Troubleshooting for new subcribers

Troubleshooting for new subscribers

TL;DR: a method to prioritize how you wish to improve yourself

If you got ADD/ADHD and don't want to make an active thoughts process, you can skip until you come upon the section called D.E.A.R.S

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Have you read the sidebar? Have you read 50+ posts? Have you gained an idea of what TRP is all about?

Have you applied TRP principles into your life?

Let me tell you a story.

I once had a friend, let's call him 'Newb'. Now, Newb introduced me to 'The Game' and opened my world to PUA principles. Then I met a guy, introduced him to it, and started sargein'

Newb didn't.

He sat at home, approached one or two times a month, and girls would rather walk the Exodus and eat stale bread with their dry chapped lips than talk to him for 5 minutes.

• He didn't evolve
• He didn't change
• He made up excuses, procrastinated, and ultimately gave up.

This already sounds like a remake of the same old song, it’s self-evident that a new subscriber, should simply take himself by the bootstraps and get over himself. He’s got the knowledge, now just apply it.

• Eat right.
• Start lifting.
• Get a decent 5 figure job.
• Leave your shitty friends.
• And start carrying yourself like you’re Patrick Swayze with a foot long cock.

Cold Turkey IS the most effective treatment, sometimes. I believe that change is not sudden and static, it’s dynamic. You can cut weight by not eating, and you can cut weight by slowly putting less food on the plate and changing the diet. By simply not eating you will go back to the same habits before you know it, by changing your habit you stay changed.

Like persuasion, sales or pick up. One good opener doesn't start her ovulation, you need to continuously display high value, which makes her slowly shift her perception until it's in your favor.

Your life is quantifiable, it’s a fix set of laws and therefore subject to limitations. What choices to take will become easier after you know your priorities, and to have priorities, you need to describe how you want to interact with the system.

To quote Morpheus

"The matrix is a system Neo, that system is our enemy"

To me, it's an acknowledgment that all interactions with the system after ‘unplugging’ must be based on its constructs and exploiting loopholes or inconveniences to your advantage/gain and avoiding the pitfalls by being able to see ‘the code’. The problem is that you will fail in time. It’s up to you to see how high you can get, and how long it will take for you to reach the bottom.

For my own self improvement, I’ve used the system I call D.E.A.R.S

There might be factors I have forgotten, there might be a better way to describe your characteristics that correlate with your value as a man or your life in general, and you can change it as it fits your purpose.

• DISCIPLINE It's your willpower, your patience, your psychological superiority over others. Think of the difference between Don Draper and a regular teenager. Think of it as your 'frame'

• EGO What you think of yourself, what you radiate, and how you carry yourself

• APPEARANCE Self explanatory, your physique, the way you dress, and the way you let yourself be seen.

• RESOURCES Goods and service, It's not so much as what you give others but the mentality you get from abundance, and how others react to you.

• SOCIAL COMPETENCE How good your social skills, how big your social circle is, and how valuable they are.

These, are the 5 overall 'stats' you have control over, these appreciable values in your life can be go up or down depending on the choices you make in life. Now, why do I systematize it like this? It's not like you need all these things to get pUzzy bro.

Well, again it's about quality of you as a man, your life, and admission of where your weaknesses lie. You might have already realized that the different attributes are or can be connected to each other, I’ll come to that.

Secondly there are numerous ways to get girls.

The guy I introduced to game, let's call him 'Slim Shady' was by all standards ugly, and there were times when he didn't shower because he believed the hormones in his old sweat helped him in game or some shit. But, he was suave as fuck. He had a huge social circle, and he was the best opener and small talker I have to this day, ever met. Now, even though the girls he laid weren't 8/10 or above, he was layin 7's at least once a week from the age of 19.

So if we were to seize up his 'stats' * D. 6 * E. 6 * A. 4 * R. 6 * S. 9

• his 'score' would be 6.6.

As you could imagine, he was king of text game, he was king of opening groups in bars, and I grew accustomed to wait for the right time to come in and help him DHV. But his problem was that he's about 5.7, and so thin that he was practically skin and bones. He got destroyed on the dance floor, and other men could easily assert dominance over him. What was his worth then?

He would go into shock when something happened he couldn't talk his way out of and his ego would take a huge blow. He even got so depressed once that he took pills to keep his mood up.

