Red Pill Rage-When Does it Go Away

GreatRedYeti · 2016-03-25T03:13:15+00:00

Today I was depressed all day that my dream of a happy wife and family was bullshit and a lie...a trap which would destroy me. This stupid dream persists and re-activates the red pill rage. [...] When does the rage go away?

I would suggest that it will very likely continue -- and will eventually consume you -- unless and until...

You either REVERT back into that "trap-dream" of marriage & kids...

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OR you choose create & reach for some OTHER "dream" as your life goal.

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Seriously, your brain is continuing to go back to that "marriage/family life plan" because you haven't put anything ELSE in it's place.

Consider as an analogy that your brain is like a computer, every day when you wake up it gets "rebooted". The BIOS routine starts; it verifies that the hardware is all intact, and then goes looking for an OS to boot... and finding a "damaged copy" of ~~Windows XP~~ erm I mean "Marriage/Family OS" -- it attempts to boot and "fix or repair" that OS -- which of course is a very time & energy consuming, frustrating & even rage-inducing thing.

It's gonna continue to do THAT... until you wipe the drive and install Linux (or some other OS of your choice).

-- What is your "Linux"? Well that's really up to you.

Where do you want to be, what do you want to be doing: "About 5 years from now I hope to be ____ and ... and then about 10 years from now I expect that I'll be ____ and ... then further out, say 20 to 30 years from now, I want to be ____ and ___." etc.

You need to start filling in those blanks; and with things OTHER than the present (default) "happily married" and "kids/family" related things.

Maybe you'll fill in the blanks with "retired" and "sailing my sailboat"; or "running my own business" and "flying my own airplane"; or even something more basic (& still slightly vague or less specific) like "financially secure" and "traveling the world."

But it's gotta be something.

User-31f64a4e · 2016-03-25T02:06:50+00:00

You don't really get rid of it until you stop wanting reality to be different. You stop wanting the reality to be different by directing your attention away from how you want them to be and towards how they actually are, and realizing it has its own dimension of freedom and satisfaction that you can enjoy.

But as long as you resent the way things are, the rage will be there.

edit2: so you're getting angry that it was a lie and that it might have ruined your life. Well, it had to be a lie, otherwise there wouldn't have been anything to wake up from.

good_man_gone · 2016-03-25T02:34:38+00:00

...who told me that I "showed her the true meaning of the deepest love". After depleting my bank account..

Here we go.

Dont think you are the only one who is feeling depressed from time to time. But I promise you it will go away and then you can be depressed about other things.

Monk mode may be a little too harsh when you still feel anger associated to women because you are pushing yourself to the extreme. Let some time pass and the anger will die down by itself.

Then, once you can think clear headed, you can decide what is your next step. We've all been there and there is no easy way out. Push through and you will thank yourself later.

DigitalScetis · 2016-03-25T05:07:48+00:00

I am of the belief that the "red pill rage" doesn't ever go away. It goes into remission.

Doing some things, including things that have been mentioned in this thread, can help put it into remission longer; things that include working towards some goal, filling up the time with exercise or meditation or spirituality/religious devotion, study, etc.

But you'll find that life is going to throw some shit at you that puts you back into the rage every now and then. You'll see some politician say some shit about men, or see some open hypergamy too obvious to be denied. Maybe the SJWs will stir up shit. Maybe you'll be forced to sit in anti-sexual harassment training to "teach you not to rape."

And you'll rage inside, just like now. And we'll still be here, just like now.

But you will find that each time you get the red pill rage, the effects will be less severe, it will pass by more quickly, and a longer time will pass before the rage comes back.

raven982 · 2016-03-25T05:34:22+00:00

When you refocus your life goals and find happiness in things that are real instead of longing for fantasies and lies society has fed you.

gundahir · 2016-03-25T08:52:12+00:00

you have to accept reality and that it sucks and make the best out of it. there are way more red pills to swallow out there. small exhibition of other lies:

doctors know best and they really want to help you. banks want to help you and make you richer with the interests they grant you and financial products they recommend to you. everyone has the same opportunities and can become anything. the current education system is good and a smart way to educate people. politicians are elected by the people and do what is in the peoples best interest. politicians have all the power. wars are necessary and we who fight them are always good and the others are always evil. their purpose is to bring democracy and freedom to other people. the average diet is healthy and processed food coming out of factories is healthy. consumerism will make you very happy and keep you happy. the IMF and World Bank actually help poor countries.

once you dont look at fairytales anymore but what is actually going on you can go forward.

