I've been popping in here at TheRedPill for quite some time now with my regular account, reading a dozen or two posts a week, but commenting rarely. But when I do, my comments usually get upvoted quite a bit. Though I don't have a lot of free time, I've decided to create this username exclusively for TRP to start posting here and there when I can.
Why? First of all, I'd like to give back. Though I started my red pill journey long before this community was around, I'm always trying to expand my knowledge and have learned quite a bit here. That being said, I think that there are a lot of younger guys here that could benefit greatly from my experience. There are a few recurring misconceptions and judgments that I see over and over again around here.
A lot of the posts I see here say you have to do this, or you need to do that. If you want to get laid, you have to be 100% alpha 100% of the time. There are a lot of unnecessary judgments, mostly from younger guys. Alpha=good, beta=worse than death. And then there's a lot of dichotomous thinking. You're either alpha or beta. No in between, no discussion. These are some of the things I'd like to eventually address.
A little about me... I'm a 37-year-old man who, like many of you, didn't have a strong male role model in his life growing up. For the first 25-or-so years of my life, I was a confused mess. I was severely depressed and anxious, had problems with drugs, never weighed more than 140 lbs (at 6' tall), had some problems with my health, smoked two packs a day, and was miserable. An average frustrated chump in every sense of the word.
Then, when my son was born, I made a choice. I decided that I didn't want him to have a weak, pathetic, drug-addicted pushover for a father. So I started a transformation that continues to this day. I quit hard drugs and smoking cigarettes. A little over ten years ago, I got my first gym membership. The scrony 140 lb dude that walked into that gym is long gone. Over the past decade, I packed on over 50 lbs of solid muscle and now look better than most guys in their early 20's. Learned about nutrition. Started studying and practicing game. And four years ago, I began my dream career working for myself - as a writer.
I'm telling you all of this because I want you to know, especially you younger guys, that change is possible. I went from being self-conscious and anxious to overflowing with confidence, approaching any and every woman I want to with ease. At the moment, I'm dating a cute 23-year-old and a just-turned-26 optometrist who's cute and smart. I went from being weak and skinny to strong and muscular. Ignorant to knowing what's up. And you can, too.
The day I decided to take my life into my own hands was the day it all changed for me - and it can change for you, too. But I'm going to be honest: It's not easy. Results don't come overnight. It takes work. And it never fucking ends.
The Red Pill is not the destination: It's a lifelong journey. But it's one that will reward you over and over again. You can start the journey at any age. If you're in your 30's, 40's, or even older, don't get discouraged. Get started. Lift. Eat better. Read. Game. Live.
This is (hopefully) the first post of many. I know I didn't really say much other than, "Hey, look at me, I changed my life and so can you!" But I wanted to give you guys an idea of where I'm coming from. It'll give a little context to all my future posts. I think my next post, my first real educational post will address dichotomous thinking and how traits exist on a spectrum and no one is either alpha or beta. Or how alpha/beta behavior is all contextual. Or maybe a post about how you can slip in some of the romantic beta behavior you want to with women without turning them off. I have a handful of topics that I think this community could benefit from.
Take care and be well.
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