You are fixated on your misfortunes. "All women date up, women are so stuck up and demanding, they only do stuff for Chad." That's obviously not the case.

My cousin went volunteering in Africa as a healthcare student. She fell in love with a guy there. She went back to marry him and brought him to America. He studied while she worked, and after the necessary time period to get a permanent residence, he divorced her, sued for $50,000 in yearly alimony (no way he got that without kids though), and started working and dating a new girl.

I don't even want to fault the guy for what he did. I'm sure he was "in love", or whatever. But I just want to point out that women aren't picky. Women absolutely do date down. At least where I live women are nice, gullible and desperate. Maybe it depends on the gender ratios and dating culture where you live, but pickme culture is prevalent where I live, and anytime you think about university students, there will be surplus women. Those women are desperate and will do a lot for any guy.

He was not Tyrone. He was a short goblin-looking man with crooked teeth. And no, my cousin isn't a fat white woman revered by African men. She's a cute skinny white woman. The guy was older than her, but he "didn't know how old he was" because he was raised in an orphanage or something.

This isn't a rare occurrence. I've come in contact with tons of stories like that. Girls who converted to Islam and moved to the Middle-East for ugly Muslims they met online. Girls who volunteered in South America and married guys shorter than them. A woman who traveled to India repeatedly to sleep with a 5'6 yellow-teethed sun-leathered Indian guy who couldn't even place her country on a map. Do you not see these women? They are desperate for human connection. They are not even fat. It's not hard to make a woman feel special when she receives no attention from men at home.

I've never seen the reverse situation though. People like to travel in my entourage, but it's only the women who volunteer. The men don't do that. And they don't marry poor women from foreign countries. Now I know that men practice sex tourism and get Filipina wives. But it's not happening in my entourage. All the men in my generation have married up at least slightly. The women are either married down, single or desperately picking up foreign men who are not even hot.

This makes me think that there's really is more variations than you think, even within different spheres, because I don't think my city has a particularly bad gender ratio. I think the manosphere is stuck in one of those microcosms where women have the advantage over men and they are outraged. It's also compounded by the fact that these specific men have no game. If an ugly 30-something jungle orphan with a 5th grade education can convince a cute Western college girl to marry him and bring him to America, you have no excuse. You just don't know how to talk to women.

And it's not just about exoticism. These women do the same stuff for local men, it's just not as memorable because no one will blink if she travels 10 minutes from home to give blowjobs to an ugly dude who eventually dumps her. But it does seem like women here are so starved for affection, for that bit of romance, that when they meet a guy from a culture that's maybe warmer, they fall head over heels. These women are kind-hearted, open-minded and not greedy. They will respond to a man's advances easily, but locally they don't get approached or the men are cold and self-centered.

TL;DR: if you can't see any generous, nice, kind women who date down, you haven't taken a good look at women