevie · 2019-11-05T23:56:25+00:00

Though you’re not asking for suggestions...

What about a sabbatical? One of you takes a 3 month trip somewhere else. Fixed time limit, you each know where the other is, it’s not a separation or anything “official”, just a break. No agreement to be allowed to have sex with others, so if you do it’s still cheating, but it’s just a chance to think about the relationship, whether you really want to come home without chatter, etc.

Couldn’t hurt. Worth a conversation, at least.

MrMagtow · 2019-11-06T02:08:31+00:00

OP, you spend a lot of time in /r/DeadBedrooms do you?

justhereforfunandlol · 2019-11-06T02:41:57+00:00

Hmmm. Sometimes, it gets hard to put up with another person if you don't have enough freedom in your own life. If you would have 6 days of the week to yourself, do you think you could give her one?

thecoolest305 · 2019-11-06T05:08:39+00:00

DO NOT listen to these guys that are telling you to stay! If you are not happy don’t waste her time and yours. Go with your gut. That feeling you have inside, I totally understand. I use to tell my family and friends I wanted to leave but they all tried to talk me into staying and telling me that I will be missing out. I know you don’t want to hurt your wife, but in the end is your true happiness worth it? I was in your same position except marriage. We were together three years. I had a good girl. We traveled together, she had a great job and reciprocated everything I’ve ever done for her. But still I wasn’t happy. Everyday I dreaded walking in the house. MGTOW and Sandman helped me understand what type of man I was. I was tired of being an Emotional Tampon and hearing verbal diarrhea every single day after a long work day. The marriage with kids life wasn’t for me.

One day While we were planing my 34th birthday, I finally worked up enough courage and just told her I didn’t want to plan anything with her I just wanted to be alone on that day. Then it lead to me telling her I wanted to be alone altogether. She cried hysterically, but I just couldn’t console her. I felt AWESOME inside like a big relief. I ended up going on my first solo trip to Antigua and had an Great fucking time. Laid on the beach for 3 days smoking ganja and drinking piña coladas. No female to talk my ear off, just the sounds of the waves. The best decision I ever made. If you are feeling like going your own way, Then GO YOUR OWN WAY! It will forever have regret. It’s your life, don’t you forget!

call_me_sensei · 2019-11-06T12:33:42+00:00

If the genders were swapped and this was posted here, people would loose their shit and say awalt LMAO

And I can already see the comments of this in a women dominant sub, "you go girl " you deserve better " etc...

If this post is from a guy and is real I say stay with your woman but watch your back. Grass is not greener on the other side, hook up with some hookers once a month get it out of your system if need be, go see your boys, be alone for a while if possible, get some hobbies.

wildfireboat · 2019-11-06T18:58:02+00:00

I'm just tired of coming home to chatter, and having plans etc

"Chatter" as in the endless negative work stories women save up so they can complain about their coworkers or bosses every evening to their boyfriends or husbands? "Having plans" as in women always need to plan something with someone on the weekends and fill up every hour of every weekend day with noise (seeing friends, seeing family, being out in public, spending money eating out, being seen, etc) ... and if you're not doing some sort of "activity date" then it's the end of the world and you'e the bad guy?

Title	It's a shame really.
Author	alexo3121
Upvotes	47
Comments	61
Date	November 5, 2019 8:23 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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