How do I deal with insecurity about my looks?

Namtara · 2020-05-04T19:54:03+00:00

You should like yourself because you like yourself. It shouldn't be based on whether someone else likes that part of you.

If you don't like something about your looks, and it really is your standard that isn't being met, then look into how you would achieve that standard. You'll have to parse it out more than just saying you don't like your face.

Check out /r/skincareaddiction guides if it's that sort of issue. It is a ton of reading, but it is so worth it.

Also check out /r/femalelevelupstrategy (run by FDS mods) for more general stuff.

lonelybones1 · 2020-05-04T20:40:42+00:00

These top tier model types that you're attracted to, do you know their personalities and whether or not they are in fact HVM? When you think back to your trainer and how you believe he wanted sex, does that affect how you view how attractive he is now?

There's a lot of someone to take into account. Is it possible that you're attracted to these kinds of men because you're afraid that anything less conventionally attractive would mean settling for less in your mind? Is settling something you're afraid of because you view it as a reflection of you being unattractive? If you work on building your self-care routine and self-love, you won't need to worry about attracting good and good looking people, because they'll become attracted to you.

Sreshme · 2020-05-04T23:17:22+00:00

I would like to share my story with my ex. My ex was a bad looking guy(ZVM and if you rate his looks he is -10/10 ) . He always wanted a good looking and fair girl. I am from Southern India where color is one of the criteria. He was attracted to me by seeing my picture somewhere. What I observed when I was with him was he was feeling good about himself by having me as a prize. “ I don’t look good. At least i got a girl that looks beautiful” used to boost his ego. I would suggest you to introspect if you are thinking like that unconsciously and projecting that on people you attract.

Everyone is beautiful in their own ways physically. What matters is how much beautiful one is inside.

Saitschik · 2020-05-04T22:58:53+00:00

For many men the face matters less than you think as long as you have a good body. However, you need a mindset change.

Work on your personality and inner peace and good things - and men - will come your way.

smithaej · 2020-05-04T21:09:56+00:00

Evan Antin isn't gay?! Well I'll be damned...

ErikaNaumann · 2020-05-05T00:12:04+00:00

What is about your face that you dislike? Most face issues can be solved with skincare, makeup, teeth whitening and a good haircut to frame your face shape correctly. We also tend to be overcritical of ourselves, so practicing self love will also help.

If you have issues that you cannot change and maybe cause extreme anxiety (let's say a certain nose shape you detest) you can also do more invasive treatments, like plastic surgery. Just make sure if you go that route is not for a man, but for you.

ayhtdws1989 · 2020-05-05T06:32:11+00:00

first off,it is very normal for humans to be insecure of their looks. with the rise of social media and impossible beauty standards. This is only increasing. It is imp to recognize the toxic messages sent to us through society.

here are my tips to be more confident about your looks:-

Dont compare yourself- stop comparing yourself to celebrities or anyone pretty on social media. this is very toxic. realize that the beauty that someone else posses does not mean u are any less.
Dont go into mental spirals- when u look into the mirror try not t give into the mental spiraling of ur thoughts saying ur ugly. start controlling that. Dont give into those thoughts. you can also start thinking about something else.
watch youtube videos-watch videos that are empowering. their are loads of great videos on this topic on that site. you will be able to find those u like and this will help reaffirm the message of self love
read books ,articles on self love- read as much as u can on this topic . it will help u understand urself and the concept of self love. learn all the tricks and apply it to ur life.
accept the way u look- this is a very imp step . accept the face u have. accept that u will look like this ur whole life, in a positive way. accept that so what, if u dont look like Angelina jolie or Amber heard . you look like you and that is more then enough.

note-this all will take time. you will not become okay with ur looks or begin the process of self love overnight. it is a slow process. a journey that will take time and effort but the destination is worth it . I wish you the best

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