The anger of getting cucked/friendzoned/used by females in the past

OrzhovPalatine · 2020-05-08T14:25:44+00:00

You're just gonna have to learn to get over the RP rage.

Understand and accept that it was your fault for getting cucked/friendzoned/used and use them as a frame of reference for the next time.

TheRedApprentice · 2020-05-08T15:53:07+00:00

I'm going to echo some of the other responses here: channeling your anger through physical activity will benefit you both mentally and physically. The more time spent seething in your rage is just more time wasted that would be better spent doing, deadass, anything else.

Men have a tendency to convert emotional distress (pain, stress, anxiety, etc.) into anger as a means of mitigating it (edit: used a word wrong and replaced it with a better one). Searing pain becomes boiling rage. So, less personal butthurt = less anger. Find the source of your pain and soothe it. If you're thinking the source is obviously the women who are manipulating and deceiving you, think a little harder. It's likely deeper than this.

I would recommend staying in monk mode until you sort that out. If you're still feeling this way post-quarantine and you attempt to spin plates, they will notice your emotional dissonance and they will not like it. The rejection thereafter will be hurtful, and that will contribute to more anger. Does that look like a cycle? Because that's a cycle. A cycle that you do not want.

Best of luck to you, OP.

carolinaflash · 2020-05-08T14:23:38+00:00

Honestly, I appreciate all the pain and anger from past women. Made me reach levels I didnt think I could. Be careful of the bitterness man, it only hurts you. Instead maybe try being thankful for them and wish them well. I know it sounds ridiculous and its hard as shit, but it will set you free. This is your life and your journey only. Keep up the monk mode bro, it pays in the long run.

TRP_Scepter · 2020-05-08T14:59:33+00:00

I don't care about what anybody else says; anger is good if used properly.

All that hate and rage you feel can be used in the gym. You think the truly strong people got there by being happy and content all the time? Hell no. There's chaos in the stomach of every truly strong man. In my experience, anger will boost every physical activity because it shuts off your rationalizing mind.

Enjoy this anger phase. Make the most of it and remember the feeling of being used and abused. Always have some anger inside you can use to get yourself through that daunting physical task. George Leeman, a powerlifter who vanished, talked quite a bit about this in a video entitled "The Truth About Us."

redhorndog · 2020-05-08T17:41:53+00:00

There's a lot of anger buried inside of me and it's making me resent all women

Only advice I can give is channel that in the gym. Or rage fuck a plate or two.

Look most guys have gone through what you went through. Hell I went through it too. So much for the shit we are taught.

Im not really angry just disappointed that I see things differently now.

Its like a child being told santa clause isnt real.

askmrcia · 2020-05-08T18:39:50+00:00

You are not the only one who's experienced those things. I say 99% of us here have been through some shit if not worse then what you been through.

Going to guess you are young. Ask all the guys here who were married at some point in their lives and what they been through.

Honestly this quarantine should be a blessing. Saving money by not dating and discovering what you really want to do with yourself outside of women.

You'll be fine

IXseed · 2020-05-08T21:46:27+00:00

You need to understand this: It's your fault.

You can sit here and blame women for "using" you and this and that. But aren't you a man? Aren't you capable of making your own decisions? You're not mad because these women tricked you. You're mad because you tricked YOURSELF.

Once you take responsibility for your own actions, the RP rage will cease. It's gonna take some time, but focus on that.

comcain · 2020-05-09T02:08:52+00:00

Many of us have been through this and we label it "rage phase". Wait til you've gone through a divorce for True Rage.

Be glad you found out now what girls are like.

TRP in many ways is about leveling the playing field against girls.

Hang tough, brother, you're not alone.

Cheers

Johnny_Monsanto · 2020-05-08T14:28:54+00:00

Only person you should be mad is yourself. You are the one allowing that shit to happen.

DrunkOldBear · 2020-05-08T15:16:19+00:00

Dude, be thankful for the learning opportunity and move on. Too many fish in a waaay too Big ocean and not enough time.

i-am-the-prize · 2020-05-08T15:17:38+00:00

Don't be angry, let the memories flow through you, then put them down. Then quietly thank them and smile. You see, these women and their actions have validated AWALT and other TRP teachings and have strengthened you for your future.

You're better off learning from other men's mistakes, but in this case, you have catalogued some of your own - fine, learn from them, and move on.

If you find the anger rising up, get your ass to the gym (or home gym during Covid) and use it as motivation to benefit yourself. Are you the best possible version of yourself now? Truly, have you made every improvement possible in your life? Then you have no excuse to sit around and reminisce all day. Get off your ass.

Unlikely_Composer · 2020-05-08T15:22:54+00:00

Use that shit for fuel in the gym.

Also don’t focus too much on the fact that it happened, focus on how you’ve changed and become a better person.

Noodlesoupe2 · 2020-05-08T21:05:05+00:00

Why should women give you sex when you clearly didn’t deserve it. The anger phase is a process of ego killing, that you don’t deserve sex just for existing and you have to work for it. You played yourself and if you let multiple women manipulate you that’s a sign of mental weakness. Don’t be a victim get better.

Title	The anger of getting cucked/friendzoned/used by females in the past
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Date	May 8, 2020 2:15 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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