Following up on u/randomshortdude's post, I figured I'd offer some perspective on Asians.

Some background: I grew up in a Southern town as the only Asian male among my peers until high school, but have reflected often from my experiences. I started out my early childhood in the projects and eventually to a point during high school where I lived in a cul-de-sac in an "okay" suburban town outside of the main city and the people I surrounded myself with changed with those changes.

These are my main observations from my own anecdotal perspective, so take them with a grain of salt if it starts to make you salty.

  • If your family has not assimilated to Western culture/ speak English in the household/ etc... then you are born subscribing to the Asian culture your family brought with them. Asian cultures push for a strong dichotomy between shame/honor. You don't wholly represent yourself as an Asian male, you represent the interests of your whole family. You are responsible for your actions and you are taught this at an earlier age than most kids. Asian kids growing up in America with immigrant parents have lived or are currently living a double life in which they abide by filial piety in the household while speaking their parent’s language all while engaging with their Westernized peers and the Western culture. This duality also can cause identity crises, spats with the family from a dissonance in cultures, a sense of not-belonging, etc., and this happened to me. I fought with my parents during my teen years at every turn because there was my own shame for having parents who couldn’t speak English and didn’t subscribe to Western ideologies/culture. A lot of Asian kids have to deal with this growing up.

  • There are plenty of more weak points to this: People talk. Because of potentially shaming the family and the news that spreads so quickly between smaller Asian communities, a lot of young Asian men/women are almost prevented from taking more risks and experiencing life outside of their own bubble. This lifestyle is what molds unattractive Asian men and equally slutty Asian women (those who rebel). Asian men tend to play it safe. We tend to get that 9-5 job and as a demographic, we get that high salary for technical skills and rooting ourselves in the STEM fields, but don't take the risk to go into management or C-level positions. It's almost expected of us at this point to be technically skilled and to be paid more than the average worker in America, but not expected to be leaders among men and get paid even more than our potential. Instead I often find grown Asian men settling for cheap thrills and video games whilst complaining about how women don't notice them and how media has fucked their chances at scoring with women (just look at what’s happening to Japan. Look up Air Sex Competitions to see just how depraved and cucked their society is). Basically, we are set to be molded by our culture/society to be a classic beta provider for a woman who’s been been “roughed up” by RP men and provide our savings funds and homes for them to settle in and eventually take half of our assets through divorce when she screws Chad Thundercock (from any other racial background) several years down the road the when she gets bored.

Closed minded BP mentalities are formed in this very manner.

  • If you are Asian American like me, you can find yourself taking your life lessons in two ways: you can take the "safe" route and avoid experiencing the potential this life has to offer between both cultures, or you can man the fuck up, take the risks, become the leader, and not settle for some alpha widow and rather be the widower. Be the Chad Thundercock.

  • In a traditional Asian family, there are a fair amount of RP teachings and plenty of Tiger Parenting for you and even your friends! My parents told me a man cries three times in his life: Once when he's born, once when his father dies, and once when his mother dies; there are no exceptions for tears outside of this (frame building). They taught me to get plenty of sleep and grow so that you will stand tall as a man (be attractive; don’t be unattractive). They taught me to not focus on trivial pursuits, but focus on how to make money and open up my options in life to one day be able to pick from the litter of women rather than be slave to their choice. I used to ignore these teachings growing up, believing in the Disney happily ever after, but the more I grow older, the more I see how wise my own parents were. I didn't heed their advice a lot of my early adulthood and had to suffer because of it. I now value every lesson my parents taught me because they are inherently rooted in RP older Asian families have inherent RP teachings rooted in their philosophy, but lately that culture in families for younger generations seldom exists.

