Maybe at 32, but at 22 girls don’t want a chill calm guy like me who wants to respect them, care for them, and be reliable. They want unreliable men who’s respect they have to fight for. They want to be able to complain to their friends how their man doesn’t treat her well or put her first. They want to try to change someone, not the finished product. They want uncertainty and that’s not what I want to give. That isn’t who I am.

Maybe they’ll want me in a few years, but that doesn’t mean I’ll say yes when the time comes. How am I not supposed to feel bitter or upset when I’ve been the guy they say they want for 10 years, but they choose the opposite first and get to me when all other options are gone. Who likes to be last to be picked?