Summary Only make important decisions about your sexual partners and sexual actions when you are in an ideal state of sexual clarity, with both mental abundance and physical satisfaction. If you were thinking about getting into an LTR, read this first.

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Why does a beta enter an LTR? Do you honestly believe that all these thirsty, thirsty betas are pledging their fidelity to a single woman because they believe she is the best possible companion for them? Of course not. Most have completely deluded themselves into thinking they've made a "best friend and a lover," but the honest truth is that good pussy will lock down any beta. Betas enter LTRs because it is the easiest way to quench their sexual desires on a consistent basis.

This leads to a lot of poor decisions. How many times have you heard a guy say, "I should've broken up with her months ago, but the sex was great." Usually this is in reference to a crazy ex-girlfriend. You know, the one who cries after sex, takes anti-anxiety pills, and drinks till she's passed out, but she just him fuck her in the butt so he kinda lets it slide. How about the number of times a guy lets a girl walk all over him in an argument because he's horny and just wants sex? How about the number of times a guy knows he should leave the relationship, but is reluctant to head out into the world alone without a consistent sexual outlet?

So how do you avoid making these mistakes? You need to be in a state of satiety and abundance. There are 4 levels of sexual clarity and good decisions are only made when you are at the peak of that clarity.

Level 1: Desperate

You're out with your friends and it's been 6 months since you last had sex. The mere thought of pussy has you drooling like a pavlovian dog, and you haven't come close to scoring since that night when you completely blew things with Cindy. You're even considering doing some hog hunting on the sly just to get out of this awful dry spell. In this state you are both physically horny and desperately thirsty.

Level 2: Temporarily satiated

You're lying in bed naked with a plate drenched in sweat and other fluids. Well, does she count as a plate if she's the only girl you're fucking? Right now you feel content. Even next week you'll feel somewhat content, because at least you can remember the last time you had sex, but there will be lingering thoughts. Where will your next meal come from? You can't go on fucking this girl without commitment forever. Even if you commit, you can't guarantee she'll stick around. Eventually she'll leave. Who will you fuck then? In this state you have temporarily relived yourself from your pent up sexual frustration, but you have no abundance.

Level 3: The frustrated alpha

It's 1 am on Friday night and Samantha just spent the majority of the night grinding her sweet ass against your junk to the tune of Kanye West in some shitty bar filled with hipster assholes. Just when you're about to bring her back for the finale, you hit serious LMR and she flakes. You're drunkenly looking at your phone, wondering which girl has little enough self-respect to respond to your obvious booty call right now. Casey says she'll fuck you, but you have to come to her this time. What's your move? In this state you had abundance, but it's been restricted by your sudden and urgent need to fuck.

Level 4: Clarity

Plate #4 is scurrying around your room in her panties looking for her bra. It got lost in the tumble somehow. You're checking your messages and setting something up with your bros for tomorrow night. Suddenly she looks up at you and says, "Look, we've been fucking for like- two months now. I'm not just gonna be your fuck buddy forever." You're disappointed. The loss of a plate is always an unfortunate event, but you've got plate #2 coming over on Monday, and the bars will be filled to the brim with new potential plates when you go out tomorrow. Never for a moment do you consider LTR'ing her, as she exhibited a few glaring red flags. You don't even have to lie to keep her around longer. You're upfront about your view of the relationship. Having been so honest, you part on relatively good terms and without losing face. Should you need to pull her again in the future, it's probably an option. In this state, you live life on your own terms.

Basically, you have your physical satiety and your general level of abundance. When each is at it's peak, you are able to make impartial decisions. If you're not at level 4, you are not ready for an LTR. You will never choose correctly. You will always find a way to see past her red flags in order to satisfy your urges and get back to level 2. The power of abundance lies in the great decision-making power it grants you.

Retaining this abundance is the hardest part of being in an LTR. It's why so many LTRs go on and on until someone finally cheats (or secures a firm branch for swinging, and yes, guys do it too). The only way to retain this abundance without cheating is to make it a part of your person prior to entering. You may not have physical plates, but you are confident that you could find some essentially on command should you decide that this relationship isn't for you. This is why you do not stop working on yourself in an LTR. You need to be 100% ready to jump ship at any moment.

Lessons Learned

  • Bad relationships and beta slip ups happen when we either lack abundance or are not physically satisfied

  • You are not ready to choose a woman for an LTR until you have a wide selection to choose from and do not even feel compelled to make a decision

  • When you are in any state aside from level 4, you are likely to either see past red flags or give ground in a relationship in an effort to satisfy urges that are ultimately temporary