This is my first field report. I learned a lot from this experience, some of you might find it valuable. It's aimed mostly at older guys, but there are lessons for everyone.

FYI: I'm 33.

Last Wednesday night I was out with a friend, let's call him Bill. We started on a rooftop patio. It was fairly dead. There were 2 separate pairs of girls, 1 pair was young (early 20s), the other was older (early 30s). We targeted the young girls. Bill waves one of the girls over to sit at our table. She does. I move to their table to "keep the other girl company." The girl is a 5, but she's Asian, which to me is an automatic +1. We chat. She doesn't seem too interested. I get her number anyway. The girls leave. We switch our attention to the older girls. They are remarkably receptive. They watched us hit on the young girls, they watched me get a number, they loved our attention. They were both 6-7 (but too old for my tastes). Turns out they aren't from my city, but from a super conservative town south. A town you would never live in unless you were super conservative. We bail.

We switch venues to another patio bar. While walking Bill gets a text from a girl he's working hard to sleep with. He invites her to join us. At this time I get a text from some other friends looking to go out, I invite them to join us since Bill is going to be distracted. The 5 of us get to the bar around the same time.

After a few drinks I realize there are no girls to hit on, other than the staff. So, I decide to hit on the hostess. She was sitting by herself looking bored. My opener: "You look bored, a hostess should always be smiling, let me see you smile." She smiles. I flirt for awhile, my regular push-pull. She eats it up. After 5 minutes her boss comes over and gives her shit and tells her to get back to work. I laugh at her and go back to my friends.

20 minutes later, she's standing by herself again. I go over. "Let me make it up to you for getting you in trouble." I hand her my phone with a blank contact screen open. She puts in her number and her full name. I say, "I'm going to text you naughty things." I text her "Naughty Things." (I stole this from seddit, it works a treat) She laughed.

15 minutes later I'm back with my friends. We're talking about a local beach volleyball tournament. I make a joke about looking for my speedo. I get a text "I'd like to see you in a speedo." BOOM! It's on!

As we leave, I go up to the Hostess and tell her to meet me when she gets off. She replies, "maybe."

My friends all work the next morning so they bail. I have no problem rolling solo, so I head to another bar. The Hostess texts me (no longer than 5 minutes after I leave) that she's getting off and wants to meet. I tell her where. After a few texts back and forth she changes her mind and flakes. I carry on with my night solo.

The next afternoon the Hostess texts, "How was the XXXX bar." I respond, "no small talk over text, I'm go to XXX coffee shop to read the paper and sit in the sun, join me." "I'm running errands, give me an hour?"

She's good to her word and meets me in an hour. During our conversation I use my Sherlock Holmesesque deductive abilities to figure out she's 21.

My initial thoughts went something like, "Oh shit this girl is young, she's not going to be into a guy 12 years older than her."

What I say is, "woah woah woah, that means you're 21? Holy fuck you're young."

Her: Um yeah, it that a problem?

me: I don't know, would you say you're mature for your age?

Her: Yes!

Me: I'll be the judge of that, carry on with your story.

For the rest of the conversation I maintained the frame that she was too young for me, and that she'd have to prove herself worthy of my time. I walked her home and kissed her.

We made plans to get together after she was done work that night (read: late night). She flakes. I scolded her and told her flaking was unacceptable. She asked how she can make it up to me. I gave her 3 options:

  1. Come over now

  2. Never flake again

  3. Send sexy pics

She chose number 2.

Friday night I went to a local sports event. She texts and asks to get together. I tell her I'm at the game and that I'll text her later.

Brief aside: I use Friday and Saturday nights to develop new plates. Sunday-Thursday is for harem girls. The Hostess didn't really qualify as either, so I decided to just put her off and hit on new women.

The weather was shit. No one was out. So I decided to change my mind and contacted the Hostess. She's excited to hear from me. Tells me she'll come meet me. 20 minutes later she flakes.

This has been 3 flakes (2 too many). I write her off. She completely fell out of my interest.

Saturday she texts me: I know how to make it up to you.

BOOM! Nude pic!

Suddenly I'm interested again.

I respond: Not bad, you still have a lot of work to do.

I'll fast forward a bit (this is already too long). We set up a time to meet Sunday evening.

She comes over. I pour her some wine. She gets a bit tipsy. She then starts talking about all the sex she's had in the past. I quickly interrupt her and tell her I wasn't interested in the sex she's had in the past, only in the sex she'd have that night. "That's not going to happen! We're not having sex tonight!" For those still new to this, when a girl says you are not going to have sex, what she means is you are going to have sex. Sure enough, within a few hours we're having sex. At one point she actually stops and says:

"Not bad for a 21 year old hey?"

Later, after we had had sex twice more, she told me she didn't want to have sex so soon. She had hoped to make me wait. I asked her, "Why should I have to pay a higher price than the guys before me?" After some hamstering she comes right out and says, "now you wont chase me, because you've already had me."

The Lessons

Approaching the girls at the first place warmed me up, even though nothing came from that.

Having another girl at my table likely worked as pre-selection

Young girls are attracted to an older guys experience. She "bragged" about past sex as a way to show that she too has experience. She just wasn't smart enough to understand experience isn't attractive to men.

Perceived disadvantages can be turned into advantages. Instead of thinking I was too old for her, I changed it to she's too young for me. The fact i enjoy reading the paper exaggerated our age difference, and added to my perceived experience. With enough frame control anything can be a strength.

Girls like to be chased. When they flake it could be because they want you to work harder. When she realized I wasn't interested in playing that game, she sent me a nude pic to try to re-hook me.

Young girls are very fun to sleep with.

Bonus tip: When getting a girls number always hand her your phone with a blank contact screen. If she enters her full name she's interested. If she only enters her first name you haven't developed enough attraction/rapport.