What he didn’t realize was value isn't represented by you at your best and also the fact that he didn’t believe he had to do anything in regards to his appearance as he would have to deal with the fact that he wasn't that good looking.

Some years later he ended up in a relationship. Can’t tell if it’s because he believed himself good enough as he was and he got onites or if he simply has sex while focusing on his carrier.

Ego is a double edged sword and while it helps you assert yourself and makes you feel good about yourself you should know your limitations.

On the other hand, Through Slim Shady, I met another guy. ZF When I met him the first time, he was a functioning alcoholic grunt, who’d just returned from the Middle East, working as some kind of squad leader escorting VIPs. He had a bit of love handles. Around average height, nothing out of the ordinary, except he had biceps the size of a girl’s thigh, and eyes that screamed murder. Once one of my friends had a dog over, and first time it met him, it tucked its tail between it's legs and went around around him. No shit. The best thing about him is he wouldn't give a single fuck, unless somebody was threatening, or it was in general a stupid thing to do. Therefore, he was given the designation Zulu Foxtrot, or Zero Fucks.

ZF is a talker, the problem is when he talks, he wouldn’t differentiate between civilians and his squad mates. Now, as if it wasn't bad enough that he just took whatever seat he wanted, talked over any other man at the table, and simply called you out for being wrong or stupid, changed the subject of the conversation if he found it stupid or the fact he asserted himself at the table as the tribal leader. It is that he would choose topics for conversation like, Cultural Marxism and it's flaws, why the Middle East should be blown off the map, why what the leftist university girls are being taught in school is bullshit and why they're wrong, in the manner other people would choose talk about the weather or a barber shop they just tried.

If you're imagining some sort of mad-eyed man crossbred from Gunnery Sergeant Hartman and Ron Swanson with a mix of Mark Twain and then put on 'roids. Then you're not far off.

He currently trains new recruits on some place far away from where he lives and only comes home on weekends, and on a somewhat shit salary. It also hurts his social circle that he mostly only talks with other grunts in thunderdome land. But that is a factor he has evaluated and concluded he can live without, and he has actively chosen to shave off his social circle until it was a size large enough for all the quality people without being large enough to need spending time on pure maintenance.

Although he’s not the popular party boy, he doesn't have any issues with girls, you wouldnt believe what kind of reactions girls give him when he's in the club talking to strangers. Guys immediately back off, and girls either gets offended, want to take a serious discussion with him, or get drawn in like a moth to the flame. From the seat of the observer, It's like watching documentaries about female guards falling in love with the prisoners, or women falling in love with serial killers. He's just so pure MAN that they can't help it.

If we would put his 'stats' up, it would look something like this:

• D. 8
• E. 8
• A. 7
• R. 6
• S. 7
• === 7.2

Now, if we imagine that the guy quit his job and it wouldn’t affect his physique or his self discipline - he could have increased his own value as he would have more time for socializing, or lifting. In theory.

However, he might lose a lot of perks that are included with his job, or maybe it will affect his physique in a negative way, or the way he carries himself as he would no longer carry himself like a soldier.

Let’s use D.E.A.R.S concept as an example if you have a terrible self confidence and girls just smell that insecurity a mile away, resulting in you not being able to get laid, resulting in scarcity. You can tackle this problem in two different ways.

You can either tackle the issue head on, elevate yourself, really make yourself believe you’re the shit, fake it till you make it, create a mantra about how awesome you are, or simply see a shrink.

If that doesn't work, there’s another way.

As stated before, your attributes are intwined. Now, if you’re a fucking dumbass, you could start off with not being a fat piece of shit and stop looking like a hobo, right now! If we assume that you haven’t facepalmed yourself after realizing that might have been an issue. You can start looking into your other attributes.

Do you have friends who makes you feel better about yourself? Or are you being socially excluded?

Is your testosterone low? Have you been sleeping well? Eating well? Have you forgotten to lift?

Have you fucked up at work? Are you stressed out? Do you have your shit in order? Do you lack discipline?

Is your job the issue? Lack money? Long time since you have gotten laid? (pussy is a resource in my book)

Found the issue? Good. Now solve it! And then do it all over again!

In conclusion I want you to try D.E.A.R.S right now! Evaluate your strengths and weaknesses in the context of these values.

When you identify a value that needs improvement, all you have to do next is to identify the actual remedy for it and apply until the desired end state is achieved.

Edit: edited the TL;DR.