  • I've had to endure plenty of “rumors” floating around about me during my college years. I was fairly BP the way I viewed relationships, but when I was single, I was truly the self I wanted to be; unknowingly RP. I studied harder, partied harder, plated harder, lifted harder, etc (and that made the Asian community talk. “ u/Seoul_Brother is a player!” “He promotes at nightclubs!” “That asshole fucked my sister!”) Now in my adulthood, I understand this and don't let an LTR or other betas get in the way of my goals/plans. The Asian kids that were having their families pay their way through college were spreading rumors about what I was doing when I had a full ride and scholarships to fund my education. My parents are part of this Asian rumor wheel from their church groups/etc, but for the most part when it comes to me and my integrity, it doesn’t matter to them because I am one of the few guys that has a successful career in a big city while the other kids that judged me remain unemployed or working odd jobs to this day.

  • I think a lot of Asian men in general get stuck on "reputation" building by remaining predictable and predictable dries up pussy faster than anything else. Women want an experience and the dream of having the dutiful un-threatening Asian husband with a white picket fence and big house is reserved for their post wall period. The best example of this phenomenon from current day is Ali Wong’s Baby Cobra: she speaks RP truths left and right in her standup. I highly suggest watching this for some laughs under an TRP truth context.

  • As an Asian guy living in a Western culture, you have to work harder than everyone else to compete. This is because media representation or lack of media representation paired with the minimal risk-taking lifestyle we are known for makes Asian men seem "too safe" and "too predictable." Aside from all of the small dick jokes and history of media castration of Asian men since the early 1900's, Asian men have castrated themselves by continuing to be the "geek" or the cuck people see in television, which have the Hollywood execs circle-jerking their chodes consistently casting overused tropes. I used to complain about this personally, but over time, I realized that I had to be the change I wanted to see instead of being some hacktivist shitlord online (aka: Feelz B4 Realz).

We as Asian men do fight an uphill battle, but how steep we view our challenge is up to us.

  • We have to focus on all aspects of life and improve consistently to have some competitive edge over men of other races. We have to be look more fashionable, be oozing with more confidence and pass more shit tests, look more shredded, be able to take more rejections in the field, apply ourselves more in the game to close better, perform better than other races in bed, hustle harder, be knowledgeable and read more about history, art, classics novels, politics, etc. This looks daunting to any average beta, but also becomes a divining rod between the beta 80 and the alpha 20 among Asian men, and the competition is fierce. I would even go to say that the ratio for Asian Men is 90/10 because in my life, I’ve met so many Asian men who just gave up and became close to becoming NEETs who only post memes all day on Facebook on how "bitches do this" and "bitches do that." They gave up and all they have is comfort in their memes, porn, League of Legends, and Counter Strike.

  • As an Asian American kid, you will generally be pressured to go down multiple roads depending on where you live and how your family is doing socioeconomically. This is because our population was/is so small in Western Nations that it's difficult to maintain one big group of Asians in smaller towns. What we often do when growing up are the following: adapt to black/latino culture, adapt to white culture, or adapt to Asian culture. A lot of Asian guys tend to close off their communities and mindsets to one of these three choices. That, or they experiment or dabble in some/all of them one point in their lives or another. Luckily, I experienced all of them.

I lived in the projects, wore huge hooded jackets, my pants sagged in middle school and most of my friends were Black. They taught me about the importance of reputation, respect, how to stand your ground, how to take a hit, and to get back up when you’re down, and how to dish one right back out. These guys taught me how to earn respect with my fists and physicality while also promoting the work hard play hard mentality.

In high school, I played soccer, joined student government, participated in theater club and Spanish club, and dressed in preppy clothing/ athletic gear and had mostly White friends. They taught me more about not losing your cool and treating most things in a sarcastic manner. These guys also taught me how to backpack, survive in the wilderness, prioritize friendships, and learn to let go of things easily.

In college, I immersed myself with Asian clubs and organizations and became an executive in each of them including an Asian interest fraternity and the Asian Students org. I learned from my fraternity on how to shit talk among men, lift weights, bust each other’s balls, shoot firearms, talk to women, get in good with bar/club owners, bartenders (or anyone from any institution), and how to party. These guys taught me the fundamentals of being a classic man, and the women were delicious.

