Greetings RedPill folks! Over the last 4 years Reddit has changed my life by exposing me to so many new communities and ways of thinking that I've never seen before. It's awesome! Recently I found this subreddit, and of course I did the required reading. Afterwards I spent 48 hours letting the thoughts tumble around in my head and I realized I had some critiques of the Red Pill school of thought and also some questions. So, if you have the patience for it, please read what I have to say and tell me what you think.

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Just so you know where I am coming from, I am a 34 y.o. male, married with 2 kids. I will start off by saying that I agree with much of what the required reading has to say about women and attraction. Particularly, I like how it is rooted in mate selection strategies. While mate selection strategies aren't solidly proven science, they are generally accepted in the field of evolutionary biology. So I think many of the thoughts about gender dynamics that derive from this framework are solid. In particular, I like the observations in Schedules of Mating and the paragraphs about Reproductive Schedules and Cheating. I think understanding these breeding strategies can help put relationships in context, and help you to avoid situations you don't want.

When it comes to the "Women in Love" and "Men in Love" reading, I am much more hesitant to drink the kool-aid. Things like this are really just opinion, they denigrate all women, they are overly broad and they aren't really based in anything provable:

Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved.

What if I said "Black people are utterly incapable of loving each other in the way a white person expects them to." That's racist right? So why isn't the previous quote misogynistic?

Ok, so regardless of whether it is hate speech or not, is it true? I'd like to offer a different opinion: Immature women are not capable of loving a man the way he expects to be loved. I feel like the author is judging all of women by looking at your average college girl or emotionally underdeveloped redneck women. A mature woman is going to move past valuing someone based on qualifications and a selfish interest about what the other person provides for them just as a mature man can move on from valuing a woman based on sex appeal. However, these things take time and are rarely found in youth.

When it comes to Woman: The Most Responsible Teenager in the House, I feel that while the blog post offers some good general advice about how a man should remain calm and detached from the problems of a woman, it gives horrible advice in nearly every other regard.

Lets ask this question: If you treat your girlfriend or wife in a patronizing manner (like a bratty little sister) does it really help them to mature? Sure, they might find that power attractive, but it doesn't really help give them the opportunity to mature beyond being a "bratty little sister". How about instead we remain calm and detached (thus keeping the sexiness) and instead drop the patronizing and work through the problem with her as an equal? Only act patronizing if she acts childish! People like respect, and if they get respect when acting mature they will have the tendency to act more mature.

I suppose there is a lot more to say about the different required reading texts, but my final thought is really a question. I am married to a non-American. How much of Red Pill teachings only apply to American women?