Tl:Dr - Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Read the book.

Women are emotional creatures first - so they by default assume there is always an emotion behind anything that you do or don't -- this is often a big bone of misunderstanding in LTRs and marriages. As men, we know that's not the case. It's why relationships between women are always personal and polarizing and why men often get described as 'uncaring'. Men can actually choose to DGAF about other men.

It's also why women can't simply analyze impersonally and just discuss the point - for them it's always personal, especially the sidebar stuff. So if a guy states the result of his observations, he's not stating the facts as a seeker of truth, no he's a misogynist, sexist creep! And this is exactly why explaining to a woman never works. In everything a woman does, there is an emotional investment that makes it personal every time.

Now here's where it gets interesting. In a man's brain, there is an actual region that's called the "nothing box" -- it's where a man goes to cool off after a certain level of intensity and IMHO it's more predominant in introverted men - a space dedicated for silence. No wonder men have their man caves and become meditative monks more often and can handle being single better (if they aren't lazy).

https://www.littlethings.com/mens-brains-vs-womens-brains/

Women aren't wired this way. They simply can't understand why a guy simply quietly eats his dinner ("God. He didn't say it was good. Maybe something was bad -- I forgot the salt?. Maybe he's upset. Maybe he doesn't want to hurt my feelings. I wish he'd say what's on his mind.") And while they're going crazy, the man is just being peaceful ("Ah dinner after a hard day at work! Satisfaction...").

Now this is what that guy doesn't tell you in that video.

You see, women actually have something called the "everything box" - they think about everything and everyone around them all at once, with everything on the same priority, and get overwhelmed when the to do list becomes too great - and then blame the man that he's not thinking enough about the house, kids, car, parents, her, etc... Then everything is a problem and they need to vent (or have the man step up and take control and show that he can face anything like a boss).

In a woman's mind, silence is literally "I don't love you." In fact, a man's intimacy cycle is to go off and on (his mind works like his penis), while a woman's mind goes up and down (mental holes are the reason why women shit test, get insecure, often feel unworthy, need validation, worry excessively and get overwhelmed, suffer more from peer pressure, suffer shame, have to vent and talk, get nervous, or why they think men are always hiding insecurities, and why passing the shit tests makes her feel more attracted -- a mental vagina).

There is one more angle to this - it's how the sexes handle stress. When a man is stressed, his mind contracts to the point where he could suffer from 'tunnel vision', focus on the most important thing to the elimination of all other less important things. A woman's mind does the opposite, it expands. As a result, everything becomes equally urgent and sometimes the effect is like viewing the whole world through tinted glasses.

When men feel they're giving too much, they tend to relax and give themselves a break before another round of work. Women on the other hand, if they are giving or having things to do, just do and do and do out of feeling, till they reach their limit and then down they go. Most men never see it coming - it's ductile vs brittle. The first one gives ample warning, the second never shows a sign on the outside and then just fails dramatically. How many times have you heard women complain about men relaxing while she does all the work? Well, this is actually what's going on.

The thing I want to bust here is that men aren't inherently less caring or loving or that (all those typical man put downs, even in the most orthodox relationships) -- it's just that nature put thinking before feeling in them and put feeling before thinking in women.