  • On the flip side, it appears Asian women have taken more to trying to shame Asian men while promoting their own "sexual freedom", all while taking advantage of their status as "desirable" in the eyes of men of other races. If you ever read the garbage from social justice warriors and you read about an Asian man complaining about the way society has screwed them (you will see him get torn to shreds on text/ publicly humiliated in person. AKA: a perfect example of when a man should STFU and just let the children complain). If you see social justice feminazis parading on the street, there is always going to be an Asian girl out there trying to one up her "sisters" in the movement, and they are all attention/validation seeking through these actions (AKA an EASY LAY). If living life as an Asian male is perceived as living life on Expert/Hard mode, then living as an Asian woman in today's society is living life on easy mode with added cheat codes. When society tells them over and over again that they are the most desired women among the different races (source: dating site data ie: OKCupid, Tinder, etc), they tend to get a big head about it. That is a dangerous combination to face for a guy that isn't "woke" with TRP to face. If you thought some women were entitled, face an Asian woman who didn't grow up around Asian people. She will complain about how objectified she felt, but you know (or will find out) she took full advantage of her "objectification" growing up and rode that CC (as would any woman in that heightened feeling of status), but 80/20 rule applies like no other here. If you're attractive and RP, Asian women won't give you shit, and suck you off, but if you're unattractive, you get bitch hell rained down upon you lol. Seen a lot of Asian dudes get the shaft from women rather than get to shaft one. If you're a bitter Asian dude or as the SJWs call (BADs), read more sidebar material, lift, get stronger, game the field and you'll go from hearing "I don't sleep with/date Asian guys" to "You're the first Asian man I've slept with/ dated/ etc." Felt good hearing that often in college.

  • They hit the wall much later on average than other women, which further promotes a sense of entitlement for a longer period of time. Most times they secure a marriage from some poor BP and and milk this. "Trapping" seems to come easier to Asian women because they can hold out until after they have children to go post wall. A lot of the Asian girls I know never worked out a day in their lives, but still maintain a great figure, and when it starts to go to shit, that's when they have the opportunity to show you their final form by getting that squat booty. So much advantage in this compared to other women. It's the reason why so many independent hipster films with White female protagonists try to shit on Asian women who steal their husbands/boyfriends/opportunities/etc.

  • As for anyone who believes Asian women are naturally "more submissive", that is a joke. Because of the pedestalization of today's Asian woman, her heightened sense of desirability makes her believe she is entitled to more than your other woman of equal attractiveness. It's generally not a conscious decision on her part, but it is definitely there and you have to be wary. AWALT applies to every woman, but I view this as a sliding scale on how severe and it's taken case by case. Despite this, I still love me some Asian chicks ;)

Granted, everyone is still different and comes from a panoply of backgrounds no matter how similar the cultures and skin color/ etc are that they hail from, but as an overarching theme of things I have noticed from fellow Asian brothers, I have noticed a few key differences: Risk tolerance for Asian men is fairly low (low risk, low rewards attitude), security is more important (but security, paired with less risk taking ends in instant beta-provider cringe in the eyes of women), following norms or someone else’s norm is a tactic for social survival that doesn’t play too well in our favor (Asian men need to forge their own identity instead of piggybacking), and the RP teachings of our parental figures or our grandparents have now turned to softer shame avoidance tactics (Asian men need to look back and read more histories for better male figures to look up to).

TRP is the commonality and a world view that connects all men of all backgrounds who have the will to swallow the hard truth and live life for themselves. Racial backgrounds and cultures all have some hard lessons to teach as well as warning signs of something to avoid.

In terms of the friendships I had with people in my youth, I still keep in touch with a lot of them and in some cases, they discovered each other and are great friends. Having a diverse group of friends with common world views of sprinkled RP truths is great because you get to be surrounded in perspectives you might not otherwise understand.