How do i build self esteem? there's something wrong with me.

alphaonthecomeup · 2020-05-06T02:33:23+00:00

Also NO MORE PORN and go nofap. After the 2 week and month mark, you lose the urges and feel a bit better.

It’s a pride thing too, there are so many men out there beating there shit Cumming into napkins and then sitting there wiping the cum off there fingers. Just be one of the guys that doesn’t do that. I can’t front tho I wanna beat my shit 4 times a day. And I would, but I don’t like feeling depressed the next morning and then thinking I have to beat my shit again for some dopamine. Your mind will thank you and your defenseless chub will thank you.

Cut that shit the fuck out, seriously if you really must fap, use your imagination.

DaftOdyssey · 2020-05-06T02:26:20+00:00

Are you possibly depressed?

2020-05-06T02:38:47+00:00

First stand up tall, chest up and head high. Then go into Monk mode. Read up on it, take notes, make a plan on your improvement and go offline. Believe in it. Push through it no matter what. You'll learn a lot about yourself. This step is extremely important. Believe, out in the effort and you will come out stronger. Cut off all external stimulants such as social media, Reddit, etc..

Why you feel this way? Two possibilities: you truly don't have anything of substance and value to show to yourself as accomplishment and the realization has hit you hard as you aged OR you are too focused on an unrealistic external image of perfection formed based on a tiny cross section of external entities' lives such as friends, Instagram Chads and some people on this sub claiming to have an n count of 15764.

Either way, monk mode is your answer. Stand tall.

alphaonthecomeup · 2020-05-06T02:28:41+00:00

5-15 minute Meditation daily ( morning , afternoon, night )

Affirmations for the next 4 weeks , deadass write these positive things down and repeat them to yourself , go the mirror, look yourself in the eye and do it.

Get things done no matter what, 3 positive activities you must must must complete before your day ends (for me I use youtube for meditation and stretching and then I make sure I do some type of workout , push ups, pull ups , abs , jump rope, idgaf no excuses)

Brush your teeth in the morning and before bed and use a whitening mouth wash.

Delete social media , it’s useless. This will help stop you from spying on your ex and feeling bad. (I’ve been working on this myself, I slipped a little bit today and checked her IG but I did not check her Twitter , look for the little W’s in life. Accept your L’s but keep improving on them.

And yo tbh bro it’s life, it’s gonna suck tbh. I don’t know what you’ve been doing, but I’ve been trying to find a key to 24 hour happiness and tbh lately I’m only really happy when I’m working out listening to aggressive music (XXXTENTACION and 6ix9ine) and after a meditation session followed by my stretching.

Don’t drink or smoke. That shit is lit when you’re young, but it’s corny after a certain age. I’m 23 right now. In college all I did was fucking smoke weed , go to class , chill with my boys , lift weights, try to find parties so I could maybe get lucky and try to get games of beer pong going on. It was lit but now I’m off that.

Stop playing video games, you’re better off reading mad TRP and watching AMS.

The biggest problem is thinking that a girl is going to make your life complete. I’m not gonna lie and say a bitch doesn’t make me happy :) (I’m a dopamine serotonin and oxytocin addict sometimes). But from what I’ve been seeing is that even When I was with my ex , I still wasn’t content. Now that we’re broken up I’m definitely even more negative content, but it just goes to show to me that there’s gotta be more.

Travel somewhere once all this corona virus shit is done. Ireland is a beautiful place , I really like Miami , if you like drugs and are a bit of a hippy go check out Amsterdam. There’s sooo much more I wanna see. It’s crazy. I hope I make big money as i get older so I could see more of the world and fuck around with foreign bitches. I get more of a ego boost from them

Pick up a sport like BJJ / kickboxing. Some random comment on Asktrp Actually introduced me to this shit. I’m doing both but I like kickboxing more, I pretend it’s the guy that I think my ex might potentially date in the future (who knows if she will though, tbh day by day I’m starting to give less of a fuck) , it’s good motivation and gets some of my pent up anger out that I wouldn’t be able to release like that.

Go see your favorite artists live. Go go go go go go go after this Coronavirus shit. I never felt more connected to people (absolute strangers) than I have at a festival like rolling loud or some shit. Bro a Travis Scott concert and some molly , top 5 experiences in my life, if only it could be like that monthly loll.

But yeah bro, pick yourself up. You’re gonna die one day. You’re not old yet. Go get the fuck after it and be sad at the same time .. until you aren’t ;)

alphakari · 2020-05-06T02:39:07+00:00

Do esteemable things. Take responsibility for something outside of yourself if you can't seem to get anything out of helping yourself. IE: Get a pet, volunteer, fix your family, etc.

Consider if your standards for yourself may be too high in the short term if you actually are killing it and are just not taking credit.

Find something competitive to participate in.

WheresDaLeek · 2020-05-06T05:29:05+00:00

Do you workout?

hoopingblob · 2020-05-06T07:48:18+00:00

Stop saying that you are weak. That would be a start

empatheticapathetic · 2020-05-06T10:34:33+00:00

I have similar life long issues. Semen retention really sorts my head out and helps me build positive mental habits. I’d recommend looking into it.

Moyzcom · 2020-05-06T11:58:04+00:00

Looks like you have dopamine overload: anything seems nonsense anymore for you. You are apathetic. I would recommend 1 day of complete dopamine fasting, and a lifetime of dopamine detox.

Dopamine detox means to eliminate from your life every insta gratification you can have: porn, junk food, video games, sugar,... Start giving your body GOOD DOPAMINE HITS coming from exercise, gym, talking to girls, maybe pain from boxing, getting good in a new field, getting a new job... You need to feel valued again and the only way to make that happen is by improving and feeling good a things.

That's why you have to start trying new things and improving at them. Trust me, whenever you talk to a new girl, box for 1 hour, get your first sale in your new job, the DOPAMINE HIT you take from that is 1000% better than the porn you watch every night.

DeepNutted · 2020-05-06T14:05:00+00:00

Do something meaningful in your life that gives you purpose. Mastering things are to men what attention is to girls. It builds self-confidence.

Check your diet too. Zinc is important for cognition, might be worth looking into as it boosts working memory which will allow you to problem solve your issues better.

comcain · 2020-05-06T19:39:42+00:00

Set goals. Start with little ones. Get a journal -- a spiral bound notebook is fine - and write down stuff like take a shower", "make my bed". When you do them, line that item through. Continue until you have a page filled. Then gradually add harder goals, like lifting consistently, eating well, not watching porn, etc.

The nice thing about it is you can periodically flip back and SEE your progress. It's impossible to argue with.

Consider getting your health checked out. Go get a physical. If the depression keeps up, see a psychiatrist or a psychologist/therapist. Sometimes it takes a little extra to kick people up out of depression.

Take care, brother. This quarantine is making everyone a little crazy.

Cheers!

adomuzas · 2020-05-06T06:27:12+00:00

Cant you see the reason from your writing. "I am weak, I am a peace of shit" are you fucking kidding me. Bro, our confidence and happiness is the projection of our beliefs. If you believe you are a piece of shit you are gonna be one. If you believe you are awesome, you are gonna be one. Positive words have as much power as actions. Fake it till you make it, this also applies to self love. Read Bruce Lipton "biology of belief" if you dont believe me. Message me if you need some ideas on what to say to yourself.

TheChinkLord · 2020-05-06T08:37:56+00:00

Go to home depot

Title	How do i build self esteem? there's something wrong with me.
Author	cruelpain
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Comments	16
Date	May 6, 2020 1:59 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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