Can't love women after swallowing the red pill?

Snowboard18 · 2020-05-08T23:50:27+00:00

Since true love doesn't exist, learn to enjoy their company and the value they bring to your life instead of trying to fall in love as the goal.

jonboi211 · 2020-05-09T01:03:25+00:00

Love only exists between a parent and a child. We are hardwired to love that child unconditionally. Romantic relationships come with tons of conditions - when all those conditions are met consistently ( alpha stays alpha , female stays submissive ) it can seem like " love " but in actual fact it can be derailed by any number of things (her finding a BBD , alpha turning beta , her starting to challenge ) ......the fairytale doesn't exist so stop stressing about it this isn't a rom-com you don't have an obligation to fall in love . Just have relationships that fill your time in a positive way , enrich your life and bring you pleasure. Women are there to be enjoyed. Remember it's a game , and it doesn't stop.

WIA20XX · 2020-05-09T01:32:40+00:00

Regular guys that don't know anything about this shit don't feel the same way after their first love. Just like their first beer, first time they got high, first time they rode a bike, drove a car, graduated, got the best test score, won a fight, made a bunch of money, got the first job, ....etc

And because nature is cruel, your first taste of defeat is something so powerful that people would rather avoid pain than seek pleasure. Prefer inertia and stability, to movement.

That said, most people don't really grapple with the novelty of firsts (women in particular).

You get with a girl, she loves you for the 1st 3 months....and then expects that feeling to last until she's in the grave. And when reality kicks in, she is blaming YOU for HER fucked up expectations.

With the Red Pill, at least some of it, you have the opportunity to actually grow up, instead of chasing expectations and feelings.

I honestly don't think most of the guys - especially the ones asking questions about plates/ltrs - really want to grow up.

Loss is part of life.

Chicks being who they are, loyal to themselves only, is just a part of life.

You stopped believing in Santa, now you can stop believing this chick is going to love you forever.

Noodlesoupe2 · 2020-05-08T23:43:42+00:00

Just remember that women aren’t evil, they’re people like you and me. The redpill doesn’t mean all women are evil it means the aren’t special or put on a pedestal

Protocol_Apollo · 2020-05-09T01:53:30+00:00

Yeh this is the final stage that even I don’t think I have fully got to/mastered.

Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression (I’ll add this one: 4.5- acceptance but still cynical.)
Acceptance

It’s hard to trust and love women after all the having the fantasy broken but perhaps it’s the way one thinks of trust/love (with women) that needs to change.

One needs to learn how to trust and love women appropriately.

u/Whisper and u/HumanSockPuppet are probably the only guys here that could have insight on this.

spartan_samurai · 2020-05-09T06:48:21+00:00

Try to have a good time with women whilst it's your turn.

You should expect from the begining that they might leave you someday and when they actually do then you wouldn't be that much disappointed.

It's like you go to cinema to watch an exciting movie and you know it's gonna last for around 2 hours so you enjoy the movie if it's good. But if the movie didn't turn out as good as you expected then I think you wouldn't stop going to cinema altogether or hate all the movie directors. You go to cinema again to try different movie.

So stop getting disappointed with women behaviour, everyone is different from each other so enjoy the experience with them whilst it lasts.

DTron2332 · 2020-05-09T06:29:57+00:00

You can love women, you’re just either in a anger phase or a nihilistic one. I was in the same once as well, infact most of us where. Women aren’t perfect, neither are men. But that doesn’t mean we cannot love a women for what she has to offer us, and the desire that comes with it.

You will eventually find out.

asskisser · 2020-05-09T11:45:29+00:00

Men love women in 2 ways. As a mother or a daughter. Shift your needs and expectations of your sexual partners from the former to the latter. Instant success

Free_Push · 2020-05-09T13:58:33+00:00

In the same boat. Like most men, I'm a (now recovering) romantic. When I first swallowed TRP, I had a huge burst of energy and euphoria, followed by a hard crash at the realization that that love never really will exist and never existed in the way that I thought that it did, despite the times I thought that I had found it.

The concept of maintaining frame felt exhausting too, but these past few weeks I've been coming out of the crash with this realization: you and I get to use this time to become the person we always wanted to be, and then through the maintenance of frame get to stay that way, hopefully for the remainder of our lives.

hoopingblob · 2020-05-09T18:13:32+00:00

Love never existed so I don't see your problem. You can start enjoying your own company now

imjustaman93 · 2020-05-09T00:00:10+00:00

Wish I had that power.

I still fall in love just based on her face looks.

PaulWallThrowed · 2020-05-09T06:47:05+00:00

It's like that at the beginning but you'll fall for another one at some point, definitely not as hard, but certainly there will be a girl that catches your attention a little more strongly, and you'll (by human design) have some type of feeling cuz of that.

We like things that stand out of the ordinary, and it's programed internally in every human to attribute feelings to those thing- with women it's love feelings although in varying degrees. I wouldn't say that's gonna be your fate forever, but yes it tends to feel like that when you first realize the game.

Luis_McLovin · 2020-05-09T09:28:07+00:00

You got mental problems for sorting out

Speaking from my own experience

rp-snatchyahoe · 2020-05-09T12:14:24+00:00

Love as in paternal love - sure. Love as in idealistic love - no

PebbleChunk · 2020-05-09T15:58:26+00:00

I'm glad I had my "pre working out the red pill truth" moment in some ways (obv overall it'd have been better to have known from the start).... those feelings of ecstatic pathetic sappy lurrrve and romantic dreams etc felt great..... but now I regard it as a time in my life that's part of my history and not present, like watching cartoons as a kid, they were great but just don't work for me now

Fury_93 · 2020-05-09T05:38:15+00:00

Women don't feel remorse or guilt especially about cheating because they rationalize it in their head. I'd classify that as evil.

If I kill someone but in my head I was right in doing so people could still view me as evil even if I was doing right by me.

Title	Can't love women after swallowing the red pill?
Author	Pilomtrees
Upvotes	37
Comments	33
Date	May 8, 2020 11:40 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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