LTR failed the shit test

benhurensohn · 2020-12-27T09:39:02+00:00

I'm not totally redpilled

You will get there...

I said no and made it absolutely clear with reasons

Don't justify why you don't want her to get them. Men don't need reasons to want things: "I don't want you to get lip tattoos"

1) how can I make it sound like this was not a shit test (I'm mostly "pissed" that she ignored me)

Who cares? Whatever you say here is really irrelevant because she already disrespected you by going against what you said. She doesn't value your opinion very much as evidenced by her actions

2) is her doing this a red flag

It's her right to tattoo her lips, her ass, or whatever. It's totally your right to see it as a red flag

I stupidly said I was gonna marry her a while back and do the whole thing which I very much didn't want to do so this is kind of a good excuse.

You don't need excuses to don't do things you don't want to do

3) how do I tell her I'm breaking up? This is a fairly serious relationship

"This is not working out. I don't feel respected in this relationship. I don't want to see you anymore."

kclanton80 · 2020-12-27T12:08:01+00:00

You should end the relationship and move on now. Her upgrading herself is never for YOU.... she already has you. She has comfortably secured your love and affection 100%....you offered marriage etc..and the relationship obviously operates in her frame.

Now she wants to market herself a bit and field other offers. She has you in the bag, so "let's see if I can attract something else better before staying with this guy."

She knew you wouldn't want her to do it, but she needed to because it's not about anything you want. Its about her seeking other opportunities, and sexual attention and validation from other men. Not a girl you want to keep... get out before she does something that's going to make you feel even worse.

Move on! If she releases your pictures than sue her ass, or call the police on her....at least you can do that in the west..not sure about where you are from.

How to do it? Doesn't matter. "Hey... I don't like your behavior and the choices you are making are not good for a healthy relationship." I think it's time to let this go"

TrpKid2 · 2020-12-27T10:40:08+00:00

She doesn't respect you. Obviously this is what being "not fully red pulled" gets you. And you told her you'll marry her... Oh brother. I hope you learn from your mistakes. I don't see a good direction this relationship can go. She openly disregarded your wishes.

vfxguy2077 · 2020-12-27T12:47:18+00:00

You told her you are not okay with it. She did it anyway. She is free to do whatever she wants, you are free to break up if you don't agree/feel disrespected.

Do what benhurensohn said on the breakup.

Pushnikov · 2020-12-27T13:28:51+00:00

“We are breaking up.” “Why??” “Look in the mirror. That’s all. Bye.”

dolmino91 · 2020-12-27T12:30:01+00:00

a Virgin before we met (I'm not in the west otherwise I wouldn't believe it).

heh. oh boy...

AllocNeighley · 2020-12-27T14:37:50+00:00

When I read your story my gut tells me she's not what you think she is. If you start to rationalize her new lips, which before was not OK, is now OK. What message does that send? Boundaries are good, but useless if you don't enforce them.

There are hard boundaries and soft boundaries. Don't treat soft boundaries as hard boundaries. Vice versa.

What would you say about... Women nature same or different around the world. Or culture same or different around the world.

Fusionnn · 2020-12-27T16:22:46+00:00

She blatantly asked what you thought and disrespected you and did it anyway, dump her and move on

2020-12-27T17:16:51+00:00

Ghost that bitch

comcain · 2020-12-27T17:53:58+00:00

I'd leave this one in the street.

ay-fuh-q · 2020-12-27T18:15:49+00:00

She knew that getting them would jeopardize everything bla bla. She has a just do it and apologize first attitude, she has done it a few times but I couldn't be sure.

Long story short she got them

Remember that time you pretended you set boundaries and she respected them? Yeah. Good times! lol

1) how can I make it sound like this was not a shit test (I'm mostly "pissed" that she ignored me)

Wasn't a shit test. She simply ignored boundaries and did what she wanted.

2) is her doing this a red flag

Well, just know, even if you tell her sucking other dicks and cheating is a deal breaker, she'll do it anyway, regardless of how "that doesn't happen here in our great land of utopia."

You've hamstered yourself 10000% here.

Title	LTR failed the shit test
Author	guynumerouno
Upvotes	13
Comments	28
Date	December 27, 2020 9:27 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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