2016-03-25T04:36:32+00:00

When understanding that sex (pro-creation ) is the only power the opposite gender has over oneself.

wormalizer · 2016-03-25T07:29:14+00:00

You have been a victim of the western myth of romantic love. I recommend freeing and forgiving yourself of this delusion. http://goo.gl/5eSOEf

Chev__Chelios · 2016-03-25T21:08:38+00:00

You'll give in and be back on a woman's leash as soon as a woman throws you some wet hole.

I'm saying that as someone who's an outsider looking in. I'm a selfish, cocky mother fucker. If you ain't selfish, you'll never have the right mindset to go your own way. I've never had a relationship last more than a couple of months because I always knew it would destroy MY plans. I will never compromise what I want for MY life. Kids? no. LTR? no. Random hook ups when they require no effort? Yes. Putting out effort to meet women? Hell no.

What do you get in return? You get to live life on YOUR own terms. If you're a loser who's got nothing going on, that can be the ultimate fear. If you're a winner and you make things happen and have the guts to take opportunities, you'll go far, and you won't have a woman holding you back. Kids are a WOMAN's goal, a MAN's goal in life should be to aim much higher than having kids.

Pies-of-Posture · 2016-03-25T04:13:44+00:00

My dream was to get married and have kids.

Sorry but I laughed my ass off a bit, and good thing its a "was" and not an "is".

ss_camaro · 2016-03-25T06:29:07+00:00

Today is victory over yourself of yesterday;

Tomorrow, victory over lesser challenges.

Trump_is_my_Daddy · 2016-03-25T11:05:46+00:00

Took me well over a year and a lot of reading and introspection.

Darth_Sin · 2016-03-25T12:11:07+00:00

The rage will go away when you accept reality for what it is.

Morranaii · 2016-03-25T12:51:15+00:00

"showed her the true meaning of the deepest love". After depleting my bank account in one sentence, woow :D women use such BS stories telling men to keep them hooked. rage.. yeah sometimes it comes back to me ,too. but I've found out that it gradually passes away. and when it comes back, it's more and more weak. be patient.

nigelh · 2016-03-25T13:17:55+00:00

You're stuck with it all the time you keep feeding it. Just wake up, smell the coffee, and ask yourself "Hey. What am I going to do for me today?" Pick something you want to achieve so at the end you'll be pleased to tell yourself "Hey. I did that." Then you've moved on.

Trekbiker · 2016-03-25T16:38:33+00:00

I never wanted kids or marriage so never really experienced a rage phase. More like a reality check/dissallusionment phase.

Read Warren Farrell's book "Why Men are the Way They Are". I read it at age 26 when it was first published in the mid '80's. That book changed my life and the reality between men and women finally became clear.

Smitty6 · 2016-03-26T16:01:39+00:00

It goes away when you really truly stop giving a fuck about what anybody does and just focus on you. Like you just say to yourself you can't control what anybody does and you can't stop women from acting like entitled spoiled brats. So why even bother caring about it? Why even waste energy on it? Why care what any women thinks about you? Why even worry about what they decide to do with themselves? It's not your life. I have my own life to deal with and I want to be as happy as I can be and to enjoy my life as much as possible. Fuck everything else.

illimitableMan34 · 2016-03-28T00:11:10+00:00

I consider myself to be one lucky guy. I rather discovered MGTOW from a skit on youtube. At the time being a few months ago. I'm turning 14 in under a month. I don't seem to rather be livid, but hopes of societal norms such as "Marriage" etc. are long gone. But I'm glad none the less.

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