Alright so i’m from a dangerous area of Brazil, alot of gang fights and wars around here.
My friend circle also consists of drug dealers/criminals So when there is a party or some other shit i will most likely meet other criminals etc.
The thing is whenever i meet new guys, they almost always test me/ others. Jokingly but also insulting they say shit were you can act as a beta or alpha.
What i noticed is in my younger years when i was not that aware of this shit and acted/responded beta they would pick on me more and more. Going as far as pointing a gun at me.
Compared to these guys im the biggest beta from heart.
But now since i learned how to play the game, this shit doesn’t happen anymore.
For example, i met a dangerous gang member/og who has cut people with machetes (which i didn’t know at the time or sure i would acted like a pussy) when this dude insulted/joked i did the same thing to him pretty much not giving a fuck. And that day we were pretty much good with each other.
Why do guys test you? And why are you more respected/good when you don’t give a fuck and jokingly insult them back etc?