She keeps sleeping over not wanting sex

MattyAnon · 2017-12-02T17:13:06+00:00

I then put her hands on my dick. She says we just had sex earlier in the week. So I kick her out as she was falling asleep

Good. No sex = no commitment.

You're seeing her too often. I assume she's not your GF.

I'm thinking soft next is the right move right? . Hopefully I got the hamster spinning but Ive never pulled a dick move like that before

It's not a dick move.

In future, it works like this: she withdraws sex, you withdraw attention, commitment, time together. Women fall into a beta "not much sex" thing with men, and expect men to put up with it. You don't have to.

All you do is this: keep increasing the gaps between visits until sex happens 90% of the time. This will fix ALL problems. Either she'll get more horny around you, or you won't see much of her. Problem solved either way.

nicethingyoucanthave · 2017-12-02T20:12:44+00:00

soft next is the right move right

That's my vote. However, I'll also give you a little trick for when she inevitably contacts you: go ahead and talk to her and when she wants to come over, just ask her what she's wearing. When she tells you, clarify that you mean what kind of lingerie does she have. If she resists being specific on this point, then just drop her - there's no hope. However, if she plays along, the last step is to get her to send you a pic of her wearing it. Then you tell her to put on a coat and come over.

Why jump through all those hoops? Well, asking for sex is unattractive. You've already tried that, right? So, the above paragraph is something that has worked for me more than once. I've had friends-with-complicated-benefits (they'd want to come over and "hang out" all day, and I don't have time for that) and doing this got things back on track. They come over more or less ready for sex. After the first time, I didn't have to repeat the procedure - one girl would just text me a pic out of the blue. Another would bring something to change into.

I suppose if I had the issue you're facing now, and I tried this with her and she agreed, but then showed up in jeans and a T, I'd have to stand my ground and not let her in.

Anyway, if you want to try to salvage something, that's just an idea you can use if you want to.

redhawkes · 2017-12-02T17:03:30+00:00

I let her sleep over the previous days hoping for morning sex.

Cut that covert contracts. And yea, she was using you for sleepover, using her pussy as payment.

You failed some simple LMR, and got butthurt. Should've just went with two steps forward, one backward, rinse repeat.

Soft next, and don't do those covert contracts. Pump and dump.

zboo1h · 2017-12-02T18:57:21+00:00

You did the right thing. Right now you need to ignore her for a few days, fuck other girls, work on your hobbies and stick to your mission. Let her show up ready to suck and fuck or let her dis-a-fucking-pear.

Primary__Account · 2017-12-02T16:55:02+00:00

Should've kept working towards it, clearly she doesn't wanna rush. Take your time so she can get warmed up and horny. "I know we had sex earlier this week, I want more (say her name)"

Take your time and then you should know when to proceed with intercourse, and then you can go rough or do whatever is enjoyable.

huge_gap · 2017-12-02T17:14:13+00:00

Ass cash or grass.

RPAlternate42 · 2017-12-03T03:05:11+00:00

"The Sexless Innkeeper"

1Pink1Stink · 2017-12-02T17:44:44+00:00

You spoiled her

jay_jay_man · 2017-12-03T02:29:44+00:00

I made this mistake with one of my first plates. I allowed her to sleep over for 4 days straight with no sex. She comes over on her period to "chill". By day 4 I was glad to get her out of my place. The relationship was never the same, she gave me sex (unenthusiastically) only 1 time after that. I didn't pursue her because the dynamic of the relationship had changed. I was already redpill aware so I instantly sensed that I went from friends-with-benefits to male girlfriend. Rather than spend energy restoring a plate I went on with my life.

I learnt two valuable lessons that day.

Never let a plate hangout at my place unless we fucked earlier that day.
Never invite a plate over if she's on her period.

Mildly_Sociopathic · 2017-12-03T08:44:09+00:00

I let her sleep over the previous days hoping for morning sex.

Covert Contract, bitch.

Have you read the sidebar?

icanteven12 · 2017-12-02T17:04:16+00:00

It is kind of hard to tell. Low interest on her part? Whenever I sleep over or she sleeps over we fuck night and morning + some depending on how tired I am. She sometimes gives a little playful resistance to morning sex but we still end up fucking and she gets wet af.

max_peenor · 2017-12-03T16:50:16+00:00

hoping for morning sex

Hoping? Escalate. If it's a no, introduce her to the door. Stop waiting for presents. Make it happen or move to better territory.

judethedude · 2017-12-03T00:39:38+00:00

Lol earlier in the week?? If you aren’t going every 4 hours you’re together, you’re doing something wrong.

RedSkeller · 2017-12-02T17:04:40+00:00

I know it's a grey area but unless you get a hard 'no' or 'stop' you kind of have to keep pushing it. Or kick her out and don't deal with that bullshit. Up to you.

El_Serpiente_Roja · 2017-12-02T21:08:59+00:00

Did good

Title	She keeps sleeping over not wanting sex
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Date	December 2, 2017 4:41 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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